Someone I work with is divorced too and we got together a week ago for drinks at my favorite dive. W

Someone I work with is divorced too and we got together a week ago for drinks at my favorite dive. We talked about work, but also about dating as formerly long-time married women.

She is scandalously dating someone 20 years younger than herself. She says her friends all applaud her (I did too), but she can’t shake the feeling she’s keeping someone from living their destiny.

“He should be a father. He wants to be. I’m not on that path anymore.”

It hurt me to hear her deny herself happiness with someone she’s obviously grown to love. l told her to trust him when he says he wants to be with her. That he’s a big boy, she’s having fun, and it will all sort itself out.

I also confided that I feel like I’m in high school…..unrequited crushes, bad boys, being too shy to speak, getting extra twiterpated when someone new likes me.

She says that’s because I met my ex in high school. Thats the only way I know how to date. Like a high schooler.