#dating

Chris Evans brought his GIRLFRIEND, to his sister’s (Carly Evans) Birthday party! and Carly called her “Chris and his ‘special someone’”.

Minka Kelly has met his entire family already & she comes to family activities in Boston (where Chris lives.)

You’re welcome.

*Do you think it’ll lasts?* I personally think he deserves better, no offense to her, she just seems….hmmm..boring & fake :)

triviallytrue:

triviallytrue:

was very close to writing a longish post on how dating norms could be improved before i realized it could be summarized by “dating norms need to get autisticer”

honestly drawing a blank here

I am a kind, responsible, intelligent, honest, pretty, well-educated person. I am very energetic, so, it helps me to keep fit and slender. I am a merry and happy person. I think that my main character traits are that I always get a hold of myself and am ready-witted in any situation. Maybe that is why I am a very brave and sociable woman!)

Looking for… I would like my man be a real man, that can treat a woman like a lady. I would like him to be a kind, clever, real gentleman, nice to speak to, understanding and wise, with a sense of humor and easy going.

Nickname:
Site:fiance
Age: 21
Sex: f
Height: 67 in
Weight: 132 lbs
Hair color: Gray
Eye color: Green
Nationality: Ukrainian
City: Nikolaev
Country: Ukraine
Education: Secondary
Occupation: Merchandising
Religion: Christian
Smoking: No
Drinking: Socially

Interests
In my spare time I like to read books, relax. I have been weaving of beads, it is very interesting. Also walk in the fresh air, sports, friends.

Looking For
Age: 25 to 45

(I tried to put the word “politely” in italics but it wouldn’t let me. Damn title games here on Tumblr I guess.)

(Also, I should probably never start a blog with brackets, eh?)

I’m a real weirdo, you know that right? All this dating, and I’m actually happier on my own. It’s hard to explain that to someone. Imagine being the girl who gets up after sex and leaves. (Not that I’ve had sex lately. I have a powerful ingrown hair right now that’s taken over my underwear region. I’ve named him “Kuato.”) Anyways, what happens when people learn all about your grossness, and still want to be with you? And then you need to drop the biggest bomb of all.

I don’t want a relationship.

It’s easy to assume that every woman is in search of “the one.” I am a new form of weirdo who enjoys my life alone. I’m in the comfort zone with myself. I am not in search of my soulmate. But I am in search of the perfect baked wing. (I need to cut back on my deep fried foods.)

I live by myself, and I facking love it. If you’ve never lived alone, you gotta try it. I’m allowed to live however I want. It’s amazing. I recently pushed all my couches back against my walls and permanently have my yoga mat in front of my TV so I can meditate to Rogers Galaxy Radio. (The adult pop channel, obvi.) I keep garbage in the fridge so it doesn’t stink up my apartment prior to garbage day. I have framed posters of both Kesha and Taylor Swift on my walls. I think I’m up to 67 Eco-bags, all of which are randomly hanging on every doorknob in my apartment. My vacuum is barely bigger than my vibrator. I flush my toilet once every three times I use it. Who wants me now?

I’ve had a few very special, awesome relationships in my life. How those guys ever put up with me is a wonder. (I do keep a good supply of beer in the fridge.) But at this point in my life, where my #1 goal is working on my career in comedy and writing, I can’t rock the boat with the distraction of love. It’s why I chose Tinder over EHarmony.

I remember seeing India Arie in concert Riverside, California in 2006. In between Heart of the MatterandWings of Forgiveness, she said, “Love is the blessing. But relationships are the work.” (And then tears were shed by me and hundreds of black women.) I tend to agree with India. Even when I’m in a super healthy relationship, I always worry about things that I shouldn’t. I can’t help it. With infidelity all around you, it’s mystical sometimes to believe that you’ve somehow dodged it. Being single, I’m totally carefree. It’s liberating. So when I enter into a relationship, I have to like that person more than I like being single. Which is a LOT. Plain and simple. If I see any signs of needy behaviour from someone, I run faster than any trainer could ever encourage. If I make out with you, instead of texting me and immediately wanting to know,

“Where this is going?”

I would rather a text like,

“Hey, just passed a guy with a solid jew fro and it reminded me of your bing bang.”

K, I’m obviously not speaking for all women here, but that’s what I would rather.

And just because we’re “single” doesn’t mean we’re “alone.” Far from it. These days, it’s almost impossible to feel alone. Even if you’re at home by yourself, is it possible to actually feel “lonely?” You got Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tinder, Snapchat, Netflix… wow. There’s a lot to do when you’re “alone.” If you’re like me, you’ll “take the phone off the hook and disappear for a while.”* If I have a moment where I truly feel alone, I love it. I do meditate for real. You probably don’t expect that from a girl who drinks four days a week. (K, sometimes five.) But I need it. It’s so peaceful. (Until somebody blares the car horn out your window. Also, it’s a good reminder I need to clean underneath my couches more often.)

