What I’ve Learned As A Plus Size Girl That’s Into D/s
1. I am not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay.
Okay ladies honesty time. I’m a bigger girl. I have thighs, hips, and a belly. Not everyone is going to be down with that. Those who do stick around are those who matter though. So what if you have a tummy and like to be tied up? I promise some guy somewhere will love every inch of you.
2. I don’t look like most porn photos.
You know exactly what I am talking about. The photos that flood your feed, my feed, and even pictures you may have on your blog. Scantily clad women with svelte, slim bodies, flat tummy’s, skinny thighs, a tight butt, and not even a hint of cellulite. Let me tell you a little tip though…NO ONE looks like that. Even the models don’t look like that. Photoshop is magic.
P.S. This applies to men too. Not all of you have a six pack, chiseled jawlines, and perpetually wear a suit…but guess what? You’re still hot!
3. I will get criticized for my size.
This is no secret. I can’t tell you how many times I have been told I need to lose weight or “sorry but I’m not into fat girls”. Oh well, your loss. Trust me it sucks but as I said before someone will love your tummy, big butt, thick thighs, cellulite, and rolls. Someone out there thinks you are the sexiest thing to walk this earth.
4. I am just as sexy as anyone else.
Plus size is beautiful. So what if you have a few extra pounds? ROCK THAT SHIT! Rock it so fucking hard!
5. D/s is for everyone!
I’ve been told several times that due to being fat that I will never find a Sir/Daddy/Master. This is simply not true. I have found a few. I’ve been into D/s for about 4-5 years now and men find no problems with me being plus sized. Well some have but they don’t matter. Whether you are a size 2 or 22 D/s is for you.
6. Not all littles are “little”.
I myself am not a little, I have little tendencies but I have seen so many pics on DD/lg blogs where again all the girls are tiny and cute. Well guess what you can be cute and little and still have a tummy. Daddy will love you just the same.
7. Porn is unrealistic so stop stressing.
Porn is pretty to look at and fun to watch but we all know that it isn’t real. It’s a fantasy. It’s a perfect dream scenario. It can be a guideline and a fun way to get ideas but it will never be 100% accurate. Laugh at your mistakes and imperfections. Sex is supposed to be fun. If you have never laughed during sex you are having bad sex. So what if you can’t twist your body like that? You are a person not a pretzel.
8. Beauty is only skin deep.
Cliché but true. There is so much more to beauty, love and D/s than what your body looks like. Men want real. Honest, smart, funny, loyal, etc. Yeah a hot body catches the eye but a charming personality ignites the soul.
9. Love yourself.
Another cliché but an important one. Take it from someone who has been there. Dom’s HATE when their sub talks down about themself. It hurts them in more ways than you know. 1. It hurts because they love you and you can’t see that you are gorgeous to them. 2. They feel like a failure. When a sub is down on herself a Dom feels like he has failed her. A Dom wants his sub to feel loved, cherished, important. If she is upset about how she looks he feels like he has let her down. Also self love is important because you know the saying “you must love yourself before you love anyone else”.
10. I’m a confident, sexy, beautiful, plus sized submissive and I KICK-ASS!!!
Hell yes. I am plus sized but so the fuck what? I’m hot as hell. I am smart, funny, sarcastic, strong, and one hell of a conversationalist. I am not what the porn industry would make you believe a submissive looks like but I still kick just as much ass as those women do. No matter your size BDSM is for all. Be confident. Be sexy. Be beautiful. Stay Kinky.
