imagine opening the newspaper over your morning coffee and the first article is a piece by your wife about how much she fucking hates you
Oh god I just looked this up and it’s…worse than I was anticipating tbh like it’s literally just a bunch of aimless complaining about stuff her husband does that annoys her and also her smug disdain for the idea of someone not hating their spouse is killing me
I kept waiting for it to be satire but it just. Never was satire
lady I think this might have something to do with why you’re having problems
it’s like. her problems with him mostly seem like a petty list of random annoyances. that have no fucking business being an Article. an op-ed. this should be like. a text message. to your husband. an conversation……
instead of an op-ed for the new york times
like, his snoring is keeping her awake, why,,,,,, doesn’t she just SAY THAT,,,, instead of writing…an article in the new york times………like. just talk. just use your big person adult words.
maybe get a divorce, idk.
maybe even let me have him.
SHE’S WRITING A MEMOIR ABOUT HER MARRIAGE?
Is it just me, or is it weird how Straight People™ will talk about marriage like it is fundamentally, deeply different than all other relationships, some kind of numinous torture that can’t be stopped or adjusted or examined in a productive way?
Coexisting in the same space, in the same life, with a person, displaying all your flaws, is irritating and messy and hard! But I can’t imagine relating to how fraught and intense and distressing this woman’s relationship seems.
My most long-lasting people are also those with whom my relationship modulates and buffers its own highs and lows the most. Being flung into extremes of emotion is something I associate with my most toxic, unhealthy relationships, and it has a lot to do with the inherent instability and the sense of trying to constantly wrestle with the relationship, being cast from hope to dread about it, not being given clarity or being able to communicate with the other person.
With any healthy relationship I find there’s a very calm bedrock. You know that you can talk to the person, that they will listen to you, that you are both prepared to meet each other with understanding and grace. You might be annoyed with the person, but you can just say it without letting annoyance build forever.
