The other day I watched a little boy get knocked to the ground by an older kid who was running by. He burst into tears as his mother hurried over.
“Here’s a bandaid for ya,” I said, producing one from my vest pocket.
“Oh, he’s not bleeding, thank you though!”
I lowered my voice and leaned in. “Kids think bandaids are health magic,” I said. “Ask him where it hurts and exploit that placebo effect.”
She did just that, and instantly the kid stopped crying and thanked her. “I’ll have to remember that,” she said.
Children: #HACKED
Also if you have a crying kid give them a cup of water. You can’t cry and drink at the same time and it gives them a chance to calm down.
Tell them their going to run out of tears so they drink the water.
My mom does this at her preschool after awhile the other children start offering the crying child little cups of water.
Stuff like this is also a great test to see if the kid is actually seriously injured! Because with how much some kids cry over tiny bumps and scrapes, it can be hard to tell. But if you slap a Band-Aid on it or give them a cup of water or a piece of candy and they stop crying, they’re fine. If they keep crying despite whatever little placebo or distraction you’ve given them, you might wanna look a little closer at that injury or seek medical attention.
With my two’s class we ask them “more hurt or more scary?” It takes a bit of practice but after a few times they can answer without more prompting. More scary gets a hug and more hurt gets a look over.
That last one is so important because it validates the child’s feelings and tells them it’s okay to have these feelings and lets them learn how to deal with them, rather than just distracting them from them. I also helps teach the child to both communicate their feelings more readily and communicate when they’re hurt more clearly. All really important skills for a child to develop young.
you don’t have to be skinny to be your gender. if youre a trans girl you don’t have to be skinny to pass or to be feminine.
if you’re a trans boy you don’t have to be skinny to pass or to look like those popular trans boys.
if you’re nonbinary you don’t have to be skinny to be androgynous.
Fat/chubby/just not skinny trans/nb people are so important.
As a kid I literally had the thought “well I’m fat, I couldn’t possibly be gay / trans!” because I rarely saw any examples of trans people in media back then, and the only gay people I saw were thin (unless depicted as a negative “unattractive” comical character).
Hmm consider that Sarek has just gotten used to celebrating Yom Kippur, Passover, Rosh Hashanah, and Hannukah, when Michael joins the family and starts asking “are we going to have a Christmas tree?” with big eyes and now there’s an entirely new set of human holidays he has to get used to.
Vulcan neighbors watching Sarek chop down a tree, drag it into his house, and hang lights from it: It looks as if Illogical Sarek from next door has finally lost the rest of his wits.
But he’ll do it, for the human members of his family. He doesn’t understand the holidays, they’re illogical, they’re contradictory, but he observes all the traditions and participates in the rituals with all the solemn dignity they deserve. (He does approve of the Christmas Pickle, because it sharpens the children’s observational skills.)
Sarek attempts to draw the line at leaving out milk and cookies for Santa, because he doesn’t want the food to spoil, but Michael is so quietly heartbroken at his response that he builds her a little stasis field generator so she can leave out offerings for her imaginary friend.
Her bubbling delight the next morning that “Santa came all the way to Vulcan for me!” is worth any stares or opprobrium from the neighbors. It’s a vulgar display of emotion, but she has time yet to learn control. She’s a child, a human child. She can have this Christmas joy. Amanda’s love and gratitude floods their bond.
Once again, Sarek confirms for himself that it was in fact logical for him to marry a human woman, because no Vulcan would have tolerated the excess of his embrace of this facet of IDIC, and they both would have been miserable.
10000000 points for knowing about the christmas pickle
I have not been online, but I cannot keep silent now.
I am not in Ukraine, I cannot speak on the behalf of the Ukranian people.
I live in Russia.
Today I woke up to find the news about the beginning of war: I was terrified, and then I read about what the citizens of Ukraine woke up to. Being in a region that does not border with Ukraine, I can only imagine the terror of those who are still there.
This is not a war of the countries, this is an invasion of a power-hungry government. The people of Russia don’t want the war. I am ashamed to be living under a “leader” who allows his greed destroy lives, and I am terrified, both for the Ukranian people and for us.
Today, there have been anti-war protests in the Russian cities, more than 1700 people were arrested. The ordinary people do not want this war, we are angry and we are scared.
Please, listen to the voices of the Ukranian citizens, of the Russian citizens, approach the news you find online critically, double-check the facts and do not spread false information.