So this is the creepy little life I’ve made for myself. Though it’s far from perfect, I love it. I have a shitload of great friends who never make me “alone.” And yes, I may go out with you, bond about life, kiss you… but at the end of the day… I gotta be on my own. It’s a dorky term, and I would like to come up with a new one, but I guess I really am a “free spirit.”

Clooney’s out. I’m still in.

xoxo, (but NO commitment please)

walkinsauce 

*That’s a line from my favourite Billy Joel song, Vienna! Hence why the phone reference is a little dated. As an update, I recommend just putting your phone on airplane mode. That way you can still listen to your Billy Joel collection.

Okay, I know I was Slacker Magoo last week, and I apologize for that. I’d love to tell you I was SO busy with JFL42 that I didn’t have ANY time to write a blog, but I’ll be honest- I had time. I just used it for watching The Good Wife on Netflix, and introducing my friend Laura to Sex and the City. (Can you believe she’s 30 and has NEVER seen an episode? That’s NOT right. Somebody had to do something.) 

But this week I’m back, in full affect/effect. You pick.  Where we last left off, I was making out with a dude that is fresh off the relationship boat. And as you can imagine, he’s currently re-learning how to date. Obvi, I want to do the best I can to help him, as well as anyone else who’s going through the same thing. I know a break-up with someone after ten years can seem tragic at first, but you really need to be open minded about the giant space of life that sits between the present and death. (Sorry I brought up death.) I’ve already defied a Ouija board from 1993 by not getting married at 23, like it told me I would. (To somebody whose name starts with an “R,” apparently. I’m pretty sure it was just my friends pushing the Ouija board towards the R because I had a crush on a guy named Randy. Very kind of them, but it gave me false hope for years. Thanks a lot, “friends.”)

So here I am, texting with this 39-year-old man who never expected to be single again. In a weird way, it’s telling a lot about his previous relationship. It’s also awkward for me, because he keeps trying to call me, and I don’t like to talk on the phone. He needs to know people don’t talk on the phone anymore. We’re all texts. I’m sorry, but 78% of my day I’m around people. I refuse to talk on the phone in front of friends. Or people in general. I don’t even like to pick up the phone at Starbucks. I feel bad for those people too. (Not that texting is any more polite, but I burp in public. Manners aren’t my forte. I’m trying, people.) I’ll text you the second I decline your call though. That’s nice, right?

His first confession is the funniest.

“I have a confession to make. I looked you up on the Internet. I tried to resist… i kinda feel dirty that i looked u up… feels strange… it’s like oh hey guys here’s the girl I met last night….”

I really like his use of the dot dot dots… It’s the preferred form of most of my tweets.

“Haha! That’s totally normal, dude. Don’t feel creepy. Everybody does that in 2014, even if they don’t admit it. Even people interested in somebody who’s not in the entertainment business. I was serving these two ladies the other day and I heard one say to the other, “You have to look him up on LinkedIn. He’s the real deal.”

Then I profusely apologized for never updating my YouTube page. I just get scared to go on there, cuz that’s where the real Internet haters live. Blog World seems a little safer, cuz you have read thousands of words to quote something you hate. I don’t think those “commenters” have the patience or brain power for that. (But really, I should update my YouTube page.)

So once we get over this hump that it’s okay to Google someone after you meet them, (and I am quite Googleable. To a fault. He probably thinks he will never see my tits and/or bush.*)

Now there’s my next order of business. He keeps calling me “baby.” I know he’s not trying to offend me, but this feels weird to me. I don’t mean to channel that Madison Avenue one hit wonder, “Don’t Call Me Baby.” (Remember that jam? It’s on Platinum Hits 2000.) I hope he’s not trying to possess me already. We’ve only just met. I think maybe he’s just on auto-pilot from his last relationship. My instincts tell me that he probably always called his ex “baby,” and now he’s accidentally calling me the same thing. Well, this gets a full blown “TOO SOON.” I don’t feel comfortable being called “Baby.” I’m not Francis Houseman.

I totally understand the roll over habits from your last relationship. I have a confession make. I have given not one, but TWO ex-boyfriends the nick name “Cute & Dreamy.” I’m not proud of this, but to be fair, they were BOTH very cute and very dreamy. I clearly remember the second boyfriend calling it out, too. He asked if I used this name for another boyfriend, and I denied it at the time. Alas, he was right. I recycled this exact nickname. I’M SORRY! (But to be fair, I’m probably the only person in the world to call a man this. It should be tolerable to use it twice if such a gentleman is willing to respond to it.)

