#intellectually i do register the problem

“If you hurt someone else by accident in a vulnerable moment, and they didn’t trust you enough to tell you that you hurt them, you’d be distressed, because no one wants to hurt someone they care about. You would want to make it better, you would feel guilty, you would be worried for them.”

Well yeah! I would feel awful!

But, you see, it’s ME that it happened to, so no one should feel bad! I see that you think there’s a connection, but there isn’t! It’s NBD if I’m the one hurt, whereas it’s a problem if someone else is!