People will say that they’re all about respecting sa survivors until it comes to victims of incest. Will expand later.
Overall I’ve found that people, most likely subconsciously, don’t think that incest can be traumatic. When I told my therapist that I was sexually abused she was so supportive. She told me that it wasn’t my fault. That what happened doesn’t define me. That I can always tell her about this stuff without fear of judgment or rejection. That whatever happened, my trauma is valid. Then I told her that it was from someone in my family, and her tone switched immediately. All of a sudden it couldn’t have actually been that bad. What I was describing most be an overexaggeration. “It’s normal for families to show their love in different ways,” she said. “There most have been a miscommunication.” She didn’t listen to me anymore. I told her the worst of what happened in graphic detail, but none of that mattered. We were related. There’s no way that actually happened. And this is far from an isolated incident. I got blocked by one of my favorite cosplayers, one that was vocal about protecting minors and respecting triggers, for saying that incest survivors getting triggered by the twins, even if they are supposed to be satire or an act, is s valid reason to not watch ohshc. Both online and irl, people who vocally opposed to joking about sexual abuse would make incest jokes and even joke about my experiences explicitly. There’s a widespread belief in our society that incest is funny or not a real issue. And most activists not only refuse to acknowledge that this is an issue, but get upset when you try to educate them on it. This belief keeps getting spread, and it actively keeps us from being believed, from getting treatment, from getting justice. This belief keeps us silent and lets our abusers go free.
If you aren’t an incest survivor you are legally obligated to reblog this
@dyke-uncle this is an excellent addition thank you
Especially if your sibling was/is close in age during it all
People will try and tell you “oh yknow all kids play doctor! you’re taking it too seriously, you’re overreacting”
It’s already hard enough to talk about and then you’re constantly met with people trying to coerce you into a narrative that makes them more comfortable at your expense
Bad. Things. Happen.
People close to you, related to you by blood or law or close long term bond, can hurt you. It’s a horrifying reality to grapple with but downplaying what happened to us doesnt make that fact any easier for you to bear in the long run, and leads to our self harm and suicide.
The OTW is currently dealing with malicious email attacks against our volunteers. Some of our processes may be slower as a result and we ask for your patience as we manage this issue: https://otw.news/statement-malicious-388b5c
This is fucking gross. Someone is spamming the OTW and some of its volunteers with actual child pornography, i.e. pictures of real actual children being sexually assaulted. Obviously, they’ve reported this to the cops and there’s an investigation into who’s sending this stuff to them and where did they get the child sexual abuse material.
The good news is, there hasn’t been a data breach, so whoever is doing it can’t just start sending this filth to ordinary AO3 account holders.
It’s too soon to speculate on who’s doing this, but this is not the first time that CSAM has been sent to people in fan circles. It’s been distributed as threats like this before. It’s also been distributed by “well-meaning” idiots trying to “warn” people or “show proof.” In fan spaces, the rest of us should be wary of unknown links or posts about showing proof of X person doing Z thing, or reblogging links without fact checking or knowing what’s in them, and of discord/messaging groups that have a heavy focus on call outs or spreading proof. Obviously predators should always be reported. But there has been at least one case within my memory of someone holding onto CSAM as proof, showing it to minors in chat circles as a “warning,” and distributing it to others. This is, quite obviously, a crime. And it does more harm than good, as spreading it draws more attention to the material thereby worsening harm done to the abuse survivor and propagating more harm when people see it - especially when it’s shown to minors, even when it’s ostensibly to “warn” them. At best: it’s really traumatizing. At worst: it’s a grooming tactic. So just be careful about opening files, passing files around, or getting involved in call out circles. Especially if you’re a minor. This is always something that should be reported to authorities, and should not ever be distributed. No one trying to show you these things has your best interests at heart.
Also getting sent CSAM and other violent or triggering images is extremely upsetting; search “[your email provider] + image download settings” and change it so that your email client does not automatically show/download images. Generally speaking, you should only be viewing images from known contacts. If you do need to view an image someone else sends you it’s very easy to select what to download.
There are a lot of people who don’t know that they can change how their email handles images, so make sure you know how to do it on your own email.
Also search “[your email provider] + how to inspect headers”. It is very easy to make it look like an email came from someone else on a surface level, but very difficult to fake seriously because SMTP requires a real sender - that doesn’t always mean you’re going to get the actual name of the sender, but if you see an email from yourfriend@ mymail.web and it seems fishy or has some really awful content, you can inspect the headers and look at the from: address and you may see trollfarm@ bullshit.net is spoofing your friend.
Anyway, this is awful. Take care of yourselves and maybe take some time to learn about the settings for your email client. (And again, no shame, no blame for people getting these emails. People generally don’t have to think about this shit and it’s terrible that they have to right now)
A lot of people in the notes to that post (about breaking the seal of confession) are saying it’s fake (entirely possible), but to the ones saying it the grounds that priests are absolutely, categorically forbidden to break the seal of confession I’d like to remind them that there’s an ongoing scandal in the Catholic Church of child sex abuse by priests which is also absolutely, categorically forbidden.
i think a lot about the fact that there were multiple people that sexually abused me on various occasions and it kinda bothers me that it wasn’t even just one person it was multiple…
An unknown attacker has been sending our volunteers threatening emails with illegal child sexual abuse material (CSAM), which has been reported to several law enforcement authorities.
In case you can’t parse this, this means that someone (or multiple someones) has been sending CSAM (as in, involving real live children. actual children) to the volunteers at OTW.
