#ancestrydna
So this happened and I am wondering, what would you do in my situation?
First, a little history. A few years ago I had some family members’ DNA tested through Ancestry.com. Nothing major in the results, we discovered really nothing new, just the usual cousin match list, details on their DNA and how it differed from mine, and so on. Fast forward to nowadays, and there is now a new relationship match my family member received on his Ancestry.com DNA match list. Those of you that are unfamiliar with the match list on their website, when you have a DNA test done, the results you receive will show what parts of the world your DNA is from, and there will be a list of cousin match’s. Pending on who you have tested, it’s almost always cousins, but the more people that take the test, more likely there will be closer blood relationships that show up.
Enter my situation. My family member who tested, had a new match. A very close relation match. A child. A NEW CHILD. Not only is this person the correct age for being their child, but they also look like other family members! This person is completely new and to my knowledge, unknown to be out there in the world.
After reaching out to this person, they never replied and obviously either does not want to know any information or is not ready. Either way, I tried. Now here is my question: Do you tell your family member???? This child does not want contact with their biological family, do you still tell your family “hey, guess what happened??”, knowing they do not want anything to do with them?
This could potentially cause a major disruption in their lives, in all our lives, perhaps unnecessarily. Maybe even cause some damage.
So what would you do? Keep the secret or tell? Please share your thoughts on this. Thank you!
