[image description: a series of tweets from Cliff Jerrison @ pervocracy dated 24th of March. The tweets read:
if your child doesn’t come out until they’ve moved out and have a strong non-family support system
they didn’t JUST become trans ya dingdong
they just became safe from you
and I hope you feel every bit of what that means
and if your child starts HRT or gets a surgery date the day after they come out to you,
no, they didn’t start medical transition on day one
it’s day several hundred and you’re the last to know
(media should REALLY stop taking parents’ word on this particular point)
(sorry if this is a little unfair to parents of people who transitioned later in life for other reasons and do have a decent relationship, but if you are one of those you already know it instead of having a giant grudge around “my child didn’t even give me a CHANCE to stop them”)
All my love to the people replying to this with your stories, and – please don’t feel guilty. You do not owe your parents a trust they did not earn. You deserve, and did as a child, to be seen and loved as yourself. [heart emoji]
once again I must scream to the heavens that a lot of parents fucking suck and choosing not to come out to them until you near the point where you physically can’t hide your transition is not “suddenly becoming trans”, it is basic self-defense
“mom, I think I might be transgender, but I’m not sure, can you help me work through my feelings” - something that in some families is a reasonable request, and in others you might as well pour barbecue sauce down your shirt and climb in a tiger cage
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…maybe the biggest problem is the fact that you already wanted to stop them and that’s why you found out last
