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REGARDING BLACK MEN REFUSING TO DATE BLACK WOMEN…

The issue here is that all of these groups of men and their value of their women cannot be analyzed outside of the context of colonialism. They cannot be analyzed outside of the fact that the black woman, and man, are the most despised and degraded group of people on earth. Society doesn’t value the black woman and that resentment is taught to all of us, including black women, from birth.

Asian women are uplifted in society, “Hispanic” women (by which I assume they mean Latina/ indigenous women cuz if they’re talking about women actually from Spain then they’re talking about white women) are uplifted, white women are the archetype, the standard of beauty, of worth, of womanhood period while black women are the opposite of the white woman- the opposite of her beauty, her grace, her worth, her womanhood and are treated accordingly.

How many of those same white, asian and Hispanic women would happily marry (not just sleep with) a black man? Very, very few. I’m also confident that black women unwilling to be with black men vastly outnumbers other groups of women unwilling to be with men of their own nationality.

This certainly isn’t the fault of the black woman but neither is it the fault of the black man.

This is the result of a societal standard that the entire world’s population subscribes to by default until they make a conscious effort to overcome it (decolonizing the mind). Black people, historically and presently, are the most disempowered, reviled, disregarded, degraded and brutalized people on earth and because of that, we learn to resent each other as well. We develop an inability to even see the value in the life of a black person, much less see one as a viable romantic partner. This is the root of any black person refusing to deal with another black person romantically.

Once this system that makes white people the standard of humanity and everything that stems from it (beauty, intelligence, dignity, worth) is defeated, that’s when black people will be able to enjoy a dignity, respect and societal praise/ upliftment that we haven’t experienced for hundreds of years.

That’s when the worth of our people will be the standard n we’ll most certainly be dating each other lol.

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Dee Mandiyan is a queer South Asian writer and performer and featured artist in Sakhi’s upcoming show, “Gender Justice + The Arts: An Asian American Showcase” at Bowery Poetry Club on 7/31! Their passion lies in expanding models of gender, racial, and sexual identity and promoting more complex narratives of those intersections. Much of their time is spent advocating and agitating for racial and queer justice through literature, education and social media. In their free time, they write fiction, tell amazing dad jokes, fight dragons, and obey the whims of neighborhood cats. Catch Dee at our show this month and on Instagram @deemn716. 

Can you describe your art / poetry / writing / music and your artistic process? 

My writing has a pretty wide range—I started and have done the most formal training in poetry, but have been writing fiction for years and years. Most recently, I’ve gotten into the “creative non-fiction” type of work—reflecting on my own experiences and building a thematic tapestry from them. Process-wise, I’m what some folks call an “immersive” writer, which means I basically hole up in a quiet place and put myself into the exact mood of the piece I’m writing and then bang out words for hours and hours and hours. I’m not methodical about it—it’s something that happens when inspiration and will co-conspire.

What does gender justice mean to you and how does your work explore themes related to gender and social justice? 

Gender justice is foundational to my creative process; I define who I’m writing about and what processes they experience internally and externally based on the dynamics of representation and oppression I experience and learn about within my communities. My introduction to social justice was through gender—the constant punishment of how I was performing or not performing gender, the culture clash and the never-ending sense of being neither this nor that but having no other options visible to me. I’m hoping to take my work in the direction of representing more of the gender options available to black and brown people in all their complexities. 

Who is an Asian American artist / writer / performer that inspires you and why?

To be honest—I don’t know! There are folks who I’ve seen as similar enough to me for their work to be meaningful, but it isn’t until really recently that I’ve felt a sense of recognition from and community with APIDA performers who have also been figuring out body and gender and survival and struggle and—most importantly for me—solidarity with other people of color. Ayqa Khan, Paul Tran, folks like them ignite me. My partner will say that she’s not an artist or performer but the work she does in justice education, accountability and advocacy is just immense and ever-expanding. What I find really inspirational about how she operates is that she brings everyone around her with her as she learns—so when we talk about accountability as a call to “gather your people,” she’s already there. She’s already brought her whole family with her. 

What can Sakhi supporters look forward to seeing from you at Bowery on 7/31? 

Folks can look forward to me offering a challenge: how deeply can we grapple with the violence of colonialism as we ourselves perpetuate it upon one body… one body with perfect eyebrows (shoutout to my mama). 

What’s your favorite thing about summer in New York? 

Summer in New York means all my queer and trans people of color come out of hibernation and treat the train platform like a runway and it’s honestly the most beautiful thing. Queer melanin everywhere. It’s perfection.