a mini pencil skirt in one shade of pastel colour,, matching with cutie little florals top,, crochet collars or knitted necklace,, flats lace shoes =]*“
The meaning of a collar - aka the day my collar broke
It’s not actually a collar, it’s a kitten bracelet Daddy bought me in the early days of our dynamic back when he was Sir and I was kitten. It’s not expensive, it was only a few bucks but it meant so much to me. I just didn’t realize how much it meant till it broke.
Whilst working it literally snapped and fell to the ground.
The range of emotions that followed that moment completely shocked me. I felt heartbroken,lost,naked and bordering a panic attack. Over the hours the more I tried to rationalize it and tell myself to get over it the worst I felt. Did it mean that I wasn’t Daddy’s babygirl anymore? No of course not but it never really sunk in over the years how much this little silver bracelet meant.
There’s a happy ending as Daddy very cleverly fixed it for me and it’s now back on my wrist where it belongs. I can’t stop admiring it today and fiddling with it and it has made me think about our relationship and the similarities. Over the years I wouldn’t say you take your marriage for granted but you do relax into it and sometimes forget how lucky you are to share your life with someone that understands you so profoundly. As all relationships we have had our ups and downs and a few years ago we reached a breaking point…for a few very long minutes I had actually ended the relationship, things were broken because I was very ill without knowing it. With lots of hard work we have mended things and I feel our relationship is in a better place for it, we (or should I say I) communicate much more and we (again I) have learnt to lean on my spouse. The bracelet breaking feels very similar to me and now I wear it doubly proud of its meaning and symbolism.
~L~
I love this, so much. It resonates because its something that I think about a lot. In the dynamics we live, it’s never really about “the things”, it’s about the meanings behind them.
I especially feel this, being away from my sir. Distance and time differences can leave some pretty big gaps in our days where we aren’t in contact with each other.
As much as I always know I’m his whether he is present or not, a physical reminder can act as a grounding tool so that you feel their presence when they aren’t available for whatever reason.
If you’re having a rough morning, an anxious couple of hours at work, you’re missing them terribly or you’re just feeling a bit low, something to touch and feel, that reminds you that they are there and they love you and they know you can do the thing. That is what the “thing” means. Be it a bracelet, a collar, a necklace or a cute little keyring. The “thing” isn’t important, it’s what it means to the two of you. And it’s something I quietly crave to have one day.
