#self care
please stop putting pressure on yourself to do work! please stop telling yourself that if you’re not working or if you have this little in-between pocket of time like moving from one location to another you should be spending that time doing something mildly productive or stimulating like listening to a self-help podcast. you are allowed to melt on your phone! you are allowed to just lie down and stare at the wall! you are allowed to exist in a way that is easy for you even when you could be doing 50,000 other things. there is a difference between being motivated and energised to complete work and dragging yourself from task to task with limited energy and capacity simply because you feel like you need to and feel bad for wanting to stand still for a moment.
I’m just beginning to learn this since quarantine started.
fuck the grind. you’re clearly tired and going thru a lot right now. the world feels like it’s collapsing on you and time is running out but i’m here to tell u that it’s not. you have time. lots of time. close your laptop, put away the work, get a snack or get into bed, and call it a day my love. doesn’t matter if you didn’t do what you wanted to do today - that’s what tomorrow is for. let’s try again tomorrow. but for now, get some rest.
It’s all about that comfort food when you have a rough day…something warm to soothe the soul and to break the routine…For me that means treating myself to some Japanese food, getting all dolled up for myself, and going out to the restaurant to enjoy some me-time.
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[Image ID: The self-care tips are on a light pink background and set up to look like a restaurant menu. There are small drawings on the left of every tip. The time to do the item is on the far right of every tip. The tip and time are separated by a series of dots. It reads as follows:
“Self-Care Menu”
A drawing of a pair of lungs is followed by “take a few deep breaths… 5 minutes”
A drawing of a figure stretching is followed by “stretch your body… 5 minutes”
A drawing of a CD is followed by “listen to your favourite song… 5 minutes”
A drawing of a brain is followed by “meditate on your purpose… 15 minutes”
A drawing of a book is followed by “read a chapter of a book… 15 minutes”
A drawing of a pen and paper is followed by “journal our your thoughts… 15 minutes”
A drawing of a shoe is followed by “take a walk outside… 30 minutes”
A drawing of scissors is followed by “get crafty… 30 minutes”
A drawing of a bowl with heat lines over it is followed by “cook a new recipe… 30 minutes”
The bottom line says, “@thefabstory.“ /End ID]
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in case it’s needed today:
you’re NOT a bad person for needing too much.
you’re not even a bad person for expecting too much.
we all do sometimes.
teach yourself to allow room for disappointment.
teach yourself to provide for yourself gently & to find others who will do the same.
there will be times when neither your needs nor your expectations will be met.
this is alright. this is normal. this will pass.
it will take time & dedication & failed attempts but you can do it.
in case it’s needed today:
you’re NOT a bad person for needing too much.
summer is upon us again so!
remember u arent any less of a person if u aren’t making money! if u can’t handle a job right now! if u aren’t doing the great things ur friends r doing! if some days you need 2 stay @ home all day! if you don’t do all the things you told yourself you would do! if ur body doesn’t look like u want it 2!
plz prioritize ur happiness & care w/o setting standards that dont fit⚘
i hate the trope of bpd recovery like… i’m never going to recoverfromsomething that’s inherently disordered abt who i am as a person so can we focus instead on what’s attainable like coping & managing & growing into the idea of loving ourselves?? thx
