A submissive doesn’t have self esteem issues. Let me repeat that. A submissive, inherently

A submissive doesn’t have self esteem issues.

Let me repeat that. A submissive, inherently, does not have any self esteem issues. 

There is no reason to equate the two. As Hume said, correlation does not imply causation. Just because there are submissives out there who have low self esteem, who find it really difficult to think of themselves in a positive light, does not mean that they are doomed to that fate, or deserve it. 

Part of it is down to the easy assumption that one can make between a submissive and the inferior half of a relationship. They’re not the one in control, they’re not the leader, and therefore they aren’t the superior party. Ergo, they are inferior. 

I’d hope you know that that is utter bollocks. It’s not about superior or inferior. It’s about control, and the allowance of one party to concede the power to the other. In many ways, providing that control to the Dominant helps their ego. You’re already assured enough in yourself that you don’t need the control.

The last thing you should do, though, is assume you should be submissive because you’ve got low self esteem. I’ve seen it happen a few times, and all it does is further grind down what little self worth they think they have. It’s awful.

No, you should absolutely love yourself. Adore yourself. You are a glorious thing, and you’re doing a glorious thing, giving yourself over to someone else. You’re displaying a beautiful trust, and you’re demonstrating an impressive maturity. There’s nothing at all demeaning, or shameful, or inferior about submitting. 

Quite the opposite, in fact.