hypnomindstorm: safehypnosis2:Got this report about @the-neuromancer .  The boundary violation

hypnomindstorm:

safehypnosis2:

Got this report about @the-neuromancer .  The boundary violation occured during a phone call, but is referenced in the attached screenshots.  

The survivor indicated that she specifically informed him prior to any trances that she wasn’t interested in memory play.  He professed a commitment to safety on their first two calls.  But, on their third call, she was repeatedly fractionated and then he moved into trying to alter her memories and build connections.  He indicated that he was trying to do an amnesia trigger in DIRECT conflict with her stated goals prior to trance.  When she brought herself up through her own methods, she confronted him on it and he claimed that it was a “accident.”  But, it was clearly no accident.

This is a boundary violation that could easily lead to even more abusive behaviors. 

I’d like to applaud @peachybruised here for their handling of things, giving themselves some time to think about how to respond and establishing their boundaries (both initially and in saying goodbye) very clearly. Not that it is bad to be emotional when someone has harmed you, because you absolutely have every right to feel some kind of way, but some manipulators will use a clearly emotional response against the victim. It’s a lot harder to manipulate such clear lines.