donnisbutterfly: i’ve made quite a few posts on #blackfishing and there’s always those h

donnisbutterfly:

i’ve made quite a few posts on #blackfishing and there’s always those handful of people who don’t think it’s a big deal or say i should mind my business when it comes to how people dress, etc. i wish it wasn’t a big deal, i wish i could ignore it but a lot of these people make it pretty hard. blackfishing has repercussions that most don’t even realize are harmful. this comment is one of them. have you ever felt that you had to overcompensate? have you ever felt that you couldn’t wear a hairstyle or clothing because you were afraid of what people would say?

#mixedpeople, especially #mixedwomen, are forced to water ourselves down in so many ways. we can’t be ourselves, our authentic selves, talk about it or even celebrate it.

we’re accused of blackfishing AND starting the “trend”. @nicoleocran said it best in a article about blackfishing and #mixedfishing in @metro.co.uk: “Blackfishing in particular fuels the stereotype that mixed people are actively trying to deceive people. It perpetuates the “pick me” stereotype – when it is white people who are afforded the opportunity to take on and off this cosplay as they so choose. This is the mixed person’s reality. We just want the opportunity to discuss the fluidity of identity without being mocked, ridiculed or excluded, but music videos like #JesyNelson’s or celebrities making billions of dollars in the beauty industry like #KylieJenner, make it easy entertainment fodder.”

What are your thoughts on this? And please please please be kind to each other in the comments!
#mixedgirlproblems

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