Craig is taller than average, coming in at just under 6′1″. He’s the tallest of his siblings, with his two younger brothers hitting between 5′9″ - 5′11″.
▸ are they okay with their height?
He’s cool with it, but sometimes worries that he can appear more aggressive because of his imposing height. He’s a gentle giant most of the time, but he will admit that his longer stride has helped in his line of work.
▸ what’s their hair like?
It’s currently a bit shorter than he usually keeps it. His ideal look is something he would describe as “casual viking”. His hair is dark blond, not-quite-wavy, and prone to frizz and texture. This is a good example, though it’s usually just hitting his shoulders.
▸ do they spend a lot of time on their hair/grooming?
He likes to keep his beard in check, and usually keeps it slightly grown out. His hair is pretty thick and can get gross quickly when he works out, so he keeps it as well-maintained as he can. He doesn’t spend a whole lot of time on self-grooming, but enough that he looks clean and presentable.
▸ does your muse care about their appearance/what others think?
Honestly? Not really. He likes to look good and feel comfortable. He’s had some comments on his hair, usually about the level of professionalism, but while at work his hair is usually tucked away anyway, so what he chooses to do while offduty is his business.
— preferences.
▸ indoors or outdoors?
Outdoors. As expected from someone who embodies ‘lumberjack dad’, Craig loves to be outdoors. He takes the twins camping almost every summer, and he was also responsible for the treehouse and swing in their backgarden.
▸ rain or sunshine?
Rain. After a long day, there’s nothing he finds more relaxing than sitting on the back porch with a beer and listening to the rain.
▸ forest or beach?
Forest. See ‘lumberjack dad’. He’s pretty good with his hands, is good at climbing, and would survive in a wilderness situation 9/10 times if he was dropped into a wooded area.
▸ precious metals or gems?
Metals.
▸ flowers or perfumes?
Flowers. It’s nicer to have a bunch of wildflowers on the kitchen windowsill than it is to make the house stink artificially. Plus, flowers look nice.
▸ personality or appearance?
Personality. If you’re chill and on his level, then you’re alright.
▸ being alone or being in a crowd?
This one could honestly go either way. He values his personal time, but even then he loves to spend time with his kids. So being in a crowd is more his vibe, especially hockey crowds.
▸ order or anarchy?
Order, though he knows ‘perfect’ order doesn’t exist. He’s seen plenty of misplaced anarchy in his day and, while he knows it has it’s place, he believes that the system must always come back to a state of order or society would collapse. So, while the system may need to be changed, the constant state cannot be an anarchous one, or the system will never be aptly replaced.
▸ painful truths or white lies?
Truths. He has always been open with his kids, and hopes that they will be comfortable enough to be open with him. He isn’t one to shy away from a painful truth, but knows that can be hard for some people to hear. He tends not to lie, but will try to find a way to soften the blow if he can.
▸ science or magic?
Science. He understands the appeal of magic, but hasn’t ever been particularly drawn to the supernatural. He enjoys the knowledge that almost everything has a scientific reasoning, as it makes the world easier to understand and the universe easier to fathom.
▸ peace or conflict?
Peace. Craig is always the peacekeeper, whether on the job or offduty. He’s a good mediator, and prefers to find ways around a conflict instead of becoming aggressive.
▸ night or day?
Night. Again, he finds the quiet calming.
▸ dusk or dawn?
Dawn. The fresh, crisp morning air cut by a strong mug of coffee is one of his favourite scents.
▸ warmth or cold?
Warmth. Once autumn/winter hits, you will not see him without one of several fleecy jumpers or hoodies.
▸ many acquaintances or a few close friends?
Close friends. He knows the value of having people close to lean on in hard times, and the support of his close loved ones has been invaluable in his life. He would rather know the people he’s with than have vapid small talk.
▸ reading or playing a game?
