#findomme

Don’t allow anybody to push on your boundaries. Have them set and made clear. If anybody tries to push you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, forget them. They are not interested in serving you but rather themselves, and they lack the respect that they ought to have for you. Do not allow yourself to be made uncomfortable so that some wank job can get his rocks off. Not worth it!

Always trust your gut instinct. If something feels wrong, or seems too good to be true, chances are that’s the case. You’ll do yourself a huge favor by trusting these instincts. You’re having them for a reason.

ALWAYS get paid before doing ANYTHING, EVER. Never start playing with a boy until he has paid, and you have received that payment. Even if he says he has sent it but you haven’t received it yet, WAIT. Do not begin until that payment has been accepted on your end. If he has purchased items from your wish list wait until you have received them in the mail. It’s very easy for people to purchase items from your list and then cancel the orders later.

When payment is sent accept it immediately! Do not let it sit long enough so that they can cancel it, or in more extreme cases, somebody can access your account and steal it (this does happen!).

When somebody says that they will pay you it does not mean that they will. It’s actually more likely that the majority won’t. he’s promised you his entire pay check? It’s bullshit. He says he’ll give you $1000 if you do this thing for him? Yeah sure. Oh but there’s a catch too! He’ll give it to you, but tomorrow, or on Friday, because he’s still waiting for the the money to come in. Yup, more bullshit! This money doesn’t exist, and if it does you’ll never be the one to see it. He’s trying to get a free session/wank bait with promises he doesn’t intend to fulfill.

NEVER give out any sort of personal banking information. It doesn’t matter how much they’re promising to send you, don’t do it!

Do not give discounts just because a boy feeds you a sob story. Chances are it’s all bullshit anyways, and it’s not your job to care regardless of whether it is or not. They use these sob stories to try to emotionally manipulate you into giving freebies or cheaper rates. Don’t fall for it. 

Do not feel bad about watching the clock during paid sessions, ending the session after the agreed upon time has been reached, or demanding more money if they want more time. If they whine and won’t pay, then that’s the end of it for him, bye! Do not give in to his whining.

Be careful of the payment methods you choose to use. Read every site’s ToS and use the site carefully. Paypal is notorious for being anti-sex work and screwing sex workers over. When using sites like this only use them with trusted long term subs, do not share the email associated with the account on any public sites, and make sure the sub doesn’t leave any notes along with the money.

If a sub sends you a message asking about what you’d do to him, or what “x, y, z” means, what you do with your subs, etc, do not tell him a thing! This is wank baiting. They want for you to explain these things to them so that they can sit there and get off, and without ever paying so much as a dime for it.

There’s another type of “wank baiting” that comes in the form of fantasy sharing. A boy will send a message asking to be blackmailed and providing “personal” details, and beg you to expose him (or to not expose him, depending on which way he wants to play), or send you a message along the lines of, “hey would you tie me to a tree and feed me to mosquitoes for $500?”, etc. Do not bother with these. They’re trying to bait you into free play, or free chit chat involving their fantasy that will get them off.

If somebody sends you a message insulting you, whether it be a sub, female Domme, or male dom, ignore it. Do not waste your time. Delete and block. Most of the time these are people looking to get a rise out of you just for a free wank. On some sites the “Dommes” are actually men posing as such. And in other cases it really is a woman who’s trying to start petty drama with you or run you off. A lot of them may say you’re a man, a fake, a scammer, that you look like a man or “tr*nny”, etc, trying to get you worked up. Pay none of it any mind and focus on what will make you money and get you subs.

Remember that it’s the year 2017 and people can do reverse image searches. Don’t use any photo on your profiles or send one to a sub that can be easily traced back to your other social media, such as Facebook or personal Twitter and Instagram accounts.

Sometimes Facebook will show you in these men’s “people you may know” suggestions. Be careful of that. I’ve seen a guide on how you can avoid this, so if it’s a concern it’s something worth looking for.

Do not complain that you keep getting scammed, can’t find subs, that all you’ve gotten have been shitty subs, etc. Putting negative energy out there will make you less appealing to the subs that are serious about serving. Also do not post that you need money or else your power will be shut off. Find a better way to bring money in (some girls offer discounted clips, photos, and/or sessions). Looking as though your life is an unstable mess will again, make you appear less appealing to serious subs.

