idk, maybe some people will think this is a hot take, but…
“If greysexual/romantic people feel attraction then where is the line between allosexual/romantic and greysexual/romantic?”
There isn’t one.
There. Isn’t. One.
That’s how a spectrum works. It’s a gradient. There isn’t a line.
When is this colour no longer blue?
Is it still blue until it’s completely red? Or do you see that there is red in it as soon as it starts becoming purple? Or somewhere in the middle? There is no line. Everyone will have a different answer.
(And I would argue that, considering all that comes into play with attraction like frequency, intensity, favourability/repulsion, gender, and so on, it is much more complicated than a 2D gradient like this.)
Yes, this means two people with very similar experiences might label themselves differently. Yes, this means someone who needs a bond to unlock attraction might feel allo-, but someone who experiences frequent, fleeting attraction feels grey-.
So if you’re not sure whether your experience is more allo- or grey-, just go with what feels right.
And if you’re using this attraction argument as some kind of “gotcha” to exclude grey-aspecs from asexuality and aromanticism then I don’t know how to explain to you better that that is how a spectrum works.
