don’t get me wrong i love seeing aroace rep bc im also aroace but i wish there was a character that was just aromantic without the ace.a non-sam aro or alloaro.bc a lot of aroace characters their asexuality overshadows their aromanticism SO much and it’s like creators are scared to make a character that’s strictly aro meanwhile there’s no problem making characters be ace and not aro
yeah that’s literally the thing that made me make this post</3
lilith was said to “not like being courted”(paraphrased) and courting referes to romance yet everyone was labeling her as aroACE???? even though there wasn’t anything about her asexuality? people just automatically associate aromanticism/lack of romantic attraction with asexuality and it’s so fucking tiring
and as for jaidenanimations she didnt spend the majority of her video explaining aromanticism and her experience with it and go as far to say she prefers it over her ace identity for you all to highlight her asexuality and don’t talk about her aromanticism unless it’s also alongside ace lol
[ID: Tags reading “ # this makes me think of: # a) when that jayden YT came out and literally 75% of her video was about her aromanticness and how she valued that more # all anyone could seem to comment was ‘yay ACE!” or 'yay aroace!’ but idk if i saw outside of my own tumblr talk of being like 'yay aro!’ # and b) the toh character Lilith Clawthorne was named aroace by word of god via an uncanon dialogue letter and the letter is just…. aro # and yet her comments here on tumblr are mostly 'yay ace character!!!’ shes not even canon imo until that letter gets read in the canon.“ /End ID]
[ID: Four pride icons featuring Sea of Thieves characters. The first icon shows DeMarco Singh in front of the alloaro flag. Second icon shows Belle in front of the aroace flag. Third icon shows Sir Arthur Pendragon in front of the demiromantic flag. Last icon shows Captain Briggsy in front of the non-SAM aro flag. End ID.]
So apparently it’s time for another self dx info post because people are gross
INFO:
basics
self diagnosis isn’t looking at one post and going “hey thats me, im autistic”
self diagnosis includes research and introspection
self diagnosis of multiple disorders is reasonable - comorbidity is common (see: autism and ADHD, ADHD and SPD, many personality disorders with each other, though more than one is rarely diagnosed due to overlapping traits)
self diagnosis doesn’t take away resources from anyone
the only people who don’t take a disorder seriously “because of” self diagnosis don’t take it seriously anyway
the DSM is available online
it doesn’t matter if they’re wrong - if they’re self diagnosing it’s because they had a problem and the resources and coping mechanisms within ____ community helpedthem.
re: doctors
many doctors refuse to diagnose
a lot of these reasons are racism and sexism
some traits/symptoms are internal and are therefore not seen by doctors
doctors diagnose based on behavior. people self-dx based on.. behavior.
re: racism, classism, sexism
many poc (especially black people) are diagnosed with “being {race}”
many people who are perceived as girls won’t be diagnosed because {sexist reason such as ‘girls cant get autism’ - yes thats a real reason people have been denied diagnosis}
going to a professional is expensive. it doesn’t matter if you were “obviously _____” or not - it’s expensive.
hey just so everyone knows: this post has over 1,000 notes and 2 people were jerks. 2.
From the background, you can hear me Highest billing, makes a killing, they revere me That beautiful mask you wear is all I desire So you be the spy, And I’ll be the liar
[ ID : A drawing of the Servant of the Flame from Sea of Thieves. Their mask is cracked in half to reveal a skeletal face beneath their red hood. The image is primarily black, with red lineart, accented with white, red, and gold. The Servant’s eye is a red gem, and a crack crosses the center of their face horizontally. A gloved hand holds the broken mask into place. ]