It’s okay to be inspired by another Domme’s profile, or really like how she has worded things. You may even want to make your profile in the same way, which is fine … So long as you don’t completely steal it, or copy word for word pieces of her profile. A lot of Dommes put time and effort into making their profiles just right. It’s incredibly rude and offensive to come along and steal something she has worked hard on. And trust Me, nine times out of ten you will get caught and called out. You don’t want that drama on your plate.

These are just some of the basics. There’s so much more to learn though, and if anybody would like to add anything, feel free!

When you’re a slave you become nothing more than property. My property. you are Mine to do with as I please. you give up your rights, your freedom. you now must follow the orders you are given. your life becomes Mine. Everything that was once yours is now Mine, even if you posses very little. I don’t care. It’s Mine now. your cheques are also Mine. you work for Me and I’ll take what I want when I want. In fact you’re lucky that I even allow you to use My money on yourself. But I suppose, a starving boy living in a cardboard box wouldn’t be of much use, and would likely smell worse than the average male. Oh well.

Understand your place, and be grateful for being allowed to serve.  It truly is a privilege.

I realized I made an IG account sometime ago. So today I added some photos and videos. Should you like to hear My voice and laughter, then you’re in for a treat. Though it’ll come at a cost … you’ll be staring at TLH’s balls, so, there’s that … Hahahaha (and don‘t you dare think of reporting them! Lol). Anyways, I’ll try to keep in mind to update it every so often. Perhaps I’ll add more videos as I go along.

MissNorthX@IG

I’m fucking gorgeous, I’m intelligent, clever, funny, creative, mature. I have a great personality, I’m assertive, I don’t take any shit and stand up for the things I believe in. I’m confident and know My worth.

And then there’s you. Some lame ass loser, not even near My level, who wants My time and attention. Of course you want Me, but why would I want you? 

Get down on your fucking knees and give Me exactly what I want. your body to be used as My punching bag, and the contents of your wallet put into My hands. That’s all you have to offer Me.

I get it, a lot of you boneheads have been cheated out of your money. you were promised by a girl that if you sent tribute then she’d do x, y, and z after. Then once she receives the money *poof* she disappears, you’ve lost your money, and did not receive anything that you were promised. 

Thing is, I don’t care. Either you tribute Me or you don’t. If you’re not going to tribute then I’m not going to waste My time on you. Goodbye.

I’ve been around for 8 years, making a good name for Myself among online communities and with many subs and Dommes. I’m certainly not going to take a tribute then disappear, because that is how you get a bad reputation, and My reputation is worth more than your measly $50 gift card. 

If you’ve been burned before I think that would make you more inclined to do your research on a Domme before tributing. And I offer *a lot* of information here on My blog, as well as on My Findoms account. If you go through all of what I have posted and still think, “No, She’s going to rip me off too”, well then, you’re an idiot. Simply put. Bye xx

Many boys are seeking to serve Me, and it’s always asked what is expected of them. A fair question, but I’ve written it out a billion times by now to each and every boy that has come along, so I’m going to make a post to cover it once and for all.

• Have a positive and eager attitude to serve.
• Do everything I say, without fuss and without whining. “No” should not be in your vocabulary! If we are in a cam session and you are told to do something, too long of a hesitation will also be seen as a problem. I want what I want and I want it done NOW.
  
• All boys must be capable and willing to tribute regularly. No tribute? No time for you! I’ll drop you and easily find another boy who can and willtribute.
• I give out tasks with instructions and due dates. All tasks are to be completed properly and sent to Me before the given due date. Should they not be turned in on time you’ll be punished. That is, if I’m in a good mood.  If I’m not in a good mood you may very well be dropped for not following through on orders/being disobedient. I really have a low tolerance for such. (If special circumstances come up I may allow an extension. This does not include things such as “I left it to the last minute and now I can’t finish on time!”)
• All boys must be respectful when speaking to Me. boys are not allowed to swear, and I am to be addressed as Miss. Nothing else. Not Mistress, not Queen, not Goddess. Miss. I also expect boys to show good manners towards other Women. 
• I put every boy in chastity. Orgasms can only be earned with good behavior, and possibly performing something particularly entertaining to Me. I really hate knowing that a boy is experiencing pleasure in something that does not benefit Me at all, so you’ll really have to work for it. 
• Daily emails checking in are expected. When you wake up I should be the first person you message. Even better, sometime during the day a chat on Skype should be had, unless either one of us has a busy day ahead, then we can catch up the next day. But I’ve never had a boy that was too busy to chat to Me. 
• Don’t be clingy. Don’t spam Me with 5 unread messages at a time crying for My attention. This behavior will actually result in the opposite desired affect. I will find you annoying and decide to drop you as a sub. Then you’ll likely get blocked. 
• BE ABLE TO CONVERSE. If I’m having to carry every conversation I will lose interest fast. Also, I know you’re men and your minds are puny, but if you’re dumber than a doorknob with the maturity of a 5 year old, you’re not going to cut it with Me. 