Reading, particularly newspapers. He likes to be caught up with current events. He also likes to have physical newspapers more than digital ones as, once they’re out of date, they can be used for other things.
— questionnaire.
▸ what are some of your muse’s bad habits?
Despite encouraging his kids to be open with him, Craig has a tendency to hide his negative emotions for fear of putting extra pressure on them. Some lesser bad habits include: not cleaning his hairbrush, biting his nails when they ‘get too long’, forgetting to lock the back door after bringing the dogs back in, and being overly self-critical when he builds something that he considers ‘sub-par’.
▸ has your muse lost anyone close to them? how has it affected them?
The big one was losing his wife, Marie, to cervical cancer. It was a long battle of testing and treatment, only for her to get a reccurance a few months after being declared clear in year two. They had been together over twenty years, having met during university, and despite the long time spent struggling, he still feels like her death was sudden. He really struggled managing his grief alongside continuing to raise Anna and Andrew, and initially tried to shift his own grief to the back of his mind so he could better help them with their own.
The time spent with Marie near the end taught Craig a lot about himself. He realised how little he cared for outward appearances, as he shaved his hair alongside her when hers began to fall out. He learnt that he had the ability to remain strong, even when faced with the greatest tragedy of his life. He learnt that if this, the worst thing he had ever imagined, didn’t break him, then there was nothing that could. It took him a long time to recognise those things, and he still wonders if there was anything more he could have done, but he knows that Marie is better off now than she was suffering, and he knows that he is a better man for having stuck by her and his family through the tragedy.
▸ what are some fond memories your muse has?
Craig will always claim that his fondest memories are his wedding and the birth of the twins, but the ones that come to mind are often a lot simpler. The kids first words (Anna’s was “juice” and Andrew’s was “car”), Marie laughing as he tries to cook, Anna smiling at him over her shouder when she learnt how to ride a bike, Andrew blaming Anna when he got caught drawing on the wallpaper, or watching the twins sleep with his wife and realising how lucky he was to have the family he always wanted.
▸ is it easy for your muse to kill?
No. Craig has a hard line against that, and it would take a hell of a lot to push him over that line. He knows loss, and he doesn’t wish it on anyone.
▸ what’s it like when your muse breaks down?
He’ll be flustered, and won’t know what to do with his hands. It takes a lot for him to cry, but if he does he won’t hide it. He’s not a loud man either, so he wouldn’t be shouting much. He’ll be quiet, but it’s the quiet that allows him to dissolve. He’s also a hugger.
▸ is your muse capable of trusting someone with their life?
Yes, but it takes a lot of trust. He has to trust the people he works with if they go into a dangerous situation, but he trusts them implicitly. He trusts his family with his life, and most likely always will.
▸ what’s your muse like when they’re in love?
An absolute puppy. This man will wait on you hand and foot. When Marie was pregnant she had to tell him off for offering to carry her everywhere, and he would barely let her lift a finger. He will absolutely never admit this, but he’s a complete romantic.
before i ask my question to ppl with ADD. if parts of this story and/or questions are triggering for you i apologize in advance. i am neurotypical and so is my mother so we’re not pretending to know what it’s like to have ADD or be neurodivergent. we are willing to learn though
here it goes: my mother works in a kindergarten. she is 60 years old, a breast cancer survivor, and has a history of depression and anxiety attacks.
a couple of months ago a 24 yo woman (let’s call her Emma) started working at the kindergarten. my mom soon sensed there was “something about her” she noticed Emma was easily distracted, had to take breaks every 10 minutes, has difficulty bonding/playing with the children, and gets nervous at the thought of working the later shifts where she has to close (they never close alone. there’s always a minimum of two ppl closing).
this results in my mom having to carry a heavier work load than she can handle which is making her very anxious and tired.
my mom is not Emma’s boss, they are equal coworkers so my mom asked Emma personally what best ways are on how to divide the workload btwn them and what Emma needs to do her work that feels good to her and be comfortable and still works for my mom too. Emma told my mom she has ADD, but no solution came out of it.