“Baby” is starting to look pretty good, eh?

And now on to my third, and final order of business, into the man fresh off the boat. And this one honestly made me laugh my head off. He wished me good luck for a show, then I wrote back,

“Thanks!” With this emoji….

(It’s my favourite emoji. I don’t know why, but I use it all the time.)

Then he wrote back,

“Hmmmm… which face is that one? I don’t have that one on my phone.”

Also, at this point my phone was on the charger in my room, and I was on my old man Lazy-Boy recliner writing. Let it be known, that when I write, my phone MUST be far away from me, as I’m easily distracted. (Which I’m sure you might guess.) When I regroup with my phone, I see he’s called multiple times. Ugh. I already told him, I don’t talk on the phone. He calls again. I pick up. (I had to. The only thing I do less than answer a phone call, is check my voicemail.) 

Upon answering the phone call, I discover that he thought I was madat him. I asked him,

“Why would I be mad at you?”

“Well, I didn’t know what the girl with the hands crossed across her face meant. I thought maybe you were mad at me, and you didn’t return my text, so I got scared and called.”

Oh for FACKS sake! You wishing me good luck on a show doesn’t warrant anger. And just cuz I don’t text you right back doesn’t mean I don’t like you, it just means I’m busy. Do you think this means he’s coming out of a volatile relationship where he was always getting in trouble? (Though to be fair, I have no idea what this Emoji is really supposed to mean either. I just thought she’s a bad dancer, like me.) Cell phones and social media have made us all too available to each other. But there are times in the day where we all put it away, right? Like at work, the gym, the bathroom…? (Okay, maybe not the bathroom. But do you really want me to respond from a toilet anyway? This is how poop related Snapchats happen.) Let’s not freak out when someone doesn’t have time to text you every five seconds.

I got some messages from dude readers a few weeks ago, when I posted my last blog. They all really liked what this guy said about coming out of a ten year relationship. It’s the reason I chose to write about theses quirky interactions this week. Clearly I’m a pro at being single. I wanna help. So this is just a friendly reminder, when you meet someone new, start fresh. Don’t bring your paranoia and insecurities from your last relationship. I’m not trying to mean. Just honest. Relax. Be yourself, even if it’s a 35 year-old girl who finally had to turn an ingrown hair over to her doctor. (K, now I’m talking about me, obvi.) Just saying, there’s nothing more embarrassing about your life, that I can’t match with mine.

These are just a few, very specific tips to the newly single I wanted to share with you. Please don’t call me Baby. (Kreesha Turner also has a song called that, in case you’d rather the CanCon version. Clearly I’m not alone here.) Also, I’m sorry if my Emoji’s confuse you. We can get through this together. And finally, I’m sorry if I don’t write back fast enough. I’m alive, and well. In fact, if you’re lucky, I might just be in the shower…

Using my fingers for things other than rings,

walkinsauce:)

*Did ya get that reference? If you didn’t, you gotta Google me.

P.S. I do look mad, don’t I? 

Throughout my bagillion Tinder dates, one thing was for sure- my married friends were super jealous. No, they don’t want to cheat on their loved ones, but they definitely lived vicariously through me. And it’s a shame- just because you’re married/in a relationship, doesn’t mean you should miss out on meeting weirdos from the Internet.

So when two married dudes who are buddies with my comedian friend Johnny Gardhouse decided to start a website for people to meet new people- in a non-kinky way, I was intrigued. After all, I didn’t put out on most of those Tinder dates anyway. I might as well try “friend dating” so nobody expects a beej at the end of the night. Even some of the guys I met on Tinder expressed a need to meet new platonic friends. A lot of their friends are married with kids now, and can’t just fly out the door to meet for a beer. Going out requires a good week’s notice and a babysitter recommendation. One guy just moved to town, and doesn’t feel comfortable getting hammered in front of his co-workers yet. But where do you go on the internet to just find something platonic? Facebook is good for keeping in touch with friends you already have, online dating sites are great for the single people, so these guys created a website for when you just want to do something with someone. Not kinky. It’s called FriendshipDNA.com. And while the letters “DNA” remind me of C.S.I. Miami, I was still super curious who I was going to meet on the site.

When you start an account, you do a personality test. (Don’t worry. I passed.) (Is that someone’s old hacky joke? I apologize if it is.) I filled out tons of questions about myself, something I haven’t done since Cosmo quizzes as a teenager. Here’s my personality report, y’all:

Personality Type: Diplomat

Friendship Type: Trusted Star

Communication Type: Peacemaker

Values & Attitudes Type: People Pleaser

(All of these titles obviously have full descriptions on the site, but I don’t want to babble anymore than I already do. I got a twist ending to this blog, and I can’t wait to get there.)

