#hotwife advice
Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”
Hotwife: A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.
Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding
Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.
Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.
Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.
Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.
Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement
Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.
Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.
Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.
Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.
MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.
MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.
FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.
FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.
Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.
Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.
Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.
Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.
SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.
Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation. Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.
Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.
Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.
Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.
Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.
Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.
Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.
Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.
BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.
BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.
Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.
Defining things… naming is inherent to human nature; here a set of definitions worth to be shared in order to get a better understanding.
The Hotwife / Cuckold fantasy is one of the fastest growing fantasies out there.
More and more men are finding the thought of their wives and girlfriends sleeping with another man arousing for a large variety of reasons.
This post is not about why men want this or why women should do this. This post is about the respect your wife or girlfriend deserves, whether she decides to go along with your fantasy or not.
I see post after post from men asking how they can convince their significant other to have sex with other men, but you also need to know how to handle it if she doesn’t want to have sex with other men.
My wife knows about my fantasies and agrees that the idea is hot, but she has not agreed to act on the fantasy in real life. I love my wife and would never force her to do anything she is not comfortable with. So far my wife teases me about having a boyfriend and lovers, as well as some light MFM role play in the bedroom. While I hope that it goes father one day, I am okay if she stops here.
You can’t let this consume you or get in the way of your relationship. If you love and respect each other, then you have to also respect each other’s boundaries. Don’t get mad or upset id she says she only wants to be with you! What a great honor to have a woman who loves you so much that she is willing to forsake all others.
The bottom line is she is your wife or girlfriend, not a piece of meat for you to whore out.
Please love each other and share your journey together. No one should ever be forced to do something they might come to regret. They will resent you for it in the long run. That resentment will be a cancer in your relationship.
Thank you for letting me have my soap box moment.
Reality as it should be.
