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psa; Don’t make other people feel like crap for how they roleplay ever. For some roleplayers, this stopped being fun because they’re always getting crap. People have real lives. People make mistakes. It’s why we are human. Every single roleplayer I have come in contact with have been the sweetest people in the world so don’t ever make them feel like crap for how they chose to roleplay. They don’t tag their verses? That’s fine. They don’t answer your reply right away? That’s also fine. They use gifs instead of icons or vise versa? That’s just as fine. They don’t like fancy formatting? That’s cool. Just don’t ever make someone else feel like they don’t belong or shouldn’t be on simply because of how they chose to run their blog. It’s not your blog. It’s theirs. They can use it however they can. So do not ever make them feel like complete and utter crap for the way they’re running their blog. We’re supposed to be a community and sometimes, others can make people feel like they don’t belong. Please, just stop making people feel bad for what they chose to do. We’re all human, and we all do this because we want to have fun.
Make sure to have an acc where youre not proship openly at all, one where you are open and one not
Much like a blog about all being queer and one not
It balances out the stress, sometimes to just blend in, not be special at all, just being a boring normie
It can feel great, you can either have a separate blog, or an entire acc, maybe just reblog stuff there, maybe pretty aesthetic stuff, maybe positivity posts, funny memes, dumb theories, tumblr shenanigans, game gifs, anything! Maybe post some pretty quotes, post pics you took of the nature or city or sky around you.
And it may sound like it isnt your style but it feels nice, atleast give it a try, find what you find most best, and make it your little chill place, you dont gotta label any identidy down there, a completely anonymous nice place
But the other one, thats proship? Treat it more as a venting blog, being openly proship is like being openly gay to your homophobic parents, its a pain in the ass, all you’ll get is people yelling at you, with some people being happy youre bravely openly you
And dont take it too seriously, who knows, maybe put asks off, just vent, just do what you gotta do, rant, if someone doesnt like it, block em, doesnt matter if theyre proship themself or not, its your blog
And of course, you can have blogs that fall in between those
Hey squad! Today on Dear Young Creators we’re talking about originality and why it’s a part of your soul and why you should embrace that more unique side of yourself from your hairstyle to how you talk and the clothes you wear. Just be YOU!
hey bros, I thought that since Seasonal Depression Time is starting to haunt my ass I thought I’d share what I do to help myself feel better
• brush my teeth and hair and wash my face. I’ve started washing my face daily with a cleanser I bought to treat myself and it really helps get the funk and muck out. I’m worth the energy to keep myself clean, even if I can’t shower.
• stay on top of meds. not only my brain meds but my birth control, allergy pills, and Vitamin D. I am worth the effort to keep on track.
• put away stuff and clean little messes. this keeps the tasks from being too daunting, and keeps my depression from manifesting physically in a messy room. if I can handle something small now I can keep it from becoming big. I am worth the time it takes to tidy up.
• allow myself time to rest and relax. as a whole we need to be kinder to ourselves. we need to listen to ourselves, and let our bodies and minds rest when we are tired. too often I associate rest with laziness, but that is not true. I am worth the off time to rest so I can do stuff later.
• communicate my feelings. this journey is rough but I don’t have to go through it alone. I have friends and family who care about me, and can help me when I need it. I’m still learning that talking about my emotions is okay to do, and I know it’s not always easy. I am worth the strength it takes to talk about these things.
• don’t isolate myself. I have the habit of hiding away from the world when I get really down. I end up stewing in my own sadness. it’s ok to have a resting day now and again but too much creates a bad cycle. I’m worth the energy to go out.
there’s other things like hobbies, my comfort objects, indulging in some of my favorite things, but those 6 things are the big ones. those help me to keep moving forward. those allow me to function.
the most important thing I want to share is that YOU ARE WORTH IT. you always have been and you always will. you are worth the time and energy. things get hard, believe me I know, but we fight on to keep moving forward, to see another day.
I’m so proud of all of you. take care of and be kind to yourselves, ok?
YOU ARE GOING TO DO OK!!! WHETHER IT’S REMOTE LEARNING (which can take getting used to) OR IT’S GOING TO SCHOOL DESPITE THE RISKS - I BELIEVE IN YOU!!! YOU CAN DO THIS BECAUSE YOU CARE!!! WORRYING ABOUT SCHOOL MEANS YOU WANT TO DO WELL, AND THAT MEANS YOU WILL DO YOUR BEST - WHICH IS MORE THAN ENOUGH!!!
(i really hope school is safe for you. if it is not, all my love and concern)
you are handsome, valid, and amazing regardless of your body type. society’s crazy expectations do not dictate your worth. you don’t have to have styled hair to be good looking. you don’t have to have a six pack or muscular arms to look good. you don’t have to be 6’1 to be dateable. you don’t have to have a sharp jawline to be attractive. cellulite, fat, hair, whatever: you’re alright. you are incredible as you are. I hope you feel like it someday soon, if not now
hey, it’s gonna be okay. one day you’re gonna find yourself in exactly the right situation. doing what’s best for you isn’t selfish. everything is gonna turn out just fine, okay?
