Fucking Fuck It All…

Well, I’m late to this party of having something to say about the announcement Tumblr made today, but fuck it, I’ve still got some things to say, and I need to get this out - even if it’ll only live here for a few weeks.

We’ve had a lot of messages today, asking for our thoughts, and for most of the day I’ve not known what to say. The shock has left me a little speechless. Now I’m home and not putting out fires at work, and I’ve had a few glasses of a really good 2001 Shiraz so fuck it - I’m feeling more inclined to put down some thoughts.

Both Mrs. and I have a had some things come up in our lives that we’ve had to deal with that have been very difficult. As have many of you. It helps give some perspective to what this is. Is it the worst thing in the world to happen? Is it as bad as some people’s situations all over the world? No to both of those.

I’m not trying to minimize what happened today and how many of us are feeling. It’s a fucking sucker gut punch - and it fucking hurts - it fucking hurts a lot - and it fucking sucks. It makes me angry, sad, and a lot of other emotions. It’s a huge disappointment. This is one of the most Monday things of Monday’s I’ve fucking heard of in a long fucking time.

That being said, we’ll all find a way to move on - but most importantly we’ll hopefully find a way to move on still in contact with those we’ve met here that we’ve made genuine connections with. Tumblr can’t take that away for good.

That’s the most important thing to us. The connections. We’ve made some amazing connections with people here. Real people just like us. Normal everyday people who found a safe place to share their desires and thoughts around sex (and many other topics). We’ve gotten to know some fellow Tumblrs very well. Some we’ve had the chance to meet in person, and some we’ve even gotten to fuck. All in all a pretty fucking great experience overall.

This place has not just been an escape for us, but also a continuing daily lesson into our desires. We’ve learned so much more about what excites us, and it’s helped us grow so much over the last few years - as people, as a couple, as sexual human beings, as swingers - it’s been eye opening and it’s helped us be able to communicate with each other about things we see, ideas it gives us. We’ve felt accepted, and okay for our desires. Not ashamed of what we do, or what we share. Fuck you Tumblr staff for making it seem like we should be ashamed of having NSFW content.

The header of their post about a “better, more positive Tumblr” was such a horseshit title. I mean fuck you and your self righteous moral posturing. You know what’s positive? Deciding to share with others your experience, thoughts, desires, and showing all sizes, shapes, and colors of body types. Now not only will there no longer be no adult content allowed, they’ve gone so far back with regressive pre-1950’s censorship bullshit like “female-presenting nipples” as content that won’t be allowed. Fuck that. While our blog may not completely go away - we do have a few SFW posts over the last five + years, not sure we’ll try to keep it going for very long after the 17th.

I know some people consider what we do “not classy” - frankly I don’t give a fuck and won’t feel ashamed for sharing what we decided to share. It’s who we are, it’s real, it’s honest. It’s positive and Tumblr can quite frankly fuck off they don’t see it as such.

We won’t disagree that child pornography is completely abhorrent and not something we support either. I find it hard to believe they don’t have a way to monitor that better, but still allow consenting adults to post adult content. But let’s be honest, with all their high moral posturing, this is also about money and their ability to monetize a platform and turn this into another Instagram.

Five + years - that’s how long we’ve had this blog.

Over 328,000 followers, and over 122,000 posts - over 4,420 of them our own personal content posts.

We’ve taken ninety eight different photo sets and shared them here.

This is what it comes down to?!?

I said it before - this fucking hurts. I hate having the rug pulled out from under me and that’s exactly what this feels like. We’re grateful for so much here - the people we’ve connected with, what we’ve learned about ourselves, what we’ve been able to share that’s been appreciated - there’s a long list of what to be thankful for - and we genuinely are.

Where to go next for us? I don’t know. It’ll take some time over the next few days to find the best options. Open to suggestions. Again, most importantly, we’ll find a way to keep connected to those we’ve made friendships with. That will outlast the bullshit of this decision.

As I’m writing this, listening to some music to help process this, these words came across my headphones to my ears and heart…

“I have lost a hero, I have lost a friend, but for you darling, I’d do it all again” because “You’re the only motherfuckers in the city who can handle me.” - St. Vincent