As a fashion item, men’s neckties make no sense. Seriously, think about it. It’s basically just a noose around his neck. Half the time it’s either dragging through your food, knocking shit off your desk, or threatening to get caught on something and strangle you. They make no sense.
That is… until you realize that everywhere you go, you’re now carrying a ready-made short silk rope, perfect for gently tying wrists or ankles together. Or a blindfold…
But teasing the hell out of him, right before he needs to leave the house, to the point that he’s leaking, walking funny, and thinking about me all day long? Oh, HELL YEAH!
I think there’s a little bit of Switch in all of us.
In public, my husband and I are an ordinary married couple. Our friends have no idea how kinky we are. If you asked them to be honest, they would probably call us “boring” (in a nice way).
My husband is bigger than me, stronger than me, so wise and so calm, it’s almost spooky. Where I’m an emotional basket-case, he is the epitome of “strong, silent type.” Okay… maybe not “silent” – but there is a quiet confidence inside him – an invisible power behind his every move and thought. Most people don’t see it… but I do.
Mind and body together, my husband is the strongest person I’ve ever known.
Which is why I find it so incredibly, body-quakingly, heart-meltingly sexy when I utterly dominate him in the bedroom. His surrender to me is the single greatest gift I’ve ever received, because I know it can only be given – never taken.
I cherish his submission. His willing body is a jewel – gifted, in secret, to me – and I make sure to wear it every day, even if only for a moment. I wear it in the bedroom. In the shower. In the kitchen. On the sofa. Sometimes I unwrap it for a while in the car, during long road trips, just to feel it in my hands – to remind myself it’s mine, and smile with contentment…
But every now and then – on rare days – I loan him my jewel. I submit. I let him dominate me, just for a little while. Just for tonight. I am still me. He is still he. Our roles simply switch.
He takes me with his same quiet strength – the same sexy confidence that makes me love him every day. And I melt in his hands…
Earlier this week, I answered a follower’s question about blowjobs. I explained that the blowjobs you see in porn are totally unrealistic. Unlike in porn, in real life:
you do not have to stick his dick down your throat; instead, just lick and suck the underside of his shaft, focusing on his “Sweet Spot” just below the head
youuse your hands just as much as your mouth
you do not have to suck him to completion; a blowjob can be part of foreplay
if you do finish him, you do not have to take his cum in your mouth; you can use your hands to direct it elsewhere
This video clip perfectly demonstrates what I’m talking about. She licks and sucks his Sweet Spot; she uses her hands; she never sticks his dick in her mouth; and when he climaxes, she makes sure none of his juice goes in her mouth. This is a sexy, intense, clean blowjob onherterms – and her man is very satisfied! (hear him grunting?)
Copy this exact technique, and I guarantee your man will be thrilled!
I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.
It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he islowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.
Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages per week than you’ve ever had before.
Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive,passionateandcaring.
His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.
You’llnever have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about youfordays at a time eager to please.
The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’lltrain him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.
You’llnever have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;) its good to use these things againsthim,teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.
Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful,attentiveboyfriend you have. They will be jealous of yourstrong,committedrelationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.
He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?
He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.
In summary, you will get a lot more pleasureinanywayyouwant, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and willnevercheat.
I agree with pretty much all of this, except for the part about a physical chastity device. Trust and voluntary commitment are important parts of the unique relationship between me and my husband. I trust him to keep his word when he promises not to masturbate without me; and his commitment to rely on me for pleasure is voluntary at all times. In our specific relationship, I believe this makes our psychological and emotional bond deeper, because “easy escape” is always just one temptation away – yet he wills himself not to indulge. I adore him for that.
In my humble opinion:
You cannot deny someone a pleasure that is physically impossible anyway. True denial is when he chooses, by sheer willpower alone, to forego pleasure that is easily within his reach.
But I have absolutely nothing against enforced chastity and the couples who enjoy it. You do your thing with all your heart, and do it proud!
Moreover, the basic concept is exactly the same… You and your man are both better off when you control his orgasms!
Wonderfully sexy! This is one of my all-time favorite ways to enjoy my husband’s love and attention. For my pleasure, his warm, wet, firm tongue feels absolutely fantastic (that’s a given…). For his pleasure, he gets to feel my pussy convulsing on his mouth – pretty much the most intimate possible way to share my climax with him (a climax that he carefully, lovingly created – he deserves to enjoy it, too!). But there’s something else that really puts this pose over the top, for me…
My view.
From this position, I can look down and see his entire body. All of it. His chest, his nipples, his hips, his cock. It’s all mine, easily at my fingertips. I can see every beautiful contraction of his abs. The rise and fall of his breath. The strained pulses and glistening leakage of his untouched cock. His body is my guitar, to pluck and strum, and the music is immediate. I can pinch his nipples (hard!) and feel him grunt into my clit. I can run my hands slowly down his stomach and watch his toes curl. I can stop just short of his manhood and feel the surge of urgency fire up his spine, straight through his mouth, and into me.
There’s no need to touch his cock – I might go the whole ride without touching it once. I know, with 100% certainty, that simply coming close, teasing his belly and waist while my own hips quake, is more than enough pleasure for him in this position. How do I know? The proof is obvious! His every grunt and moan sends divine, unmistakable tremors directly into my clit. I can see the continuous stream of precum running down his dick. His body tells the truth his pride might never admit. His body tells me he’s happy, right here, exactly like this, nothing less and nothing more. So I keep him happy. I relish the view. And I grind myself to bliss…
