Craig is taller than average, coming in at just under 6′1″. He’s the tallest of his siblings, with his two younger brothers hitting between 5′9″ - 5′11″.
▸ are they okay with their height?
He’s cool with it, but sometimes worries that he can appear more aggressive because of his imposing height. He’s a gentle giant most of the time, but he will admit that his longer stride has helped in his line of work.
▸ what’s their hair like?
It’s currently a bit shorter than he usually keeps it. His ideal look is something he would describe as “casual viking”. His hair is dark blond, not-quite-wavy, and prone to frizz and texture. This is a good example, though it’s usually just hitting his shoulders.
▸ do they spend a lot of time on their hair/grooming?
He likes to keep his beard in check, and usually keeps it slightly grown out. His hair is pretty thick and can get gross quickly when he works out, so he keeps it as well-maintained as he can. He doesn’t spend a whole lot of time on self-grooming, but enough that he looks clean and presentable.
▸ does your muse care about their appearance/what others think?
Honestly? Not really. He likes to look good and feel comfortable. He’s had some comments on his hair, usually about the level of professionalism, but while at work his hair is usually tucked away anyway, so what he chooses to do while offduty is his business.
— preferences.
▸ indoors or outdoors?
Outdoors. As expected from someone who embodies ‘lumberjack dad’, Craig loves to be outdoors. He takes the twins camping almost every summer, and he was also responsible for the treehouse and swing in their backgarden.
▸ rain or sunshine?
Rain. After a long day, there’s nothing he finds more relaxing than sitting on the back porch with a beer and listening to the rain.
▸ forest or beach?
Forest. See ‘lumberjack dad’. He’s pretty good with his hands, is good at climbing, and would survive in a wilderness situation 9/10 times if he was dropped into a wooded area.
▸ precious metals or gems?
Metals.
▸ flowers or perfumes?
Flowers. It’s nicer to have a bunch of wildflowers on the kitchen windowsill than it is to make the house stink artificially. Plus, flowers look nice.
▸ personality or appearance?
Personality. If you’re chill and on his level, then you’re alright.
▸ being alone or being in a crowd?
This one could honestly go either way. He values his personal time, but even then he loves to spend time with his kids. So being in a crowd is more his vibe, especially hockey crowds.
▸ order or anarchy?
Order, though he knows ‘perfect’ order doesn’t exist. He’s seen plenty of misplaced anarchy in his day and, while he knows it has it’s place, he believes that the system must always come back to a state of order or society would collapse. So, while the system may need to be changed, the constant state cannot be an anarchous one, or the system will never be aptly replaced.
▸ painful truths or white lies?
Truths. He has always been open with his kids, and hopes that they will be comfortable enough to be open with him. He isn’t one to shy away from a painful truth, but knows that can be hard for some people to hear. He tends not to lie, but will try to find a way to soften the blow if he can.
▸ science or magic?
Science. He understands the appeal of magic, but hasn’t ever been particularly drawn to the supernatural. He enjoys the knowledge that almost everything has a scientific reasoning, as it makes the world easier to understand and the universe easier to fathom.
▸ peace or conflict?
Peace. Craig is always the peacekeeper, whether on the job or offduty. He’s a good mediator, and prefers to find ways around a conflict instead of becoming aggressive.
▸ night or day?
Night. Again, he finds the quiet calming.
▸ dusk or dawn?
Dawn. The fresh, crisp morning air cut by a strong mug of coffee is one of his favourite scents.
▸ warmth or cold?
Warmth. Once autumn/winter hits, you will not see him without one of several fleecy jumpers or hoodies.
▸ many acquaintances or a few close friends?
Close friends. He knows the value of having people close to lean on in hard times, and the support of his close loved ones has been invaluable in his life. He would rather know the people he’s with than have vapid small talk.
▸ reading or playing a game?
Reading, particularly newspapers. He likes to be caught up with current events. He also likes to have physical newspapers more than digital ones as, once they’re out of date, they can be used for other things.