my mom then asked if their supervisor could attend a meeting just the three of them to figure some things out, but still no solution.
my questions to my mutuals or readers with ADD:
do you have any tips for my mom on how to help Emma, and by doing that helping herself?
what are things coworkers did that made it easier for you to adapt to new situations?
what is something you wished every supervisor knew/did where you worked to accommodate your needs?
what if my mom and Emma come up with some sort of understanding and solution but after a while one of them starts slipping. what is the best way to call each other out and stay on the right path?
im grateful for any tips. I’m upset with their supervisor for not being able to come up with something and afraid on what her lack of empathy & action might cause on the long term for both Emma and my mom.
i’ve been dealing with a HRT related issue for the past 6ish months and the pain is literally debilitating, i often spend up to 6 hours a day in bed because of it, I’m virtually housebound because it comes on so suddenly and intensely, and the pain meds i have access to do literally nothing, I’ve tried hot compresses, breathing exercises, distractions… i can’t get into see my endocrinologist for another month and I go back to uni soon so I have no idea what I’m going to do :( any tips or anything??
uh so… guess I should give an update on this since it wasn’t HRT at all.
Long story short, I got biopsies done today and am waiting on the results to see if i have cancer.
i’ve been dealing with a HRT related issue for the past 6ish months and the pain is literally debilitating, i often spend up to 6 hours a day in bed because of it, I’m virtually housebound because it comes on so suddenly and intensely, and the pain meds i have access to do literally nothing, I’ve tried hot compresses, breathing exercises, distractions… i can’t get into see my endocrinologist for another month and I go back to uni soon so I have no idea what I’m going to do :( any tips or anything??
uh so… guess I should give an update on this since it wasn’t HRT at all.
Long story short, I got biopsies done today and am waiting on the results to see if i have cancer.
Laid off from my very squishy job for winter months and no promise of it opening back in spring.
Took a food sensitivity test and learned I have to follow a paleo diet to stop feeling like death.
But he’s not in pain anymore, science is amazing and this has a high rate of success, I got approved for unemployment and have interviews lined up, I finally know how to feed my body not to hate it.
whish they told us this in school, all they did was say “feel for lumps, you will know when you feel it”
This is important, even if it doesn’t work with your blog theme REBLOG IT!!!!
Women need to know this, not all of us have ever been told what we need to look out for!
yeah reblogging especially for my transmasc fellows who (like me) might be real uncomfortable with their chests and not know what to watch out for because we try to avoid this kind of thing (just me? okay)
Cis Men need to know it too. They can get breast cancer even though the odds are lower.
I did not fit into the MRI. I will not fit in other MRIs in my general area by about 15 CM. Fun! So, because my doctor does not have the imaging, he is going on the CT scan from October 4th. He says he is not convinced enough that it’s cancer to start me on medications that will make me sick. Additionally, if my cancer has spread and that is what is showing up in the liver, then the health effects won’t be too bad in the next couple of months. So he wants me to have another CT scan in January 2022.
However, if it is cancer, if my ovarian cancer has spread to my liver, then it is incurable. It is treatable, but not curable. It will be stage 4a ovarian cancer.
The reason I haven’t been active is 1. School 2. My nana is dying…
Yeah. My Mum’s mother is dying. Dying, that’s a scary word. It’s a sad word as well. It’s just as sad as saying goodbye. I have a difficult relationship with death as well as a difficult relationship with my Nana. She’s major part of why I have self confidence issues, an eating disorder, and depression. At the same time she taught me the meaning of love, passion, and credibility. I’m currently relied upon in my family to talk to doctors, extended families, and be a caretaker for my Nana. I’m watching someone I love die before my eyes from cancer. To know I have very limited time left with her, hurts. I just said goodbye to my grandfather now I’m saying say goodbye to my Nana.
