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Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction

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I dont know if I’m misunderstanding this or not but I think if you’re attracted to each other, kiss, have sex, get married and have kids you cant really call it platonic anymore

I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you’re asking with good faith here, though I hesitate to do so because the second half of your comment is a bit rude. But I’m going to assume that was unthinking/unintentional.

You are misunderstanding. The whole point here is that the norm that says “you can only x things with romantic partners, not friends” is harmful. The point is that you can pick and choose what goes in the relationship. If people are in something that fully meets the social expectation for a romantic relationship (including in terms of having romantic feelings for the other person/people), they’re not going to call it queerplatonic. Queerplatonic is specifically for relationships that don’t meet the social norms for either friendships or romantic relationships.

[Text from screenshot: in response to azariphale, @imaginationhyperload said: people can occasionally have sex even though they’re not sexually attracted to each other. I guess the definition of the relationship depends on the attraction?? End ID]

I think you’re trying to be helpful, but I already responded to azariphale, and to be quite frank, your suggestion basically amounts to policing the words people can use to describe their relationships.

What a particular set of people decide to label their relationship is determined by them, and them only. You seem to be suggesting that if people have sex while experiencing sexual attraction, that they cannot label their relationship queerplatonic. This is incorrect and harmful. The word queerplatonic has always and will always be open to people who experience sexual attraction to and/or have sex with their partner(s).