My gorgeous boyfriend is raising money for him to get top surgery as he has been waiting on the NHS waiting list for over 2 ½ years now. He is told it could be 3 years before he actually gets surgery but with going private it can be as little as four weeks waiting. Although, it is £6000. It would be greatly appreciated if you could donate something so he can start living his life. If you can’t donate, no worries, just sharing this would be great! Thank you so much ❤️
This list is from the spreadsheet for the 2016 worldwide results, where there were 3055 useable responses, and 179 unique identity words or phrases entered.
Most commonly entered at the top, with number of times entered and percentage in brackets.
Nonbinary (1975, 65%)
Genderqueer (1243, 41%)
Trans (1063, 35%)
Agender (944, 31%)
Transgender (943, 31%)
Fluid gender/genderfluid (942, 31%)
Enby (477, 16%)
Demigender (452, 15%)
Transmasculine (434, 14%)
Neutral (420, 14%)
Questioning or unknown (397, 13%)
Androgyne (380, 12%)
Woman (or girl if you are younger) (363, 12%)
Trans* (272, 9%)
None/I do not describe my gender (259, 8%)
Man (or boy if you are younger) (232, 8%)
Neutrois (207, 7%)
Transfeminine (200, 7%)
Bigender (123, 4%)
Third gender (84, 3%)
Intergender (47, 2%)
Cisgender (26, 1%)
Genderflux (25, 1%)
genderless (17, 1%)
Femme (14, 0%, so everything below here is 0%)
maverique (12)
gendervoid, voidgender, void (8)
gender non-conforming (8)
trigender (7)
two-spirit (7)
Polygender (7)
Agenderflux (6)
transfeminine (6)
Queer (6)
Butch (5)
gendervague (5)
aporagender (5)
Transsexual (5)
gender variant (4)
human/person (4)
genderfuck(ed) (4)
apogender (4)
Male (4)
boy (adult) (4)
femme nb, nb femme, etc. (3)
greygender (3)
pangender (3)
masculine of centre (3)
Mixed gender (2)
Demiagender (2)
non-gendered (2)
genderpunk (2)
boi (2)
Fluid agender/agenderfluid (2)
Female (2)
genderweird (2)
androgynous (specifically not androgyne) (2)
genderful (2)
Transwoman (2)
confused (2)
alexigender (2)
geek (2)
Transman (1)
null / no gender (1)
Other (1)
guy (1)
intersex(ed) (1)
FTM/female to male (1)
post-gender (1)
aliagender (1)
multi-gender(ed) (1)
fairy or faery (1)
transfemale (1)
videgender (1)
tomboy (1)
Mutogender (1)
plural (1)
ilyagender (1)
ambigender (1)
librafeminine (1)
witch (1)
FTMTX (1)
genderfree (1)
hybrid (1)
trans boi (1)
androgynous woman (1)
fluid centering just androgynous of female (1)
androgynous genderqueer transwoman (1)
nonbinary guy (1)
culturally female (1)
voidboy (1)
feminine genderflux (1)
fluidflux (1)
libramasculine (1)
nonbinary, but woman aligned (1)
woman-aligned (1)
blank (1)
bakla (1)
ladyboy (1)
a Literal Mess (1)
grey-agender boy (1)
Star Trek extra (1)
transqueer (1)
nonbinary boy (1)
neuter (1)
egogender (1)
nondual (1)
nerd (1)
boyflux (1)
demifluid (1)
kid (1)
not cisgender (1)
rejects gender (1)
demifemme (1)
androfem (1)
virgender (1)
eldrigender (1)
nb (1)
female fiction (1)
herm (1)
paragender (1)
nonbinary gendermeh (1)
magiboy (1)
genderchill (1)
pretty boy (1)
dandy (1)
bordergender (1)
demimasculine (1)
gender related to “girl” (1)
well, ‘woman’ seems simplest, let’s just go with that (1)
so this totally blew up last night and i would just like to say to everyone in the comments and tags: you’re all doing great!! i’m so proud of everyone’s who’s found themselves and for everyone who hasn’t yet: you’ll get there!!! i believe in each and every one of you!
