#youth of color
Sun, 24 Feb 2013 20:21:14
Sat, 16 Feb 2013 09:12:25
ive been feeling that way working with youth. like it’d be easy to write them off cos i hear a lot of fucked up shit from them but it’s like *my job* like literally my job to call em out and educate and help em learn and grow but lawd its stressfulYeah, it’s hard sometimes. I feel like this was a habit I got into being around really insular, mostly white radicals, where everything was about proving how radical every single action and opinion of yours is and where calling people out on minutia is basically a sport.
It’s also been a necessary defense mechanism for me to be able to cut people off quickly and easily, so I know when it’s about my personal relationships it’s often a PTSD thing and I got no problem with being able to do that.
But, it’s definitely hard when you’re working with youth. Because they’re still coming into how they understand the world around them and what they think and believe and want and value, and it’s really complicated and you have to do weird things like act unnaturally tough or navigate gender roles that don’t make sense to you or give in to peer pressure. Being in a high school it’s awesome to see them grow up and evolve through all these things.
But it’s bumpy for sure. And sometimes their bumps are really disappointing, like something to the point that you don’t even want to say anything. Sometimes I just tell them, “That’s really disappointing” and let them think about it, cause they know I’m normally rooting for them really hard.
Bottom line is, I’m there to advocate for my students, and the ones I work with are almost all youth of color, and advocating for them means specifically NOT being part of a whole system and society that writes them off and pushes them out. So it would have to be an extreme case where I would let myself give up on one of them completely. But there are definitely moments where I walk away for a minute, and let them know I’m walking away. And then come back asking questions. Cause if they’re gonna run their mouths off with some fucked up shit (which, realistically, is what teenagers do, and definitely what I did as a teenager as well), at the very least they better do the work to unpack it and defend it and fess up if they didn’t even think before they spoke, which is what it comes down to a lot of the time.