we cannot ever resolve the problem of violence against children in our society unless we give up the idea that the worst thing a child can be is disobedient.
this is what so many people are failing to understand when they whine about how youth rights advocates should stop concerning ourselves with silly little things and just worry when there’s “real abuse” happening. the two causes are one and the same. perpetuating the idea that children are morally obligated to be submissive primes them for abuse. perpetuating the idea that parents must be dominant in order to be fulfilling their responsibilities encourages them to be abusive.
stop praising kids for submissiveness. stop remarking on how “good” they are when they don’t argue or complain. stop equating “respect” with obedience. stop calling a child “well-behaved” when what you really mean is that they’re being silent and taking up as little space as possible.
instead, praise kids for goodness and moral strength that come from within. recognize them for acts of kindness and selflessness. show pride in them for helping others. encourage them when they take responsibility. support them when they stand up for themselves.
stop praising parents for dominance. stop expressing wonder at their ability to keep their children on a short leash, to silence them with a word, or to strike fear into their hearts with a look. stop looking impressed when parents gleefully expound on all the ways they’ve been “tough” on their kids.
instead, praise parents for cultivating good human relationships with their kids. tell them how great it is to see them make their kids smile. recognize them for respecting their kids, for talking to them like people. encourage them to spend time just hanging out with their kids, in moments that aren’t about teaching or correcting or giving orders. recognize the courage it takes for them to admit when they’re wrong. support them when other adults cast judgmental eyes because they’re not being disciplinarians.
making things better starts with how we talk to each other.
Now on Season 5 and I think that the entity, Downton Abbey, not sane, has three particular characters that it “loves” more than others:
Lady Mary, above all. By my count, the House kills for Mary between five and six times and somewhere around the Season 4 Christmas special Mary has completely surrendered. She and Downton have merged, nothing human left.
Tom Branson, but maybe only as father to Sibby? That’s more logical but It’s darker to imagine that the House loved him at first sight and wanted to keep him and eventually killed to do it.
Thomas Barrow, the rare and beautiful boy Shirley Jackson character! Their love is true! Hand in unloveable hand. The House won’t quite kill Lady Edith for Thomas but will maim her a teeny bit because, on a related note, It especially enjoys torturing Edith.
You have just completely sold me on this reading!
It reminds me of The Snow Queen story or humans kidnapped and glamoured by Faeries.
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IN PHOTOS: Celebrations spread after Joe Biden is projected to win 2020 presidential election
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first time using tumblr so i’m still figuring out how this works but umm i made an oc for a magical world a friend of mine created with a cool magic school with 5 houses and stuff
they’re @/ thelittleelliot on instagram you should check out their art :]
anyway i basically created them so that @cloudizc ’s oc had someone to make out with in the school bathroom lmao
i’m so tired of the online art influencer mentality that in a sketchbook everything in it has to look amazing and polished and flawless it’s so performative!!!! sketchbooks should be for drawing stupid shit
the concept of zuko owning a used bookstore that’s also a cat cafe now lives rent free in my mind
he adopts specifically black cats, because of the stigma against them, he has a grouchy one that he calls ‘mai’ and a food-loving & hyper-active one he calls ‘sokka’, human-mai and human-sokka are notamused
the one that hangs around the wheat plant and chews on it is ‘jet’
number one most treasured and cherished headcanon I have is that maya and pearl stay with nick in his apartment whenever they’re in the city so sometimes he just has two wacky roommates. bc of this nick always keeps some of mayas favorite snacks on hand for her and has a little stool in the bathroom for pearly so she can reach the sink *dies* *explodes*
Do regular commenters know just how valued they are? I mean, obviously ALL commenters are valued, but as a fic writer when you’ve got a group of familiar usernames and profile pics who pop up again and again like old friends to share their thoughts and appreciation on one of your fics, that’s so special. I hope my regular commenters know that I remember them, and I recognise them each time they come back, and I am so incredibly grateful for them not only leaving comments, but leaving them time and time again. I hope they know they’re making someone, somewhere, smile.
I have decided on a new constellation. I call it The Bees. If you look up at the night sky and see all those sparkly dots, congratulations. You see The Bees. I have just made astrology 10000x easier, you’re welcome.
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