I’m a beautiful, experienced Domme who is good at what I do, and a super bitch when I want to be. I’m desired by many men and I know it. 

Of course I’m not going to bother wasting My time on broke boys. Look at what I have to offer … Look at what you have to offer Me. you think offering your life to Me is enough to make Me happy? your life isn’t even enough to make *you* happy, and you’re a fucking parasite. Imagine what somebody such as Myself thinks of it! Laughable. 

So many boys want My attention, want to be a part of My life, want to serve beneath Me. And I’m only going to accept the boys that are capable of giving Me all that I want because I’m Me, and I can.

I’ve compiled a list of things the average loser male does on his weekend. Each item on the list comes with a $5 tax. Check off all the items that apply to your typical (or even current) weekend, and send Me the tally. I will add up how much you owe Me for being such a sad pathetic waste of air. 

There are 11 items on the list. Keep in mind this task could cost you an additional $55.

To accept the task contact Me at My email [email protected]

Everybody in the findom community is aware of the term “timewaster”. It’s often used to describe those that waste your time … duh. How do they do this? The Domme spends her time on a boy who ultimately ends up not paying her a cent. Thus, her time is wasted. 

Some boys intentionally try to get as much time as possible from a Domme before they have to do their disappearing act once money is expected. They may ask question upon question, wanking off to every answer you supply them with. They may share fantasies with you, or ask “what would you do to Me Goddess? … And then what? … What would you do to me after that?” and so on. Some will promise money to lure you in, but of course never pay up. There’s a few different “tricks”. There are also boys that are genuinely interested in serving and continue to speak with you, having no intention of wasting your time. They simply can’t afford what the Domme expects, they accept that, and move on. 

The thing is, I never feel that My time is wasted on a boy. I don’t get miffed if a boy can’t pay up. I don’t take to My blog to alert everybody of this god awful “timewaster!” lol. Why? Because I’m the one that determines how My time is spent. If I put time towards a boy and see no money for it, well that’s on Me, now isn’t it? Luckily I’ve been doing this awhile, and I can spot all those tricks right off the bat. So I ignore these messages and … do not waste My time on them! Imagine that. As for boys that are genuinely interested in serving Me and can not pay in the end, that is fine as well. I’d rather take My time getting to know a sub, than demand money two messages in and scare off a potential paying sub. It doesn’t upset Me at all when a boy can’t pay. That’s just how things are sometimes. 

It’s been said before by many Women in the findom community, and I’ll say it once more, nobody can waste your time but yourself. So be smart about who you choose to interact with, and how much time you spend on those that you do deem worth taking a chance on. Money is not guaranteed from every interaction. 

There are three tasks included, all of which involve you consuming your piss in one creative, degrading way or another. 

These tasks require certain items that you may need to purchase, and will require access to a bathroom. Keep that in mind before accepting the tasks.

 If you find yourself interested you may contact Me at [email protected]

I’m currently on the lookout for a new sub. I know there’s a few of you that creep around, so if you’ve been thinking about serving now would be your opportunity to step up. 

But before doing so keep in mind what I’m looking for, which would be the following:

• Must be obedient, duh, Following all orders without protest, whining, or asking stupid questions (asking for clarity is fine, but asking “do I have to do that” is obviously a stupid question, now isn’t it?)
  
• All subs of Mine are put into chastity. If you’re not willing to do that then I’m not interested.
• I want a sub that at the very least consumes their own piss, and can endure CBT and other painful tasks. 
• Must be capable of tributing. And no, $20 a month is not acceptable. Can’t believe I actually have to say that. 
• I want a sub with a good, positive attitude. Always eager to serve, pleasant to speak with, and not a black hole of energy. 
• Understands that their role is to serve Me, and not to serve their selves and their selfish desires. 

I won’t be satisfied until you lick these soles completely clean