So I finally score a friend date with a girl I’m a 90% match with. I’m assuming the 10% we’re missing is the part where I think it’s socially acceptable to talk about diarrhea and in-grown hairs on your bing bang in public. She invites me to come drink with her and her softball team after their game Monday night. (Hence why I’m posting on Wednesday, and not Tuesday. Monday night is usually writing night, obvi:) I’m excited she didn’t ask me to play baseball, though. I was one of those kids who always played the outfield and prayed to God the ball never came my way.

I’m excited for my friend date, even though it’s at The Badger and Firkin in Etobicoke. There’s so many wordy street names out there. I keep stuttering every time I try to say “Burnhamthorpe.” I will pass approximately seven other Firkins, on the way to this Firkin, but at least my new friend has confirmed it’s totally cool to show up looking like shit. I’m still wearing yesterday’s make-up from the Canadian Comedy Awards. I’m in yoga pants, t-shirt, messy bun- wait! I look like that facking picture up there! That’s why I posted it, obvi. Ooopsies. I forgot. (I also don’t know why I posed in front of Pottery Barn Kids. I have no business there.)

I walk into the Badger, making sure to observe all the specials on the chalkboard so I don’t have to ask my server to repeat them. I make my way through the bar, where I see a long table full of chicks, and two dudes. One of the chicks pipes up,

“Hey, are you looking for Kelly?”

Phew! Yes I am! They invite me to sit down, since she’s not there yet. The girl across from me recognizes me. Her and her boyfriend saw me do comedy on their first date. Cute! My date arrives, and I give her a hug. The table has already ordered two plates of nachos. It’s like they knew I was coming.

My date is tall, blonde, super cool- guys, you should be jealous. I might be better at meeting women than some dudes. The table is a combo of single, married and in relationship peeps. Some people meet “the one” through a mutual friend, so meeting new people can still be a gateway to some sex, right? I learn a lot at the table. Like how you can also meet a lot of weirdos on Kijiji, and Michael Strahan is single now. (How did I not know this? I LOVE Michael Strahan! Do you know how much old lady TV I watch in the morning? He’s so charming.) We all share snacks, drink beer and bond about life in general. It doesn’t feel weird at all. Plus, it was nice knowing I didn’t have to shave my legs (or anything) for this night out.

It finally comes time for me to break my seal. I walk around to the washrooms, and suddenly my single girl, hot guy radar turns on. There are two BABES sitting at the bar. I can’t help but over hear their conversation.

“Is it too soon for a mid-life crisis?”

Oh man. Do I want to eavesdrop the shit out of this convo. Why are there always hotties out on the nights I leave the house looking like ass? And on a Monday night too. Who expects anything to happen on a Monday?

I walk back to my table and tell the girls about the babes at the bar. My date is married, but she’s more than happy to move to the bar and play wingman for me. AMAZING! Now if only she could beam me to a shower and back. We walk up to the bar, and stand awkwardly, checking out the dudes. Finally, they sense our creepy eyes on them, and invite us to sit down. (Well, that was easy.)

We explain to the boys that we’re on a friend date right now. Our first date. They think it’s cute. I ask them what brings them to the bar on a Monday night.

“Life.”

Good answer. I begin to bond with Babe #1. He’s just got out of a TEN YEAR RELATIONSHIP. HOLY FACK! That’s longer than all my relationships combined. I can’t even begin to understand what he feels like. Here’s what he says:

“Well, you’re 1/3 sad… you’re 1/3 mad… and 1/3 excited.”

Well put. It’s not long before my friend date notices my new real date. She confirms he IS a babe, and even the bartender gives me her stamp of approval, saying he’s a nice guy. So far, the only thing I can find wrong with him is that he hasn’t seen Annie Hall. (But I haven’t seen Star Wars, so he’s found something equally wrong with me.) My friend date tells me I should definitely stay and hang out with him. I totally want to, obvi. What a good wingman/wingwoman. (Whatever you call it.) 

So now my friend date has morphed into a romantic date. A date that ended with a giant make out session, AND we’re going out again. Half my Tinder dates didn’t even end like this. Isn’t that interesting? I usually never go out on Mondays. You know I NEVER go to Etobicoke. And thanks to my new friend, I got thrown into another universe for the night. A little twist of fate. And as you know by my love for the movie Serendipity, I’m a BIG fan of fate. So maybe the only thing we really need, is a website that simply gets us out of the house.

Using my fingers for things other than rings,

(Well, maybe I won’t need my fingers if this guy works out. I’ll keep you posted.)

