#a little rant
These two mfers has to be the two “semes” i hate THE MOST in the history of all the yaoi manga/webtoon that i have read…..and i have read a considerable amount of fxcked up/psychological stories…..
ALT
Norihiko from Cha Wookyung from
Tourou no ori. Sadistic beauty
“BL” story.
But at least with Norihiko,i still believe he is a very well written fxcked up seme,despite how i hate him…besides with him,you feel there is hope he might get his comeuppance. But with how SB’s author writes her story,i cant say the same for Wookyung
Also, can we please make ranting and venting about stuff normal?
I’m not a “negative person” and I don’t give negativity “too much room” in my life.
Talking about it and telling ppl how upset I am is my way of dealing with it. I need to get it out of my system or it sticks with me.
And btw, Karen, it’s not my problem if you take my problem and make it yours, or if you think me telling you about something upsetting for me means I now gave you my package. No. I put the package between us and you chose to pick it up. Not my fucking problem. And please don’t tell me you don’t want to hear my negativity. Please. I have to deal with your crude positivity on a daily basis, and that’s no fun either. So just stfu.
There are people who process internally, and people who process externally. If you are an external processer, you likely can’t move on or work through your feelings without expressing them. Writing or creating on some way may help, but verbally expressing to someone else is generally the shortest path to dealing with it and moving on.
If you don’t get the negative things out, they fester in whatever mental box you stuffed them in, and will end up compounding some other problem when you do get a chance to process.
Sometimes life is heavy. Expressing that gives you a chance to set the load down, take a breath, and gather your strength to keep going.
also like, how hard is it to go “damn, that’s fucked up” to your friend?? you don’t gotta feel everything they feel, you don’t gotta solve their problems, you just gotta listen!!
and like, I know it’s considered rude or whatever, but it makes me feel a bit better when somebody tells me a story that’s kind of like my thing that’s bugging me! like, maybe they ether really get it, or they understand some aspects of it, even if they don’t fully empathize with the whole thing perfectly, and like, everybody has different lives, so that’s not even a reasonable expectation most of the time.
even better if it’s a funny story. like, if you want people to cheer up, it’s ok to make an effort to cheer them up.
and like, sometimes, I’ll tell a story and I won’t realize how fucked up it was until my friend goes “damn, that’s fucked up” like, sometimes you just need Perspective on your Life that you’re not going to get otherwise.
Great additions to my post, thank you @iplaywithstringand@ocean-again!!
Also @diamondot how could you hide that in the tags?
In addition, yesterday I learned that this thing is called toxic positivity and that’s exactly it.
