#big mood as the kids say
I know a lot of aroace people are afraid of getting older because they worry about being alone for the rest of their lives, but honestly? I’m so excited to be old and aroace?
I’m nonbinary, and I’ve met older trans and nb people, and every time I meet an older trans person who’s happy and successful it makes me so hopeful and excited. But I’ve never met an old a-spec person. I’ve never seen a happy successful aro/ace person in their 60’s.
I’ve met a few older people who, after talking to me about a-spec identitys, said they might be aro/ace, but I’ve never once met an old person who identified as a-spec when I met them.
And that’s why I’m so excited to be aroace and old. I’m absolutely delighted by the fact that someday, for some young a-spec person, I will be that old person who’s like them. Who they can look at and say “they’re aroace and they’re doing okay, so I can be okay too”.
60 years from now I want to give young a-spec people something I never got. The ability to have elders in their community. People they can talk to about what it means to grow old, and live, and be a-spec in an society so focused on sex and romance who know what they’re talking about because they’ve been through it themselves.
This is one of the reasons I work so hard at everything I do. I’m determined to be that aroace elder who is healthy, fulfilled and full of happiness. I’m determined to do it, so that some day, 50 years down the road some teenager who only just realized they were a-spec will meet me and think “here is my prof that I can grow old and be happy”