Walkinsauce

I had three chances to get laid last week, and I’ll be honest- I really wanted to. I can tell, because I have three types of shower gel in my shower. One that smells like a Laura Ashley dress converted to an aroma, (good to use before a trip to Grandma’s house,) one that I only use because I got it for free, so there’s no sense in buying more soap until it’s gone, and one that smells like Raspberry AND Vanilla combined! It’s so delish. I know I want to get laid when I hop in to the shower and use that one. (Or if I hop in the shower at all.)

Obviously last week was a super bust. I think my bing bang started to build a fence around itself after that date. And I did meet up with an ex-Tinder a few days ago- I won’t tell you which one, but I can confirm he still looks like Steve Burton from General Hospital. But we’re definitely just buddies. It’s not kinky. However, I also had a date with an old friend of mine, whom I haven’t seen in ages. I’m not really sure if it was technically a date, but we definitely locked down plans to grab drinks together. I was really looking forward to it. We actually slept together a long time ago, so in the back of my mind I thought, “well… we’re both currently single… so it could happen again…” Plus, the bonus of sleeping with someone you’ve already slept with is that your numbers don’t go up. It’s a repeat offense. Deluxe. 

The “date” occurred as most Toronto “dates” do. Two people walking through the city, one pushing his/her bike, while the other person reminisces about the bike they recently had stolen. We stop at a few Bloordale bars. (Bloordale- The new Queen West.) The catch up session is going good. We discuss being single, give each other advice on what would improve our “singlehood,” all the while dropping signals that we don’t mean with each other, obvi.

We take a seat at Northwood, one of my favourite spots in the hood. Sometimes I even write there, cuz the table in the back left corner has an outlet under it. The beers are good and hoppy. My favourite kind. My “date” is flirting with the bartender, which is fine, cuz technically, this is not a date. She drops the “B” bomb, subtly bringing up the fact that she is happily taken. He still gives her his card.

Now that I am for sure friend-zoned, I’m happy to get on with normal, platonic friend bonding stuff. I begin to babble, about my horny, yet epic fail of a week. 

“I’m telling you, there’s a certain time of the month that women are horny. We can’t control it. It’s not the time of the month we’re best known for, but I’m pretty sure it’s the same time of the month chicks trying to get pregnant are really givin ‘er, ya know? It’s those middle days, right in the middle of your cycle. One week you’re fine, going to bed with Netflix as usual, the next, you wonder if it’s possible to sit on a doorknob. It’s so weird.”

And that’s when he said that one sentence that no girl wants to hear…

“That’s cuz you’re a whore.”

It hits me like a stun gun. The word paralyzes me… I guess I get it… I get why you might call me that. I don’t always make perfect choices in my personal life. I’ve been on over 50 Tinder dates in the last year and I obviously didn’t shy away from telling everyone. And I know I have a perverted sense of humour, that maybe invites people to think I can handle being called this word, but I can’t…

I have no idea how to respond to this statement… (Accusation?) I figure I have three options:

1. Laugh it off. Maybe use proper Improv skills by “yes, and…” -ing him. “Yah, and keep your eyes open for my new show Whoreders!”
2. Get super defensive.
3. Never hang out with someone who calls me this again.

But if you’ve ever seen me do improv, you know I can actually stutter in the moment. I’m not always sure I’m saying the right thing. So in my most earnest Elle Woods voice, I respond with,

“Umm… I don’t really think I am. I know I went out with a billion guys last year, but I barely slept with any of them, and the dudes I slept with are actually awesome. I’m quite proud of them… And just because I talk about sex openly, possibly all the time, possibly too much, doesn’t make me a whore… at least I think…”

“I was just kidding!”

Oh… that was just a joke… of course. I’m just a comedian, who’s used to being surrounded by people who write such brilliant stuff, I’m hysterically laughing. Now you come along, impairing me with this vision that people see me as a disposable vessel for a man’s penis. But to you, that’s a joke…

I don’t really know why the word Whore hurts so much, but it just does. Theres other words like it, but they don’t bother me. My friends and I growing up used to call each other sluts all the time. We were all hard-core virgins at the time, so it didn’t really make any sense. Just the thought of sex made us giggle to death. My friend Tania even remodeled a Barbie and named her “Slut It Up” Barbie. Then she gave it to my cousin for Christmas. We laughed our asses off, plus we finally found a good reason to tease Barbie’s hair. Then you got skank, hussy, ho, cum guzzler…  I hate to say it, but I can handle those ones. If I had my choice of sexually active female catcalls, I’d personally go with “Floozy.” I like that one. Kind of sounds cute, like I didn’t mean to do it. Even “Hoochy Mama” has its catchiness. (Thank you, Seinfeld.)

ButWhore? I can’t… Sorry. That’s just me.