In other news… On November 10th, 1990… I was born.
I took some time to be with my friends for the first time in a long time to celebrate and it meant the world. We didn’t talk about the bad stuff just good. I’m currently holding both an A in my Biology and my English 002 classes. I’m studying Morticians for my inquiry project in my English 002 which is honestly pretty morbid giving my current situation that is my life but, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
The reason I haven’t been active is 1. School 2. My nana is dying…
Yeah. My Mum’s mother is dying. Dying, that’s a scary word. It’s a sad word as well. It’s just as sad as saying goodbye. I have a difficult relationship with death as well as a difficult relationship with my Nana. She’s major part of why I have self confidence issues, an eating disorder, and depression. At the same time she taught me the meaning of love, passion, and credibility. I’m currently relied upon in my family to talk to doctors, extended families, and be a caretaker for my Nana. I’m watching someone I love die before my eyes from cancer. To know I have very limited time left with her, hurts. I just said goodbye to my grandfather now I’m saying say goodbye to my Nana.
In other news… On November 10th, 1990… I was born.
I took some time to be with my friends for the first time in a long time to celebrate and it meant the world. We didn’t talk about the bad stuff just good. I’m currently holding both an A in my Biology and my English 002 classes. I’m studying Morticians for my inquiry project in my English 002 which is honestly pretty morbid giving my current situation that is my life but, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
It’s been a while since I have been online and posted anything personally here that is not my queue running.
Some of you might already know about my health problems and the cancer I was fighting last year. I already made a post months ago saying the meds are not working properly. In truth, nothing had worked for after treatment. In January during a check up they found new metastases again. Since then I am in and out of hospital, getting treatment, trying to stay positive, etc. I had no energy to be online, but I’m slowly feeling better, day by day.
I am incredibly grateful for my wife, who helps me so much - not only in daily life but also with my small business. I couldn’t do it without her.
I also want to thank everyone who’s still following this account and who’s still interested in my writing. It really means a lot! Since I had no time working on personal projects the last couple of months I am a little behind on my publishing schedule for this year. But I plan on catching up in the coming weeks so London Bleeding can be published as planned.
And I want to use this opportunity to tell you all that I’ll change a couple of things on this blog and try to be more online on social media accounts again. I hope you’ll all stay with me on this journey.
i grew up listening to The Wanted and their music was something I loved and still do to this day. they were such a huge part of my childhood, being played in my school disco at aged 10 to being played in the club aged 19
it’s hard how i literally saw them live three weeks ago and today Tom Parker passed away
Hello everybody with summer fast approaching here is your regular reminder that:
Everyone needs to wear sunscreen
SPF 50 is pretty much the best protection you can get, an SPF higher than that will have the same effect
Melanin does not protect you from skin cancer
Tanning is caused by exposure to ultraviolet radiation
Spending the majority of your life receiving regular large doses of UV radiation without any skin protection is a good way to get skin cancer
Don’t use tanning beds, and don’t go sun tanning
Wear your fucking sunscreen
Okay, people are clowning in the replies, so let’s try this again:
Sunburn is an uncomfortable short term problem caused by being out in the sun for too long without sunscreen. Some people are more susceptible to it than others. Melanin does protect you from sunburn, so people with dark skin are less likely to get burned, but also sometimes people just have a natural resistance to sunburn (or lack of resistance) - I’m white as hell, and literally the only time in my life I’ve gotten a sunburn was when I spent a whole day outside in a swimsuit without putting on sunscreen when I was a kid, and all I got was a minor burn across my shoulders. Never experienced that whole ‘peeling’ thing y’all are talking about, sounds super gross and uncomfortable tho. Rip to all the rest of you but i’m different.
Skin cancer is fucking cancer. It has nothing to do with sunburn, apart from both being caused by a lot of unprotected sun exposure. If you have skin, you are at risk of getting skin cancer. I have little to no risk of getting sunburn, but I still wear sunscreen, because I am protecting myself from fucking skin cancer.