Diane has gone through the same transformation as Wolf. She knows exactly what he’s feeling. She becomes his mentor, probably to make amends for who she used to be, because I think deep down, she has a little bit of guilt for never having really taken responsibility for what she did as the Crimson Paw. And I think by helping Wolf, she sees an opportunity for redemption. “I’m gonna teach you. I’m gonna show you. You have to let go all of those burdens that you are carrying with you: you’re not a bad guy because everybody says you’re a bad guy. Deep down you are a good guy; you’re a good person. Just accept that. Embrace it. It’s okay. Your pride should not get in the way of this.” And so she’s holding his hand throughout that journey, and I think that’s something that she wished somebody had done for her.
Director Pierre Perifel, The Art of The Bad Guys
the bad guys spoilers ahead!
this is why wolf covering for her as crimson paw is such an important and heartwarming moment in the film. I think, in those few seconds of silence before she confesses, it really hits him how much she has struggled in the same sense of self. obviously it’s something he has known, it isn’t a moment of sudden realisation, but it’s a proper chance for him to show both his admiration and gratefulness for diane in a way only she would understand right there and then. when wolf stepped in, I got a little emotional to be honest. it was a beautiful scene that, at face value, can be viewed as a simple act of kindness but once you connect more to these characters and delve into their relationships you can clearly see the true gravity behind a subtle interception.
That’s what makes their chemistry so pure. These two characters might have different lifestyles, but they have the same struggle – recognition. Understanding each other’s perspectives on the value of kindness and embracing for who they are. Diane probably struggles the most with accepting herself even though she hasn’t taken the appropriate consequences for her actions as the Crimson Paw, but she tries to make amends for her wrongdoings. She reinvigorates Wolf that he can change his way of life and make a difference for himself and his friends. The scene when Mr. Wolf gives Diane the ring back, and her reaction was so beautiful. It shows how much her guidance and inspiration change him and how she finally feels renovated. Their evolution shows how much they’ve been through and how they can lift each other up to become better people. That’s what I call genuine love.
Diane has gone through the same transformation as Wolf. She knows exactly what he’s feeling. She becomes his mentor, probably to make amends for who she used to be, because I think deep down, she has a little bit of guilt for never having really taken responsibility for what she did as the Crimson Paw. And I think by helping Wolf, she sees an opportunity for redemption. “I’m gonna teach you. I’m gonna show you. You have to let go all of those burdens that you are carrying with you: you’re not a bad guy because everybody says you’re a bad guy. Deep down you are a good guy; you’re a good person. Just accept that. Embrace it. It’s okay. Your pride should not get in the way of this.” And so she’s holding his hand throughout that journey, and I think that’s something that she wished somebody had done for her.
Director Pierre Perifel, The Art of The Bad Guys
the bad guys spoilers ahead!
this is why wolf covering for her as crimson paw is such an important and heartwarming moment in the film. I think, in those few seconds of silence before she confesses, it really hits him how much she has struggled in the same sense of self. obviously it’s something he has known, it isn’t a moment of sudden realisation, but it’s a proper chance for him to show both his admiration and gratefulness for diane in a way only she would understand right there and then. when wolf stepped in, I got a little emotional to be honest. it was a beautiful scene that, at face value, can be viewed as a simple act of kindness but once you connect more to these characters and delve into their relationships you can clearly see the true gravity behind a subtle interception.
Leftists, I want y’all to destroy the idea of “laziness” yesterday
Motivation, patience, and energy are limited resources, especially for people with executive dysfunction, mental disabilities, and physical disabilities.
Next time you want to assume you or someone else is being “lazy”, consider the actual reasons behind why there is not enough in them to do the thing.
Left to their own devices, free people are naturally driven to improve their lives and the lives of others,
Right wing arguments’ foundations depends on the assumption that humans are naturally selfish, evil, and “lazy”, and must be controlled by higher powers and punished when they don’t contribute enough (with the insistence that certain groups of people are more deserving of being controlled and punished than others)
Next time you notice you or someone else is struggling to accomplish something, don’t assume “laziness”, instead ask yourself: am I tired? Depleted of patience? In a bad mood? If I keep pushing myself through this, will it really be worth the distress?
Maybe what you need is rest, someone to talk to, mental health support, or to just be safe,withall your needs being met. Maybe we should eliminate “laziness” as an easy explanation and instead consider our needs first.
I hope you don’t mind me adding this article. I think it is relevant and it had a hand in shaping my thoughts on the matter.
This is much broader but just want to add: as a disabled person almost all leftist ableism I’ve encountered can be boiled down to “You people contribute less/use more resources/help fewer people because you’re lazy and not hard-working, therefor whatever utopian community we’re imagining has no place for you/you’re as bad as the oppressor class/etc”.