I googled “Whore,” just to be sure “Woman who loves Taylor Swift, fancy cheese, and only makes minimum payments on credit card bills, who would ideally like to have sex at least once a month” didn’t pop up. (Cuz then I’d be in trouble.) But this is what popped up:

Whore

/ho^r/     

(K, that little accent circonflexe thingy is supposed to go on top of  the “o”                     but I can’t figure out how to get it there with my keyboard.)

nounderogatory

1. a prostitute.                                  

synonyms: work as a prostitute, sell one’s body, sell oneself, on the streets

I don’t wanna burst his bubble, but I’ve never even sold jewelry on the streets. Great. Now we have women who don’t know the definition of “feminist,” we have men who don’t know the definition of “whore.” How are we ever going to perfect our compliments/insults if we can’t grasp simple English? No wonder everybody at work looks confused when I call them, “Dildos.” (I’m calling you PLEASURE PIECES, MY LOVES!)

Don’t worry. I didn’t start crying and run out of the bar. (I had a full beer.) We continued onwards with the night, but when we ran into my date’s friends, I decide to make my exit. I make an excuse that I can’t drink more because I have to bike home. (A bike can be your best wingman. Plus he’s super fun to ride at the end of the night.)

When I arrive home, he texts me his address. He wants me to come over for “fun times.”

I politely decline.

Because I’d hate for someone to call me a whore. 

Something weird happened. I got asked out- in real life. A dude walked up to me (well, he was serving me, so it was sort of his job) and asked for my number. I was so thrown off. No swiping right or left, no texting to give me time to think of something witty to write back… It was just me, sitting, looking at my friend Amanda with total confusion.

“Uhhhhhh, what?”

But since I’m like Carla from The Chew, a big believer in the “Power of Yes,” I said,

“Sure. Why not?”

Cuz why not? This guy is cute, Australian, and works in the service industry, so he’s probably a power drinker. Plus, I haven’t got laid in forever. I need to start checking out some options.

I don’t know how I got a dude I barely know to take me to the CNE (The EX- whatever you like to call it.) That’s a pretty lengthy first date, but I figure if he thinks I suck, or I think he sucks, at least we have all the carnies to keep us entertained. As it turns out, we’re neighbours, so we meet on the corner by my house to start off the date. (Neighbours- even more booty call potential. Woot Woot!)

We decide to stop at Paupers on the way to the Bathurst Streetcar. As we walk up the three staircases to the rooftop patio, he pokes his finger into my right butt cheek. It’s a little early for touching my bum, but he’s Australian- they’re fast movers. Maybe they want to get the most out of their visas. The accent works as a chick magnet. Not on ME, of course. I need to be impressed by what you say, not how it sounds. (Just kidding. I lost my virginity to an accent. They facking work, eh?)

The bar is rammed, and I can tell the bartender is in the weeds. We sit at a bar. He orders a Creemore. I order a cider. My date pipes up at my drink choice.

“Cider makes your vagina stink.”

Wow. This just in, folks. Cider makes your bing bang smell? And while I can’t trust that this man is the king of facts, nothing’s gonna resonate in my brain more EVERY TIME I order a cider, than what this man just said. And I really like cider in the summer. I wonder if you can cut the stinkiness in half by ordering a Black Velvet?

“You know what- I’ll have a Creemore instead.”

Alright. He wins this round. Maybe later I can convince him cotton candy makes your ding dong shrink.

My date quickly proves he is not shy, nor hiding anything.

“I’ve slept with 50 girls in the last year.”

Wow. And didn’t blog about it? What a waste…

“I’ve slept with 200 since I’ve been in Canada.”

Holy FACK! It’s just an accent. How is this guy scoring with so many chicks? And do I really want to be #201? Do I dare ask how many chicks he’s been with in total? Yikes. I know numbers shouldn’t matter if you really like someone, but I just got tested for everything under the sun. I have my test results posted on my fridge like a perfect report card. Are there extra-strength condoms, for a dude like this?

He burps. I don’t react. Can I? I’m a burper too. Not that I’m ready to bust out mine yet. We’re still on the first drink. His burps are more that low tone, bubbly, Grandpa kind. Mine are more like an Opera singer, coming straight from the diaphragm. Still, I feel like this burp (and the others he will continuously do all day) is the universe’s way of showing me what I look like… Yikes. Sorry, y'all.

We head over to the streetcar. As we head down Bathurst, on our baller transportation, he hollers at people on the street. Dear lord. We’re the ones on the TTC. I wouldn’t get too cocky…

At the gate to enter the EX, he by passes the ticket sales.

“Dude, we have to get a ticket first.”

“No, follow me.“ 

He pulls me over to the entrance, where he tries to convince the employee that we’re part of some VIP function inside. Right, cuz VIP’s are taking day trips to ride the Zipper. I stand there, embarrassed, and give the employee an apologetic look. When we get denied the free entrance he was hoping for, we walk over to the booth and buy tickets. We then enter the fairgrounds, with our heads lowered in shame. (Well, mine at least.)

