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REGARDING BLACK MEN REFUSING TO DATE BLACK WOMEN…
The issue here is that all of these groups of men and their value of their women cannot be analyzed outside of the context of colonialism. They cannot be analyzed outside of the fact that the black woman, and man, are the most despised and degraded group of people on earth. Society doesn’t value the black woman and that resentment is taught to all of us, including black women, from birth.
Asian women are uplifted in society, “Hispanic” women (by which I assume they mean Latina/ indigenous women cuz if they’re talking about women actually from Spain then they’re talking about white women) are uplifted, white women are the archetype, the standard of beauty, of worth, of womanhood period while black women are the opposite of the white woman- the opposite of her beauty, her grace, her worth, her womanhood and are treated accordingly.
How many of those same white, asian and Hispanic women would happily marry (not just sleep with) a black man? Very, very few. I’m also confident that black women unwilling to be with black men vastly outnumbers other groups of women unwilling to be with men of their own nationality.
This certainly isn’t the fault of the black woman but neither is it the fault of the black man.
This is the result of a societal standard that the entire world’s population subscribes to by default until they make a conscious effort to overcome it (decolonizing the mind). Black people, historically and presently, are the most disempowered, reviled, disregarded, degraded and brutalized people on earth and because of that, we learn to resent each other as well. We develop an inability to even see the value in the life of a black person, much less see one as a viable romantic partner. This is the root of any black person refusing to deal with another black person romantically.
Once this system that makes white people the standard of humanity and everything that stems from it (beauty, intelligence, dignity, worth) is defeated, that’s when black people will be able to enjoy a dignity, respect and societal praise/ upliftment that we haven’t experienced for hundreds of years.
That’s when the worth of our people will be the standard n we’ll most certainly be dating each other lol.
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Showing up to my zoom calls like ♀️
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Accessories, especially earrings, have become a significant part of my wardrobe. Inside or not, I will be making a statement wherever I am with these cute earrings from @shopnovaluxe. They have all the statement pieces you need, so you can show up and show out! I’m wearing the Sunburst Spike Earrings. Use my code “NECE10” for 10% off of your order! Let’s slay together, friends!
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Had a great time in Nashville filled with love and laughter. What a great way to start the holidays! Catch this cute cardigan from @walmartfashion and the rest of my outfit details here! Or click the link in my bio for more.
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Stay tuned. I’ll be posting other great outfit pieces in my stories
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Self care means giving yourself permission to pause.
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If your body is telling you to slow down please do that. It’s ok to rest. I wanted to get up today and do a million things, but my body said how about no so I listened and decided to lounge around on this lovely Saturday!
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Whats your Saturday looking like? Let me know down below. I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend!
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Let’s talk lip care!✨
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What are your go to products when it comes to keeping your lips moisturized? The weather is changing and I don’t play about my lips at all lol. My go to products right now are @vaselinebrand and @fentybeauty lip gloss. Share what you’re using! I want some new faves. Help your girl out
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I was dealing with some deep disappointment earlier this week, you know it just be like that sometimes.
Often times people think so many things about how we should process disappointment or things not working out as expected. Sometimes it’s also centered in control or one’s right to choose and be heard that has us experiencing all the feelings that come with disappointment. I sat in my feelings I cried and then I smiled.
I have so much to be in deep gratitude to my journey as a mother, artist, woman and entrepreneur.
I have been working #bts and excited about where my current projects and art is taking me. This project I wrapped up not too long ago. I love how this #digitalillustration came together it’s the painterly details I love the most. BTW Black GIRL JOY is enough to make anyone smile ❤️ #blackgirlmagic #blackgirljoy #bostonartist #artistsoninstagram #digitalart #selfreflection #emotionalintelligence
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I’ve had such an insane couple of weeks with work. But it’s finally beginning to wind down. I’ve gotten all of my Christmas shopping done and now I think I’m going to get myself a few Christmas gifts where are you spending Christmas? .
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Cherish Smith, 7, giggles as her mother playfully showers her with a heap of leaves, Thursday, Oct. 20, 2016, in Chicago. Cherish and her mother, Zerlina, were gathered at Chicago Police headquarters for a memorial rally honoring the life of Laquan McDonald. McDonald, a 17-year-old, was shot and killed by a Chicago Police officer Oct. 20, 2014. “McDonald was one of a record-high 11 youths killed while in the Department of Children and Family Services’ care during a two year period,” the @chicagotribune reported last month. #fall #leaves #blackgirljoy #everydayblackamerica #chicago #laquanmcdonald #blackyouth (at Chicago Police Headquarters 35th and Michigan.)
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