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prettysicksupply:

soloveitchik:

crowfeathers:

uh oh

Why not both

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“…People with ADHD cope with this huge emotional elephant in two main ways, which are not mutually exclusive.

1.They become people pleasers.  They scan every person they meet to figure out what that person admires and praises.  Then, that’s the false self they present.  Often this becomes such a dominating goal that they forget what they actually wanted from their own lives.  They are too busy making sure other people aren’t displeased with them.

2.They stop trying.  If there is the slightest possibility that a person might try something new and fail or fall short in front of anyone else, it’s just too painful and too risky to even consider.  So, these people just don’t.  these are the very bright, capable people who become the slackers of the world and do absolutely nothing with their lives because making any effort is so anxiety-provoking.  They give up going on dates, applying for jobs, or speaking in meetings.”