12-weeks-on:Dont Shout at your Kids, Listen instead Shouting wont help you child to listen to you, t
Dont Shout at your Kids, Listen instead
Shouting wont help you child to listen to you, they hear the noise but don’t listen to what your saying. No-ones perfect and sometimes as a parent you will be sleep deprived, tired, stressed or anxious and its easy to lose control.
However, If you need you child to listen to you talk quieter…. That way they have to consciously try and hear what your saying, rather than switching off to your words.
Shouting sets an example to your children that its an appropriate way to deal with frustration and in turn they will shout back at you, causing a never ending spiral of escalation.
When your children shout,
- keep calm.
- Sit down, so your at the same level as them (standing over your child can be intimidating to them and cause them to close themselves off to you)
- Establish eye contact.
- Talk to them in a reassuring tone and most importantly,
- LISTEN.
Whether your child can talk or not they find ways of communicating their needs. You as a parent need to listen to those needs and react accordingly. There’s no circumstances where shouting will help and if your shouting, your not listening to your child or their needs, your tending to your own.
Next time you want your child to listen to you, try and imagine which you would rather face, this…
or this
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