#changing the narratives
You lot see a woman dating a camp or “effeminate” man and go “haha does she know she’s a beard” as if bi men don’t exist and don’t have cause to subvert gender norms/have a complicated relationship with masculinity, regardless of who they’re dating.
There’s also this implication that these women who date “effeminate” men can’t be genuinely attracted to them and are naive and oblivious towards their effeminacy. It a complete refusal to acknowledge that not only do gnc bi men exist, but women can be and are actually attracted to them. There doesn’t have to be settling or smoke screens in the relationship for it to work.
The “opposite” is also true! You see men dating “masculine” or butch women and people be like “lmao we know who wears the pants in that relationship” like
Let women date “feminine” men and let men date “masculine” women. It’s none of your business. Leave them alone. No one’s lying to anyone.Both of the points are so *chef kiss* perfecto. Thank you!
Also straight people absolutely can be gender non-conforming. We really need to normalize that gender non-conformity isn’t just for same gender attracted people, nobody of any sexuality has to adhere to any gender norms. Gender non-conformity is for everybody.
Sexuality and gender expression are two separate things.
