#this was beautifully written
Most of fandom fantasizes about Cassian being a doting, himbo of a partner (one could only dream) but ACOSF affirmed he had no emotional maturity and does not affirm Nesta at all. It’s all conditional.
So colored me troubled when I see red flags about him being this doting, loving father but if he exhibits conditional love and stunted emotional maturity with the woman he loves (but doesn’t even say to her face), how would he actually parent tho?
Consider it from someone who grew up in a strict household with a very corporal father, Cassian is someone who does not tolerate insubordination and has an huge inferiority complex. That’s the military complex manifesting in man with little depth or personal discipline.
So when someone says he’s going to be this doting dad, I don’t see it because I see a man who cannot comprehend emotional outbursts but his own; who gets frustrated easily when his daughters act too much like their stubborn mother; he’s a man who lashes out impulsively and doesn’t think twice about his loaded words .
Can you imagine this man reaching his breaking point because his daughter is having a moment and saying something like “you’re so difficult! How can anyone love you?” And then struggling to back track that? If he can say that to Nesta when she’s trying to distance himself from a draining confrontation, how will he act to the door being slammed in his face because his daughter is overwhelmed and wants to have privacy? Like kid (especially girls) do??
Between him and Nesta, realistically Nesta would be the emotionally sensitive parent while Cassian would be the ticking time bomb to give his kids a complex because he doesn’t have the patience to handle people he can’t easily diffuse.
That’s my take and why each day I steer further away from Nessian. Fandom Nessian is great - but it’s so far from canon.
