this notion that tops and even doms have to be tough masculine people is soo funny to me but tbh it just perpetuates the idea that to be the “penetrator” and “wearing the pants” in a relationship is inherently tied to being a man, and an aggresive one at that
like idk babe u can most certainly get bent over and pegged by a hottie in a pink mini skirt with matching nails and the assumption that u can’t is just. patriarchal normative nonsense