Remember when trolls were lucky? They were cute little fuzzy haired collectables that you kept on your desk at school, to fulfill superstitions that you might pass a test you didn’t study for. Pink hair, blue hair- I think they even had their own TV show. My friend Kathleen even bought me these troll earrings, either because she knows I used to love these trolls, or because she thinks I’m super tacky.
As I’ve already mentioned, I have a deep fear of YouTube. A real problem seeing as how I’m a comedian, and the whole world goes there to check me out. I CAN’T handle the comments. They are painful. And even though I know it’s one of the Four Agreements, “Don’t take it personal,” it totally hurts.
I don’t like drama. I’ve never been a good arguer. I consider myself very diplomatic. I can always see both sides. Maybe that’s why I stick to self-deprecating jokes. If you’re a hater, it’s my way of beating you to the punch. In general, I don’t like debating. I don’t have full faith I’m right about anything. I remember in high school, I was selected to be part of the Grade 10 Debate. It was a debate where four students would argue against another four students on a selected topic, to be performed in front of the whole school. I wanted to keep the event light and fluffy. I opted for: “Chunky Soup: Fork or Spoon?” (It seemed like a loaded question, as per all the commercials we couldn’t fast forward through back then.) Unfortunately, I was out voted. The debate went to euthanasia.
So up until this point, I’ve been a coward with internet hate. I block people on Twitter, and in general I completely avoid YouTube. My mentality has always been, “Why should I learn to deal with hate? Why can’t others just learn notto hate?” (I’m SUCH an idealist, eh?) My friend Steph Guthrie has an AMAZING Ted Talks called “The Problem With “Don’t Feed The Trolls.” She makes a far more powerful argument than I do, and I suggest you watch it. (Hopefully I know how to post links right, cuz this is it.) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KHEkR5yb9A
So this week, I’ve decided to face the trolls. I asked people on Facebook to send me mean comments they’ve received, and I will attempt to put a positive spin on them, and/or defend your honour. Here we go:
YouTube commenter:
“I bet she has some meaty beef curtains.”
Christina’s Positive Spin:
He probably doesn’t have a lot he can bet. Maybe a stamp collection from 1987, a comic book or two, his mom’s underwear… And to be fair, beef is delicious and everyone needs curtains. Especially at sunrise when you’re hungover.
YouTube Commenter:
Is that a laugh machine? Sounds like a sit come in the 60s.
Christina’s Positive Spin:
Hey, don’t bring Canadian TV into this. Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Also, what’s a “sit come?” Interesting how these “critics” manage to show their level of intelligence.
YouTube commenter:
Oh yah baby… you can squirt cum over me anytime. Puddles everywhere. Yum Yum.
Christina’s Positive Spin:
Who needs a positive spin on this one? YOU ARE IN, BUDDY. (Something tells me it’s C.O.D. though.)
So after an interesting session sorting through my friends’ trolls, I decided it was time to face my own.
I got a mean message via tumblr during my Tinder blog. He/she (Internet haters REALLY don’t want you to know who they are, eh? I can’t even decipher gender) wrote,
You’re fucking annoying.
Well, that’s not very nice. Usually I just ignore/block Internet meanies, but this one, I decided to respond:
Then why are you reading this? Go find something you like, ya facking idiot!
(Even when responding to trolls, I feel the need to utilize italics.)
When my blogs got featured on the Huffington Post, I was terrified of the comments. One of the first “burns” I got was:
“What is this? Miley Cyrus’s diary?”
Well… Have I got news for you. One woman’s insult, is another woman’s compliment. I’ll take it!
But now it’s time for me to face my real fear… my YouTube comments. Of course all my clips are super old, because I’m too scared of the site. The worst part of these trolls is that they have the power to shut a creative person down. At least it does for me. I don’t want to share half the stuff I think of. I have scripts that just sit in my computer. I have sets I’ve never put on YouTube. What’s the point? People are just gonna hate it all. I’m a total weeny.
I quickly drop a shot of Strawberry vodka in my glass of sparkling water, swallow that and my pride, and go seek out my haters. Are you ready?
YouTube Commenter:
“This bitch sucks. I’m pissed. I was watching the brilliant Russell Peters and then clicked on this lame-wade. You wasted my time. Go back to comedy 101, although I doubt it will help. You monotonous bitch.”
Wow. It’s everything I thought it would be and more. There’s lots of nice comments too, but guess which one I focus on? Positive spin…? There’s a link to me on Russell Peters’ page? Ouch. Who takes all this time to write and spread such hatred? Oh yeah. Somebody with no real name, nor real face. Since I’m currently trying to dive into the world of standing up to bullies, I decide to write a reply.
“Cool. You sound like a real winner! Do you have a real name? A real face? Why are you hiding from your own words?”
Then I went to bed. I’m not going to lose sleep over internet hate. (Though I probably will have nightmares over it.) When I woke up in the morning, I saw the craziest thing on my computer. Someone ELSE stood up for me! Somebody I don’t even know. He wrote a reply to her slander.