Im glad my gender identity isnt that one where it changes with your mood bc id be changing like as fast as a chameleon running through a crayon factory
lrb i am increasingly just telling people who profess to having no internal sense of gender and never had had one and find the idea of having one kinda alienating “you’re agender.”
technically what i should be saying is “you might be agender, maybe explore that?” but there are like a billion cis people and a million trans people telling them “if you don’t care about your gender at all that means you’re cis” which it absolutely doesn’t not so i feel the need to be a counter-weight.
if you are one of those billion cis people or million trans people: please stop saying that “not caring about your gender means you’re cis.” particularly when someone says “but i’ve never really had a sense of gender.”
not having an internal sense of gender does not mean that you are cis. it has never meant that you are cis! cis people care a lot about their gender! not caring about your gender means (very likely) that you are agender.
you don’t have to do anything with that information. it doesn’t compel you to start using specific pronouns or identifying in specific ways or joining specific support groups or communities. what it means is those things are there if you need them. what it means is you’re more like us than you are like them.
I think that there may be an important and likely easily missed difference between not having any internal sense of gender and thinking you don’t care about gender because you haven’t really had to confront it. If your gender aligns well with societal expectations, many of the ways gender and gender roles affect your life (and the ways you care about it) will be invisible to you because you don’t bump into them or strain against them regularly. I think that that’s what a lot of (especially transphobic) cis people are often unintentionally referring to when they say they don’t have a gender. That said, there are likely also a lot of agender folks out there who haven’t really questioned or figured out their gender.
Anyways cheers, good post.
Also, agenderflux person here, being agender or not, isn’t an either-or thing. You can see being agender as a spectrum, and it can also interact with genderfluidity, in the sense of some people, like me, being mostly agender but having some partial attachment to other gender identities that fluctuates over time.
If this stuff seems painfully abstract, it is. Think about it only if you find it empowering to do so. I personally find agenderflux to be a useful term for understanding my own experience of gender, but I recognize it is super esoteric and I don’t expect other people, even other nonbinary people or other genderfluid people, to necessarily understand it.
A gender that feels rambunctious, like the concept of taking risks and being impulsive like a little dog. This gender could be considered a sub-term of pupgender, but does not have to be.
Please read my DNI before using this term/interacting.
[Image I.D.: Two flags. The first flag has seven horizontal stripes. They are, from top to bottom, dark brown, brown, light brown, white, light purple, desaturated yellow and light red. In the center of the flag there is a symbol, which consists of an exclamation point, with the dot at the bottom being replaced with the pupgender pawprint. The symbol is light blue with a thin white outline. The second flag is identical, but without the symbol. End I.D.]
hey there LGBTQ kids who are also Christian/Jewish! If you feel like you’re disobeying God, questioning your faith, or feel wrong and dirty for loving who you love, there’s this fantastic site I found today called hoperemains that accurately and thoroughly combs through scripture and its (many) mistranslations, validates your orientation, and basically let’s you know that you’re not pissing off God. It’s insanely thorough and after reading through every page on the entire site it’s super helpful. Go check it out!
hoperemains is completely from a Christian perspective, and not pluralistic or interfaith at all.
If you reblogged the first post from me please reblog this amendment so the Jewish peeps can access this resource too!
Trans Jewish kids, you can go to TransTorah as well!
Muslim LGBTQ kids, you can go to iamnotharaam! It’s run by a mod squad of different genders and orientations, and they take submissions from everybody!
–BB
MAY ANYONE WHO REBLOGS THIS BE ELEVATED TO THE EQUIVALENT OF SAINTHOOD IN THEIR RELIGION BLESS ALL OF YOU OH MY GOD.
These are rough draft pages I’m working on, posting here for community feedback. Please let me know what you think, where I am being problematic and how it could be better! If you prefer to respond anonymously or join the team to be a more active collaborator, you can write me at [email protected]
Feel free to use it as-is if you’d like to, though. It’s creative commons licensed so the only limitations are to share your source and don’t sell it.
