I have a cis boyfriend who I love, but I sometimes wish I could be in a poly relationship (he’s monogamous though) with another trans person cause there’s somethings cis people just won’t understand.
Transgender is an umbrella term covering all gender identities or expressions that transgress or transcend society’s rules and concepts of gender. To be trans usually means to identify as a gender other than the gender one was assigned at birth. The category of transgender includes people who have the binary gender identities of female (transgender women) or male (transgender men). The transgender umbrella includes people with nonbinary gender identities. However, some nonbinary people don’t call themselves transgender.
Transfeminine is a term used to describe transgender people who were assigned male at birth, but identify with femininity to a greater extent than with masculinity. They could be either trans women or nonbinary. The “opposite” goes for Transmasculine.
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Trans Woman/Transfeminine:
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(I honestly don’t know why this one’s the transmasc and the other one’s the transfem instead of the other way around, it looks like they should be that way, but they’re not).
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The idea that because transmascs can “pass easier than anybody else” is honestly so funny when you’re actually transmasc.
If I didn’t get my hormones out of state, I wouldn’t be on hormones. Testosterone is a controlled substance, and the healthcare providers at the nearest hospital I was given were unhelpful at best, and inaccessible (three hours away, one way). I also cannot drive the hour it takes (reliably) to get from my conservative town to the nearest Planned Parenthood that offers trans healthcare. I’m lucky to spend the money (out of my pocket!) it takes to have healthcare that’s accessible and discreet. I’m one of the lucky transmascs.
But passing is much more than hormones. And hormones don’t guarantee a body that “passes.” Sometimes passing is how you dress, or walk, or talk, or carry yourself. A lot of it is luck. Different people categorize different things as “masculine” or “feminine” and it’s not universal.
No matter what you do, sometimes you’ll never be able to pass, whether by chance or choice. Transmascs three years on testosterone, with every surgery, with conventionally “male” mannerisms can still be misgendered (and they are routinely). Maybe the energy should be spent not on hating transmascs for transitioning, but spent on making sure we’re fucking safe.
Passing transmascs are not the enemy. They also aren’t the entirety of the transmasc community, so fucking let it go.
And even when you “pass”, your mannerisms can give you away. The way you sit, talk, move your head, even the way you put your hands on your hips/waist.
Like, some cis people have outright told me that I would pass if I didn’t have “pluma” (which in Spanish means being a very effeminate man, often refered as being flamboyantly gay…..which I am).
So like, do I have to change the way I fucking exist so I can pass? Uhhhh no thank you! I’m a flaming faggot!! And I’m gonna faggot around even if it means not passing, because suddenly going all “deep voiced dude who over performs masculinity” is not who I am.
Passing isn’t just a beard. And y'all would know if you were actually transmasc or deemed us acceptable to be listened to :))))
I’ve heard things like “listening to pop music will clock you” and like… if passing means that I need to get rid of my flavor or what makes me a cool guy, then I don’t want any of it.
“Passing” relies on placating to other peoples’ expectations (of manhood in this case) and they’re expectations I can’t live up to, and many of my brothers can’t, either. I have thick thighs, but so does my (100% cishet) father. Even cis men don’t fucking “pass,” but that’s ignored if it can mean that trans men can be demonized (because passing is apparently an inherently bad or awful thing if it means you’re transmasc).
the idea of transmasc people supposedly being able to pass easily is fucking hilarious.
god how i wish it were even remotely true, maybe then i wouldn’t get misgendered all the time and maybe i wouldn’t be dysphoric constantly lmao.
passing is so conditional and difficult.
My voice is why too high to pass, even after it dropping fairly significantly since December. I still get misgendered WHENEVER I leave the house despite the fact I only wear mens clothing out the house, I ALWAYS bind when I go out, I only have short hair, I don’t wear makeup, I only use mens products, I GROW FACIAL HAIR… Still get ma'amed on the daily and no amount of binding or hormones is gonna change that. I do thise things for me, not them, but still.
I can’t change HOW I talk or how my fucking facial bones are structured. In fact, my WHOLE ASS EATING DISORDER was centered around trying to lose as much fat and gain as much lean muscle as possible to look as masc as possible. I have a naturally round face, high cheekbones, big eyes. All considered very feminine. No amount of sunken cheeks or pale skin or waifness will make me pass either
And this attitude? Like EVERY trans guy passes or even gets close to passing? It really hurts younger trans people and people new to transition. It really is a driving factor in the ED of almost every transmasc I’ve spoken to. When you act like we pass, you ignore every trans person who has been killed for not passing well enough or kill themselves because they didn’t pass well enough.
