#begforjay
BDSM dominate:
So, some of you probably have heard of 50 shades of grey, and if you have you’re either on the “omg he’s such a sexy man, and a great Dom…and omg I wish he’d spank me!” Side, or you’re on the “yuck! He’s an awful representation of BDSM as a whole, and what it means to be a Dom” side. I having been interested in the lifestyle since i was 14 years old,feel as tho Christian Grey is a very poor representation of what a real Dom looks like, and we as a community are currently facing thag in real life. Some of you may disagree but the youtuber Begforjay has recently been outed for harming his submissives, you can watch the YouTube video about if you’d like, I will link it at the end of this.
Its awful, as a communtiy to have someone who is so big on such a public forum to be harming others and hiding behind BDSM, he is an abuser, and uses BDSM to feel justified, but BDSM is Safe Sane Consensual *SSC* and RACK Risk Aware Consenual Kink. Not, let me beat you when you ask a question, or leave you harmed permanently. Because I can.
..that is abuse.
My sir and I do hard core stuff, but we use RACK and SSC, and unless it was agreed to before hand, he ALWAYS listens to my safeword, we do sometimes do CNC *consensual non consent* but we always make sure we talk about limits, and boundaries, what is and isn’t okay, how far my sir can go and he knows when ive had enough….you have to know your play partner, and talk about it, don’t just jump into BDSM with someone you JUST met that day…STAY SAFE!
* Disclaimer! NO minor under ANY circumstance should be participating in BDSM or DDLG. Its not okay, and for you and your partners safety,you should wait until you’re a legal adult.*