— questionnaire.
▸ what are some of your muse’s bad habits?
Despite encouraging his kids to be open with him, Craig has a tendency to hide his negative emotions for fear of putting extra pressure on them. Some lesser bad habits include: not cleaning his hairbrush, biting his nails when they ‘get too long’, forgetting to lock the back door after bringing the dogs back in, and being overly self-critical when he builds something that he considers ‘sub-par’.
▸ has your muse lost anyone close to them? how has it affected them?
The big one was losing his wife, Marie, to cervical cancer. It was a long battle of testing and treatment, only for her to get a reccurance a few months after being declared clear in year two. They had been together over twenty years, having met during university, and despite the long time spent struggling, he still feels like her death was sudden. He really struggled managing his grief alongside continuing to raise Anna and Andrew, and initially tried to shift his own grief to the back of his mind so he could better help them with their own.
The time spent with Marie near the end taught Craig a lot about himself. He realised how little he cared for outward appearances, as he shaved his hair alongside her when hers began to fall out. He learnt that he had the ability to remain strong, even when faced with the greatest tragedy of his life. He learnt that if this, the worst thing he had ever imagined, didn’t break him, then there was nothing that could. It took him a long time to recognise those things, and he still wonders if there was anything more he could have done, but he knows that Marie is better off now than she was suffering, and he knows that he is a better man for having stuck by her and his family through the tragedy.
▸ what are some fond memories your muse has?
Craig will always claim that his fondest memories are his wedding and the birth of the twins, but the ones that come to mind are often a lot simpler. The kids first words (Anna’s was “juice” and Andrew’s was “car”), Marie laughing as he tries to cook, Anna smiling at him over her shouder when she learnt how to ride a bike, Andrew blaming Anna when he got caught drawing on the wallpaper, or watching the twins sleep with his wife and realising how lucky he was to have the family he always wanted.
▸ is it easy for your muse to kill?
No. Craig has a hard line against that, and it would take a hell of a lot to push him over that line. He knows loss, and he doesn’t wish it on anyone.
▸ what’s it like when your muse breaks down?
He’ll be flustered, and won’t know what to do with his hands. It takes a lot for him to cry, but if he does he won’t hide it. He’s not a loud man either, so he wouldn’t be shouting much. He’ll be quiet, but it’s the quiet that allows him to dissolve. He’s also a hugger.
▸ is your muse capable of trusting someone with their life?
Yes, but it takes a lot of trust. He has to trust the people he works with if they go into a dangerous situation, but he trusts them implicitly. He trusts his family with his life, and most likely always will.
▸ what’s your muse like when they’re in love?
An absolute puppy. This man will wait on you hand and foot. When Marie was pregnant she had to tell him off for offering to carry her everywhere, and he would barely let her lift a finger. He will absolutely never admit this, but he’s a complete romantic.
imagine thinking asexuality is a sexual orientation and not yknow, probably a medical problem or a mental health issue. you’re not gay because you have a hormonal issue lmao what? do you know what most people who havent been roped in by the Internet Culture of pretending you’re gay for no reason do when they think they might be “asexual”? they go to the doctor, ejrbdkkssm are you kidding you probably have some kind of reproductive health disorder or mental trauma or something Wrong with you my guy but it’s easier to ignore that and be homophobic online i guess
Imagine being such a homophobe that you repeat homophobic rhetorix verbatim just because you don’t understand the concept of not experiencing sexual attraction.
im disabled but okay, just because you shouldnt be demonised or whatever for having a disability doesnt mean its like. Good. or healthy. like when the cysts burst and you have to go to the ER and have organs removed because you didnt get your abnormally low sex drive checked out dont blame me compadre
1. You can be disabled and still be ableist, there’s more than one type of disability, and “disabled” is an umbrella term that can cover hugely different things. I’m disabled in multiple ways but it’s still 100% possible for me to be bigoted towards disabilities I don’t have. A Deaf person can be ableist toward autistic people, an autistic person can be ableist toward Deaf people, etc.
