When multiple otherwise cool people on OkCupid respond to questions about kink/what they’r

When multiple otherwise cool people on OkCupid respond to questions about kink/what they’re into with things like “I did have a partner once who asked for some mild choking during sex, and that was uncomfortable at first, but as I realized she really enjoyed it and had asked for it specifically, I got more comfortable.” or “I’m open to doing most of anything, honestly.  I very much prefer to try things before dismissing them.  I’m really in to tattoos/piercings, etc.  I also really like lingerie!”

Oh, sweetie, baby, honey, no.