Check THAT out! It’s an INTERNET MIRACLE! This guy is a true hero. I actually want to BE this guy. I immediately start looking up my comedian friends on YouTube. I’m going to do for other comics, what this guy did for me. I’ve spent all morning throwing positive feedback on clips. I want to be your troll, but a cute, fuzzy lucky one, like the toy. (Emphasis on the fuzzy these days.) My next move will be updating my Yelp page. I’ve told so many businesses I’d write nice things about them, but currently the only review I have up is on this mean yoga studio who kicked me out for drinking coffee before class. (A COFFEE! It’s not like I walked in with a flask.) Isn’t it weird how we’re more prone to resort to the Internet when we’re angry, rather than when we’re pleased?
I’d like to start a revolution. I doubt that’s in my power, but maybe, just maybe, we can take a little time to write something positive about a person or place today. Don’t let the trolls win. I’ve already overplayed “Shake It Off” obvi, so my new anthem to kick the haters is Kiesza’s “No Enemiesz.” You should blast it right now.
FACK! I can’t be a cheesy person, eh? But like a 60s sit come, there aren’t not many of us left.
loving yourself isn’t going to be easy. although I have recovered from self harm, I still struggle every day with treating myself kindly. but everyday we get ourselves out of bed, make that phone call we’re scared of, go in the shower…that is self love. that is a moment of care and love for ourselves and it will all add up in time. do what you can. don’t be so hard on yourself.
My gorgeous boyfriend is raising money for him to get top surgery as he has been waiting on the NHS waiting list for over 2 ½ years now. He is told it could be 3 years before he actually gets surgery but with going private it can be as little as four weeks waiting. Although, it is £6000. It would be greatly appreciated if you could donate something so he can start living his life. If you can’t donate, no worries, just sharing this would be great! Thank you so much ❤️
DAY 02: favorite portrayals of a character in another fandom
Someone who will always stand out for me is @shieldarmed because Katie really made Éowyn her own and gave me a deeper appreciation of the character and her complex inner workings than Tolkien had ever been able to.
The same holds true for @tofindthesun‘s Legolas. He was among my favorite characters when I discovered Lord of the Rings and then kind of vanished into obscurity for me. Rediscovering him through Krissy a few years ago has been nothing but delightful. Like Katie does with Éowyn, Krissy fleshed a multifaceted, memorable portrayal out of Legolas’ canon writing.
Then there is @curufinwefeanaro because Gaia will never not awe me with her insight into one of Tolkien’s arguably most intricate and complicated characters. Feanor is someone who commands respect even through the layers of fiction and reading, and Gaia manages to wrangle the character’s authority into her writing of him.
Hi Sunflowerkru!It’s tuesday again and… Here I am ;-) !
Here is a surreal picture from last weekend: my cherry tree in bloom under big snowflakes. You can hear my husband playing three notes on his guitar in the background too <3.
I hope everyone is well and my thoughts go straight to those who kindly picked up the torch last week @ninappon,@roguetwelve when I wasn’t in the best of spirits. And your messages made me feel so good, girls. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH !! You were absolutely right. The world can be a scary place sometimes, but we should always look ahead and think of the positives. As long as there is life there is hope.
So I won’t talk about Covid. (My husband is better.) I won’t talk about climate change. (My cherry tree is fine.) I won’t talk about the presidential elections in France. (let’s think about something else.) And although I won’t talk about war in Ukraine, I am thinking very hard about all those who are suffering and need help. Let us continue to support all those who need to be supported.
I have been limiting my social media recently, so it’s been a while since I participated. Thank you to everyone who continued to tag me despite my absence. Special thanks to @togetherkru for keeping BFSN going week after week.
My friend has some new baby goats at her farm that I got to cuddle with last week. This is Hermione and she has two brothers who are, of course, named Harry and Ron. I hope seeing her will brighten someone’s day!
If you’ve ever wondered what happens on stage after the curtain drops, my photo is pretty much your answer haha. We made it through the week of shows without a massive Covid outbreak! And now we have a couple of weeks to recover (and re-set… the guy on my back in the photo broke his foot mid show the next day ) before we start travelling. Time to take these fundraising efforts and our show of Ukrainian pride across Canada!
The outpouring of support that we received at these shows was so so heartwarming. There have been so many tears over the last few days - both in the audience and on stage. Our hearts are absolutely with the people of Ukraine, shown by the absolute roar each time the Ukrainian flag was brought on stage, giving us the boost we needed to get through the encore at the end of a very hard 2 hour show.
And another fun bonus photo to hopefully make you smile… Here’s what Charlie thought of me being gone all week. He stole my shoe pretty much the second I got home from the post show reception on Friday.
Stef - it’s bitterly cold and snowing here too, although that’s normal here for this time of year. And it’s supposed to warm up by the weekend. But I have total confidence that your cherry tree will persevere!
Kim - I’m pretty sure that goat just melted my heart. And the names are incredible
Its completely okay to not conform to what is expected of you and your sex. It’s okay to not fit the mold for what society thinks a boy should be (aka masculine). It’s okay to be passive, gentle, nurturing, introverted, etc.. It’s okay to have traits that are associated with females and femininity. You are still a boy, and there’s nothing wrong with not being 100% masculine.