If someone is basically immune to sunburn, then that’s awesome, but we still need to use just as much sunscreen as everyone else. Because we can still get skin cancer. Immunity to sunburn is not a sign that you can go easy on the sunscreen. And honestly, if you’ve got dark skin, you should probably be extra paranoid about applying sunscreen, because the majority of information on recognizing skin cancer is meant specifically for recognizing it on white skin. If you’re black/brown, it will probably take you longer to be diagnosed if you get skin cancer. And cancer is one of those things that you want diagnosed and treated very quickly, so you should be extra motivated to not get skin cancer in the first place.
Everyone needs to wear sunscreen. Wear your fucking sun screen.
Personal life talk and maybe tmi but I’m in such a weird space right now where I feel okay except when I have chemo but I feel okay because of the chemo (but I’m on round 12 and I’m so over it) but I’m scared of stopping because what if I immediately get worse and if I don’t get worse when do I get to start thinking about remission? Aside from now when I dream of remission and lowkey plan the party I’m going to have when I officially don’t have cancer. And it’s nice that I have days when I feel well enough to think in terms of “when” I get better not “if”.
Green, charcoal and soft whites, basically mountain and forest colours.
Currently Reading:
I’m not currently reading anything, there’s not enough hours in the day atm.
Last song you listened to:
The Only Heartbreaker by Mitski
Sweet/Savory/Spicy:
Lately it’s been spicy but it changes constantly I would say it’s typically sweet.
Currently Working On (Sims wise):
Since I don’t currently have much time, I’m slowly working on updating old cc because I want to set a new standard for myself going forward. So everything is getting updated swatches, maps, the works! Along with new previews. There may be a few pieces of CC that get little additions to create some mini sets.
Real Life:
I recently got the sad news that my 16-year-old cat has bone cancer so that’s been very hard for me (he’s been my little buddy through thick and thin) on top of everyday life but we’ve decided to do palliative care and at the moment he’s doing well. Photo of my sweet boy below the cut. Nothing unseemly just for keeping this post shorter.
Thanks to @antiquatedplumbobs for tagging me. I’m not sure who’s done this but feel free to say I tagged you if you’d like to do it and haven’t been tagged. :)
It’s been a while since I have been online and posted anything personally here that is not my queue running.
Some of you might already know about my health problems and the cancer I was fighting last year. I already made a post months ago saying the meds are not working properly. In truth, nothing had worked for after treatment. In January during a check up they found new metastases again. Since then I am in and out of hospital, getting treatment, trying to stay positive, etc. I had no energy to be online, but I’m slowly feeling better, day by day.
I am incredibly grateful for my wife, who helps me so much - not only in daily life but also with my small business. I couldn’t do it without her.
I also want to thank everyone who’s still following this account and who’s still interested in my art. It really means a lot! Since I had no time working on personal projects the last couple of months I am a little behind on my publishing schedule for this year. But I plan on catching up in the coming weeks so the new products in my shop can be published as planned.
And I want to use this opportunity to tell you all that I’ll change a couple of things on this blog and try to be more online on social media accounts again. I hope you’ll all stay with me on this journey.
Don’t scroll past this. Kylie Armstrong was diagnosed with breast cancer and these small dimples were the only signs. She posted the image on Facebook so everyone knows that “that breast cancer is not always a detectable lump.” Here’s how Kylie is doing today.
I know someone who caught her own breast cancer because she realized her nipples were sometimes inverting which she had never experienced before. Her primary initially tried to excuse it as normal (because it is normal for some) but she pushed the issue because she knew it was weird that it had never happened to HER breasts before. She was stage 3 already, but eventually became cancer free. If she hadn’t trusted herself and advocated for herself she likely would have bee stage 4 before she had a lump or other common symptoms and by then it would have bee terminal.