Standards of laziness vs what people “should” be able to do to ~contribute socially~ are basically always set based on able bodied and NT people and much of this discourse has ableism baked into its very foundations. If leftists want to combat it they HAVE to get rid of “laziness” and “dependency” as negatives (because we are all interdependent and all have limitations).
i want to fall in love with him, starting with the tattoo on his shoulder and moving out from there. bit by bit, i want to know every part of him. i want it to start by asking, so why’d you get that tat? and never stop.
(wlm/nblm dni)
I want to show him all the art I have saved, and for him to help me pick out where I’m going to place them. Tell him the meaning of all the dates, flowers and paws that litter my arms. I want him to trace the outlines, and it to light my skin on fire as though it’s the first time anyone has made contact with me.
In 1912, just after the sinking of the Titanic, we were introduced to a man named Thomas Barrow. He was young, ambitious, insecure, and a bit stupid. If asked, he’d have probably told you that he wanted a lot of things, or that his needs were few and then rattled off a predictable list of things that he didn’t really care about. It didn’t take long for the observant person to figure out the real answer, though. Less than an episode really. What Thomas wanted was as follows:
He wanted a safe relationship. He wanted respect. He wanted to travel.
It’s also worth noting that, when Thomas says that this arrangement is the closest he’s going to get to an “honest way of life,” what he means is marriage–and that marriage in this period was significantly about economic security and social position, as well romance and sex.
The scene with Guy and Thomas in the butler’s pantry is functionally a proposal, and in the context of the setting, it’s a good one.
This means we are going to get Sadismandmasochism!
Sadism is defined as taking pleasure in inflicting pain on others. While masochism is defined as taking pleasure in receiving pain.
If you’re someone less versed in the ins and outs of BDSM, hearing a person being slapped or tied up during sex may sound scary, but in reality, many feel empowered through their engagement.
Potential engagements in masochism or sadism may include:
biting
scratching
rough sexual intercourse
bondage, including rope play or suspension
impact play, including slapping, whipping, or spanking
Though it will look rough, abusive, and scary. It is in fact pleasurable for these particular types of individuals.
Just adding on that s&m can also include things like:
Discomfort
Humiliation
Fear/intimidation
Denial
Overstimulation
All of which can be sexual or non-sexual, and all of which (including the things Luta listed) are optional and dependent upon the preferences of the parties involved.
We’ve already seen discomfort, humiliation, and fear/intimidation in the interactions between Vegas and Pete. Make no mistake; this is flirting. Vegas isn’t trying to scare Pete off, he’s trying to scare him into his bed. Or maybe his dungeon. Dungeons can be romantic.
Didn’t they already have a dungeon date?? I could have sworn that was a date. Was it not?
The “If you were over 6 feet tall and living in Wellington in 2001 you didn’t have a choice my dude” is killing me, like I’m just picturing the LOTR casting directors running around Wellington with a measuring tape, black-bagging tall guys and shoving them into vans.
“You’re a Lord of the Rings extra now.”
“No! Please! I have a family! I’m supposed to work the closing shift at the Pita Pit tonight!”
“You serve at the pleasure of the Steward of Gondor now.”
There’s a casting director in the extended edition appendices who talks about casting for the Rivendell/elf scenes like “every person in north island over six foot tall with above average attractiveness and no full time job is currently on this set”
The “If you were over 6 feet tall and living in Wellington in 2001 you didn’t have a choice my dude” is killing me, like I’m just picturing the LOTR casting directors running around Wellington with a measuring tape, black-bagging tall guys and shoving them into vans.
“You’re a Lord of the Rings extra now.”
“No! Please! I have a family! I’m supposed to work the closing shift at the Pita Pit tonight!”
“You serve at the pleasure of the Steward of Gondor now.”
One of the kids I knew in the way back when was a hobbit child because she lived in Wellington and had curly hair so yeah I believe this (no I can’t tell which child she was)
I’ve been told Wellington anecdotes about possible elf extras getting chased down the street by casting staff back in the day!
The study checked how bisexual, pansexual and queer women define bisexuality.
Pansexuals and queer women said that bisexuality is binary and means attraction to cis men and women and they also “felt that claiming a bisexual identity indicated an outdated, offensive belief that there are only two genders”.
whereas actual bisexuals defined bisexuality as broad and inclusive of all genders.
It’s also interesting that all the people claiming bisexuality was transphobic were cis whereas the trans people interviewed didn’t have a problem with the bisexual label.
In addition, bisexuals expressed that they found the debates around whether bisexuality is inclusive very upsetting and it made them consider hiding their bisexuality or changing their label.