We hit the food building first. Time to eat like a carny. My fave. In the building he starts walking up to random people, trying to steal food right off their plates. Some people think he’s charming, and allow him. Others are disgusted, and bark at him,

“EXCUSE ME!”

This is getting embarrassing. And on top of his fry stealing, he also motioned for a guy to throw his football at him. When the guy finally decides to throw it, my date ducks, to purposely miss catching it, landing the football dangerously close to a woman holding her baby. My jaw drops in shock. What a facking idiot! This was the point of the date where I ran to the bathroom and tweeted,

“Can I go back to Tinder now?”

My date can sense my irritation. Finally.

“I’m annoying you, aren’t I?”

“Umm… this is your date too. You get to act however you like…”

God damnit! Why do I have to be so nice all the time!? Why can’t I just lose my shit and say, 

“WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?” *

Oh ya… cuz I’m a total weeny…

“I just thought because you’re a comedian, you’d like that I was being funny.”

Oh for facks sake. First of all, this is NOT funny to me. I didn’t expect my date to turn into an impromptu episode of Punk’d… And just because I’m a comedian doesn’t mean I want to turn every moment of my life into a joke.

“Umm… I am a comedian, but I’m not one of those comedians who’s “on” all the time.  Sometimes, I’m just a normal chick… trying to enjoy a normal date…”

Now it’s awkward. I haven’t laughed at any of his “material.” He’s now well aware he’s bombing.

When we finish eating, we head out into the rows of carny games. He stops me at the basketball game, advertising, “ONE IN WINS.” He gives the carny five bucks.

“You have three shots. If you miss all three, you have to kiss me.”

FACK! This might be romantic, straight out of a Kate Hudson movie, and possibly even charming if I wasn’t so turned off at this point. But I agree to the bet, because I feel like a mom who’s just cursed at her kid. Now I feel bad, and want to be nice again. And I gotta say, I really focused on making those shots. Like NBA playoff game free throws. Even my date could tell.

“Wow. You really don’t want this kiss, do you?”

Haha! Well, he finally made me laugh. But you know how these carny games are rigged so you lose. Every shot bounced off the rim. I was soooooo close, despite how gimped I probably look in this picture. (Can somebody give me tips on my form?)

Alas, I lose. Facking carny games. He kisses me, with some real effort to impress. He’s trying to be passionate, which is not easy when you’re surrounded by whiffle balls and plastic ducks. The kiss actually makes me feel like I’M out of practice. I don’t think I’m opening my mouth enough for him… But then I think about how much cider I’ve drank this week, aaaaaaand… the moments done. Over. I’m out. I just can’t.  

It’s interesting. Most dates I walk into thinking,

I’m NOT going to sleep with him!

I’m NOT going to sleep with him!

I’m NOT going to sleep with him!

This date was the opposite. I’m kind of horny, haven’t got laid since August 2^nd, (now you know what I did on my blogging hiatus) and could really use some action. But not this action. Not #201. That’s the tricky part about being a girl. It’s so easy to get sex, but it’s so hard to get the sex you want… 

Part of me thinks he was just trying TOO hard to make me laugh, because I’m comedian. Another part of me fears that’s really how he acts all the time…

I would have added him on Facebook, but like most players, he’s not on Facebook. They don’t like being tracked, eh?

So here I am again…

Using my fingers for things other than rings,

(Maybe that will work after all…)

Walkinsauce 

*Notice I used the real F word there. Not FACK! That’s me getting ballsy, yo.

P.S. This picture is better, but only cuz I cropped my ass out.  

Holy fack! I’m blogging again! This is so nerve racking. I feel like this is season two, and the pressure is on. Maybe this season won’t be as powerful as the first. A lot of you wrote to me saying, “Go for 100 Tinder dates!” I could have. I haven’t deleted Tinder or anything. But I need to expand my horizons. You can date anywhere you go in life, through all sorts of outlets. You could go up to a hot guy in Wal-Mart and offer to buy him a can of tuna. (If you can find a hot guy in Wal-Mart.) The sky’s the limit. Of course, my whole point of My Week on Tinder was to prove how fun being single is. And I don’t know if I proved it to you, but I definitely proved it to myself. I’ve never had so much fun in my life.

Oh, I facking LOVE everybody who told me to keep writing. It’s why I’m here right now. As we know, I’m a tragically lazy person. Blogging is the only thing I committed to last year. I know I need to keep writing, no matter how strong my fear of public grammar errors is. So I thought about what I wanted to make my next blog. My first choice was to stop showering and shaving and start a modern day cavewoman’s blog. But that seemed a little too close to my real life, so I didn’t see the niche. I thought about trying a dating blog based on Christian Mingle, but I just discovered 3:16 is not Pi. (Pi is actually 3.14159265359- the exact number I say when people ask me how many people I’ve slept with.)