It’s okay to change your pronouns and/or your name multiple times if you feel uncomfortable with the current name and pronouns you use!! Don’t invalidate someone’s gender identity just because they change their pronoun preference or name a few times.
Classics claim check: did the Romans proactively seek out children born with ambiguous genitalia—whom today we would call intersex—and kill them?
What are our sources? Livy, Pliny the Elder, and Julius Obsequens.
*To begin with, no ancient writer records the killing of a child born with ambiguous genitalia contemporary with the time they lived or are writing. All examples of the murder of intersex children are depicted as happening at some time in the past.
Infants or children who were labeled “semimas”, “androgynus”, or “hermaphroditus” are recorded among lists of ill-omens and portents that occurred during times of crisis. They are often listed alongside several other omens, for example a lamb born with a pig’s head, a pig born with a human’s head, a colt born with five feet, a child was born with an elephants head, it rained milk, it rained rocks, a cow spoke, the sky glowed red even though it was clear. (Liv. AUC XXXI.12; XXVII.11; XXVII.37; XXXIX.22.)
Pliny the Elder, NH VII.iii.34: “We call those who are born with sex characteristics of both ‘hermaphrodites’, called a long time ago ‘androgynus’ and considered portents, now however in pleasures/delights/as favorites” (Giguntur et utriusque sexu quos hermaphroditos vocamus, olim androgynos vocatos et in prodigiis habitos, nunc vero in deliciis.)
Julius Obsequens (4th/5th cent. CE) wrote a work (prodigiorum liber) listing the occurrence of portents/prodigies from the 3rd cent. BCE to the end of the 1st cent. BCE. It is believed that Obsequens’ primary source is Livy. Obsequens lists 9 cases of intersex children being killed, 8 of them by being thrown into a body of water, between 186 BCE and 92 BCE. However, like in Livy, all these instances are listed alongside other portents and date to a time of crisis for Rome, usually a military or political crisis.
Verdict: No, at least not in any systematic way. That intersex children are born or are found specifically during a time of crisis alongside other portents takes away from the credibility that intersex children were sought out by Roman religious officials and then killed. Livy’s recording of portents, which Julius Obsequens reiterates, has a specific agenda. Portents and prodigies amplify the crises experienced by the Romans to a divine level. Hannibal’s success against the Romans during the Second Punic War as recorded by Livy was seen as an overturning of nature itself and thus must have been accompanied by divine portents that reflected a universe turned on its head. Does this mean that Romans saw children born with ambiguous genitalia as unnatural or undesirable, yes probably. But more than anything it is a comment on the state of the Roman world during a particular moment.
On a different note, according to Diodorus Siculus (c. 90 BCE–c. 30 BCE) and Aulus Gellius (c. 125 CE–180 CE), some intersex people could be quite successful in the ancient Mediterranean world.
yeah I’m a nonpracticing woman. I was raised female but I don’t really believe anymore yknow?
I’m culturally female. I don’t really believe in one true gender, but I do participate in some of the rituals I was raised in, when I feel like it. And I enjoy participating in the traditions of other genders too sometimes.
I’m only female on Christmas and Easter, for my parents.
I’m not really into the whole female dogma, but the aesthetic went off, ya know?
why does this feel so true?
This is funny, but I read the first line like “nonpracticing doctor”. You went to school to become a woman, but you didn’t bother to get your woman license so now you just use your woman knowledge to write particularly detailed murder mysteries.
Nope. No way. The biggest Halloween shop in the U.S. is trying to sell a costume that makes fun of transgender celebrity Caitlyn Jenner. Spirit Halloween needs to know trans people are not a costume, and trans people are not a joke.
Caitlyn coming out was a huge deal this year – she gave millions of people a greater understanding of what it’s like to be trans. But prejudice and violence against transgender people are rampant. By selling a “Call Me Caitlyn” costume, Spirit Halloween will be cashing in on this bigotry.
(And yes, Halloween is fun! But if the model shown here with the costume is any indication, this is not a fun costume for trans people on Halloween night.)
Dude! Kaitlyn Alexander has a guest spot as a nonbinary photographer on The Bold Type and they are great. Here’s hoping Pamela Dolan gets what is coming to her.
