#refraining from questioning

I realize that I’ve been putting pressure on myself to settle the question of whether I’m gay or bi. But I don’t actually want or need an answer, so I’ve decided to simply un-ask the question. This is not an agnostic stance. I think I coulddetermine an answer; I’m choosing not to.

I think there’s a parallel* here with people who identify primarily as nonbinary - specifically, those enbies whose answer to “Are you a man or a woman?” is just “No.” It seems to me that they have effectively un-asked the question rather than answering it.

I feel like not having an answer might get me shoehorned into the ‘questioning’ category by default, and that’s not really true. I don’t know and I’m not trying to find out. I’m just gonna roll with whoever I’m attracted to and proceed peacefully and unperturbed. no thoughts head empty.

*aparallel, not an exact 1:1 equivalence