But then I thought of an idea I had months ago, when I had interest from a producer who wanted to develop my blog into a reality show. He asked me what I wanted to call my show. I thought about it, and the title that best represents my life, is “Resisting Marriage.” I was swiftly shot down.

 “You can’t use the word “marriage” in the title. Young people won’t watch it.”

Hmmmmm… I said “resisting marriage.” I didn’t say “FACK yeah Marriage rules!” The word “resist” was in my title. Heaven forbid we send a message to young people to NOT rush into marriage. That it’s okay to be unmarried at 30. Let’s keep letting them believe they should be married by 25! Beat the rush! Do it at 23! Be the first! Right out of high school! You’re the winner! (And divorced by my age.) I see marriage like sky diving. If I do it, I’m only doing it once. (And it may kill me.) It’s a social convention that was invented when people only lived to be 27. Now that we’re all gonna (hopefully) live to 100, don’t you think we should take our time with this? Maybe wait a while? Make sure we’re done sowing our wild oats? Find someone who just gets that you’ll never fill the Brita? And more importantly, be okay if we find him a little later in life? I’m in my 30’s, and I’m just startingto get really good at being single. I want to ride this out for a while. I get it. Marriage is a tradition. But the only tradition I’m still truly behind is retirement.

Oh, this is where I cover my ass and say, “Oh, but I do know super perfect couples, still in love! It can happen!” That’s true too. Everybody’s different. But on the wake of a Beyonce/Jay-Z break-up, we also have to realize break-ups can happen to anybody… My friend Kathleen McGee has a hilarious joke about married people. Or maybe the joke is about blowjobs. Let’s just print it and see:

“I always hear married women complain about giving blowjobs… I actually like giving blow jobs. Tell you what… I’ll blow your husband, you go to Costco. Everybody’s happy.”

(-@Kathleen_McGee on Twitter)

No matter what your reaction to this joke is, I watched it KILL in Vancouver last week. When the crowd laughed as hard as they did, I knew there was a real truth to this. Yikes. I don’t think I’m ready to replace my sex life with twelve boxes of Q-Tips. I’m actually hoping for more .5’s in this blog. I’m getting closer to my sexual peak, and I only like using vibrators on the outside, if you get my drift. (I save the inside for boys.)

So, this is my new blog. Resisting Marriage. I’m gonna live my single life, date, pursue my dreams, and pray for no typos. I have a weird theory that the reason I don’t desire the whole wedding day thing, is because I’m a stand up comic. I already get enough time in the spotlight. I don’t need that one “big day” where all my friends watch me walk down the aisle in a big white dress. Plus weddings take a LOT of organization AND money. Two things I don’t have. Personally, I think I can skip that whole industry. (Some people argue that I won’t organize it- my maid of honour will. Making my BEST FRIEND do all that work does NOT make me feel better. I’d actually feel guilty. Plus, I don’t even like cake.)

I trust you know I’m organically happy sleeping alone every night. I almost cherish it. (I’ve slept with a lot of people who snore.) We’ll see what happens. I had no idea what I was doing when I started my last blog, and I have no idea what I’m doing now… That’s the fun thing about a blog. Nobody telling you what to say, or what to do. This is really me. Even if I’m a total facking idiot.

But here’s where I remind you of what an idealist I am…

I honestly believe that if we grow up a little slower, “put a ring on it” a little later, we can abolish cheating. Everybody hates cheaters. Nobody means to cheat. But it’s happening- and to good people. You hear it all the time:

“Don’t hate the player. Hate the game.”

How about this:

Let’schangethe game.

Let’s say you can’t buy Boardwalk until after you’ve been around the board at least a dozen times. Let’s allow people to land on our property a bunch of times, before we build hotels, and take all their money. (Is this analogy even close to making sense?) The game is long. No point in peaking too early. (I don’t think I’ve ever figured out how to end a game of Monopoly.)

So welcome to my new blog. Where I will (hopefully) prove to you a marriage free life can be fun. I want to be a landing pad for the newly single. (Which I think I already am.) Breakups are disturbing. Being single is awesome. You just have to remember to breathe through the transition… 

Remember to love life, as much as you love a significant other.

(Or, I end up hopelessly in love and married a year from now, and we all look back on this blog and laugh at me.)

Keep Calm, and – Wait, that’s facking done. How do I sign off with this blog?

Using my fingers for things other than rings,

 Walkinsauce

(K, I’m gonna work on that. I can do better.)

P.S. I have THREE dates this week. Get ready.