2. Whether someone’s lack of desire for interpersonal sex is a health issue is not your business, frankly. It’s their business and their doctor’s business.
Trying to diagnose someone over the internet when you don’t know anything about them beyond the fact that they call themselves asexual, and despite whether or not you’re in any way a professional who is trained and qualified to give this kind of diagnosis, is frankly ableist and not your place.
If asexual people are:
otherwise healthy, or already know the symptoms and reasons they are unhealthy outside of being asexual
are not experiencing distress directly because of their asexuality
Then there’s no reason it cannot be a natural part of human diversity. Many people still consider being gay a mental illness, despite all evidence to the contrary. Desire for sex is naturally not equal in all humans—why can’t there be people who don’t care for sex at all? People who just aren’t interested and persue other things? People who don’t experience attraction to specific people?
There are asexual people who have already checked if there are other reasons for their experience, there are asexual people who have grown to old age and still identify as asexual without immediate harms.
3. Yes, there are some disabilities or medications that can cause decreased sex drive. For the record, cancer is not the most common of these, and the “when the cyst bursts” comment was incredibly unnecessary and inappropriate in any case.
Again, perceived asexuality being a symptom of a health issue is not your business unless you’re the one experiencing it or you’re their doctor.
I think it’s been a month or so since I last posted? Not sure, I haven’t been checking this blog.. I already notified Patrons about my inactivity but I haven’t felt ready to talk about it here. I still don’t know if I’m ready or if I even want to, but I think it’d be a good heads up for any future Patrons or commission folks.
Why have I been inactive recently? Someone very important to me was diagnosed with cancer. It’s currently untreatable and cannot be cured. I love this person more than life itself. I’m still processing this and I don’t know if or when I’ll come to terms with it. (I don’t want to say anything more about this publicly, please respect this decision)
What does this mean for Patreon and commissions? Both are still open. Commissions are operating as usual, though at a slower pace. Patreon family already knows what’s been going on. For any potentially new Patrons, that platform is (at present) more of a way to support me in general. I hope to return to updating there soon, but I can’t say for sure when that will be.
Thank you all for supporting my art, I can never express how much it means to me. Please contact me if you have any art related questions and I’ll respond as soon as I can.
Hey so I know I don’t really put textposts here I just wanted to let anyone know who thought this blog was dead that I’m still working on art and am actually in the coloring stage of 2 peices but I’ve been delayed a lot because my mom recently got diagnosed with breast cancer and just had surgery to get rid of it. She will be fine but ive had maybe 30 minutes in the past 5 days that I could dedicate to art instead of my usual 5-7 hours per day. So art is coming but it might not be this week it might be next week
Help for a disabled SE Asian artist fighting leukemia
Please, please read this entire thread
Hi friends, as some of you guys know, my best friend Allanah is in need of mutuaI aid. She is fighting leukemia, and her chemotherapy meds alone is 1,500 pesos PER PILL. She needs to take midostaurin 4 times a day EVERY DAY
Allanah was mainly the one who was working for her family, and rn she is in need of our help now that she is too sick to work. Her chemo, just her chemo is costing about 120-125 usd A DAY. She needs to be on chemo for TWO YEARS at least.
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Hey its getting warmer so heres your reminder that you arent putting on enough sunscreen and you arent reaplying it enough and can you guess why on and around the eyes is one of the more common places to get skin cancer?
Also CLOTHES DONT PROTECT YOU UNLESS THEY ARE SPF CLOTHES PUT SOME SUNSCREEN ON YA BODY
Also! Don’t trust the companies. The SPF isn’t that high, no it is not properly water resistant and it certainly will not last all day. They are LYING.
Also check the damn star rating
Also don’t forget your ears. One of my ma’s friends is missing half her earlobe, now guess why they had to cut it off.