“While experiencing one’s chosen identity as personal and meaningful was not unique to the bisexual women in our sample, bisexual women often described an added layer of psychological distress upon learning that others define bisexuality in ways that reinforce a traditional gender binary, which contradicts their own definitions and lived experiences of bisexuality.“
i am losing my mind at the people trying to “debunk” this with scientific sounding arguments such as “the sample size is too small to mean anything” - literally the most anti-science thing you can say
1. it displays that you have no understanding of basic research concepts such as the difference between quantitative and qualitative research, what they’re used for and what kind of sample sizes are viable for them
2. trying to dunk on peer reviewed research with a snappy one liner because the findings make you feel bad or clash with your pre-existing beliefs
As a former PhD level social scientist, I need you all to know that a good sample size for a social science study is 30-50 people. In my extensive experience, it’s really only valid to consider the implications of sample size when the study is <20 people (and as OP noted, this doesn’t apply to qualitative research!!! At all!!!!! No numbers, pals!) There is not infrastructure, funding, or other resources to create the kind of massive sample studies you see in medicine. That doesn’t mean you can’t do good research with <10,000 people. Also, if your stats are good enough to make it through peer review, your sample size has likely been taken into consideration properly. If you don’t know much about scientific papers, you can learn, or you can sit down when people talk about peer-reviewed research.
Edit: I’m sorry I’m just REALLY mad about this, the cited study had 25 participants who did interviews. Do you have any IDEA how much labor goes into transcribing and coding that much interview data to analyze? No, you don’t. You don’t even know what coding is if you are sniping about 25 participants. 25 is a lot of people for an interview-based study, JFCCCcccc
If you feel like you’re not a part of Furblr because you don’t have a long, oddbody, or even customized Furby, here’s a reminder that you’re still welcome here!
The size of your collection or the rarity/price of your Furbs shouldn’t define your worth as a blogger
and honestly, you don’t even need to actually have a furby to belong to the community. The furblr community is accepting and inclusive, and you won’t be judged for not having one, especially with how they keep getting more expensive.
Tumblr is a platform run on interacting and especially reblogging, just sharing others posts and talking to folks keeps this community alive more than anything
Also, can we please make ranting and venting about stuff normal?
I’m not a “negative person” and I don’t give negativity “too much room” in my life.
Talking about it and telling ppl how upset I am is my way of dealing with it. I need to get it out of my system or it sticks with me.
And btw, Karen, it’s not my problem if you take my problem and make it yours, or if you think me telling you about something upsetting for me means I now gave you my package. No. I put the package between us and you chose to pick it up. Not my fucking problem. And please don’t tell me you don’t want to hear my negativity. Please. I have to deal with your crude positivity on a daily basis, and that’s no fun either. So just stfu.
There are people who process internally, and people who process externally. If you are an external processer, you likely can’t move on or work through your feelings without expressing them. Writing or creating on some way may help, but verbally expressing to someone else is generally the shortest path to dealing with it and moving on.
If you don’t get the negative things out, they fester in whatever mental box you stuffed them in, and will end up compounding some other problem when you do get a chance to process.
Sometimes life is heavy. Expressing that gives you a chance to set the load down, take a breath, and gather your strength to keep going.
also like, how hard is it to go “damn, that’s fucked up” to your friend?? you don’t gotta feel everything they feel, you don’t gotta solve their problems, you just gotta listen!!
and like, I know it’s considered rude or whatever, but it makes me feel a bit better when somebody tells me a story that’s kind of like my thing that’s bugging me! like, maybe they ether really get it, or they understand some aspects of it, even if they don’t fully empathize with the whole thing perfectly, and like, everybody has different lives, so that’s not even a reasonable expectation most of the time.
even better if it’s a funny story. like, if you want people to cheer up, it’s ok to make an effort to cheer them up.
and like, sometimes, I’ll tell a story and I won’t realize how fucked up it was until my friend goes “damn, that’s fucked up” like, sometimes you just need Perspective on your Life that you’re not going to get otherwise.
Time doesn’t work the same for them. They return from death. They can walk in memory and it’s as clear to them as sight. They speak to animals, they don’t need saddles, they can sleep and run at the same time, they can live in trees: they woke them from their sleep. They make lamps that never die, catch starlight in a glass, raise a river in defence. Their apples and bread, even in Exile, are such that Sam Gamgee has never tasted anything like it.
Imagine being a HALF elf… Imagine being Half this and maybe even being raised by humans. What a mind F**k, and everyone must just think you are weird. You perceive things others can’t but don’t understand sometimes that they can’t/don’t. Things that make sense to you seem bazar to those around you. Food tastes different, sounds sound different, time moves different…
Excuse me, I just had a very ADHD revelation as to why being a Half elf is so appealing. I might need to sit and think my thoughts for a hot minute holy…
