Was walking my dog downtown and he stopped to drink from a dog bowl in front of a bar and I was like “Oh, are you a thirsty little boy?” And a grown-ass man sitting there said “i guess I am,” as he took a sip of his beer and then he realized I was not talking to him and looked completely horrified
I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.
So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.
Sometimes you just come across something that puts into words what you have yet been unable to.
complex trauma be like. ‘would you enjoy an incredibly insane set of rules to live your life by so you survive except all of the rules contradict each other’ and then you have to go to therapy forever
I think the text of Dracula is greatly elevated by delivering it to us over email in this way, solely and exclusively for the implication that Jonathan Harker, upon realising that he has been trapped alone in the house of some kind of supernatural being, reacts not by using his computer to reach out for help but by telling all of his besties about it like “Is this weird? this is weird right? It’s my first assignment at this entry level job and I just can’t tell”
…oh my god.
Do you know what we need? We need the modern au where Jonathan is writing in to Ask a Manager to find out if his job is weird, he really doesn’t know, practicing law is crazy, is this stuff normal? And both Alison and all 1000+ comments are people yelling “IT’S NOT NORMAL, GET THE FUCK OUT”.
he just soldiers through because like … how do you tell your boss “oh yeah I left without meeting with the client because everyone at Bucharest International Airport said he was an undead abomination” and the commentariat gives him a script for telling his boss he left because the client assaulted him and broke his property without needing to justify why he thinks the client is a vampire
