Thinking a lot lately about kidnapping someone from a concert. Grabbing them in a dark alley or hallway from the venue, whispering in their ear how good they did dressing up so slutty for me tonight as I finger the holes they ripped in their own fishnets to look fashionable at the show. Gripping their ass under their miniskirt with both hands and pulling the fishnet apart until it rips as they meekly let it happen out of fear. Pulling a knife and sliding it across their body, asking them if they like the bands here tonight as I use it to cut off their freshly exposed panties and top. Ignoring their muffled gasps when I pull the ruined clothing off their body and push them against the wall. Gently running the blade of the knife along their wet slit and gathering their mess on the metal before holding it in front of their face with one hand while the other grips the back of their head and forces them to look at it. Asking them if they’re enjoying this, and when they shake their head no in panic, telling them that the evidence is right in front of them. Ordering them to stick their tongue out and wiping the mess on the blade onto it as they start to cry in fear. After the knives cleaned of their mess and covered in their drool, pulling it down to their throat and holding it their as I finally slide into them from behind. Taking my time as I use their hole to get off, telling them how good they feel and how thankful I am they showed up to the concert tonight, that it’s been a while since I’ve had a concert slut to use. Filling them up with cum, watching it drip out of them onto the backs of their fishnet covered legs and the floor beneath them until they collapse onto their knees on the floor and I stand above them.
Talking down to the lifeless mess underneath me, telling them how good they were and how they’ll feel better when we get home. Asking them if they’re to move and ignoring them when say no, wrapping my arms around them and pulling them to their feet. Telling them not to worry about their outfit, that I’ll let them borrow this and pulling the oversized concert tee I bought for myself over them, long enough to cover even the hole I ripped in the ass of their fishnets. Guiding them out of the concert venue in their stupor, only stopping to pick up the panties I cut off them on the floor and pocketing them, walking them back to my car before they even remember they should be kicking and screaming to get away from me. Picking them and placing them in the trunk, telling them at its okay as they start to fall asleep, too tired from the concert and the panic and the adrenaline to do anything except fall unconscious in the back of my car. Taking the opportunity to use my knife to finish cutting off the rest of their fishnets, then gagging and tying them up in their sleep before I close the trunk over them and start driving us to their new home.
just really loving the idea of cnc but instead of the sub, it’s the Dom who gets used
the sub just getting too excited, unwilling to take a no from their Dom, pushing their Dom down and taking what they want. pressing their cock into a wet hole, using their strength to keep their Dom pinned despite the anger and threats
maybe the sub slips the Dom a sleeping pill and gets what they want in the night. they’re not allowed to come right now, let alone fuck their dom without permission. afraid of being caught but unable to go any longer without being inside, they apologize while they use your soft, pliant body
It’s been so long since I had some good rough power struggle sex… I really just want a hot guy to subdue me and then fuck me… is that really too much to ask?
Noncon stories, Fantasy vs. Reality, and more. fucking. issues.
Recently, I’ve been hit with some drama as to why I’m a “bad person” by various, anonymous users in this fandom. I thought I’d try to address the claim, address my stance on fics that involve noncon, and what I think about the “Tumblr mentality” after everything I’ve seen of this place. I should also note that I’m going to use the specific words and phrases I’ve been forced to constantly repeat as explaining my stance has been very difficult for me, as I’m a person who’s apparently challenging to understand.
This is going to be a long post, with subjects that’s obviously going to trigger people so here’s a warning right now..
That being said, I’m going to dive into this with some shit I’ve definitely said before:
“Consensual Noncon” Kink
The Appeal of this Theme in Fanfiction:
I don’t think calling fics that involve noncon “rape fics” and those who enjoy it “getting off to rape” is a very good way to put it. Many engaging and well done media pieces often involve some very dark themes. Again, Monster by Meg and Dia is a song that features the main character sexually abusing a girl he met. You COULD call this a “rape song”, but acting as if the rape is the only thing that matters in this story would be pretty..naive. The story has to do with an emotionally, and physically neglected/abused boy, who grows up and becomes an attention/love starved monster who’s SO starving for validation, that he believes forcing himself upon a girl he knew would “prove” to himself that he’s capable of being touched and loved. Of course, the main character eventually realizes that rape is not love, that what he did was wrong, and later kills himself in his own bathtub with kerosene and a match.
However, the assault aspect of this song is still a meaningful and alluring part because it talks about how emotional and physical abuse can warp someone’s perspective on reality, to the point where they think forcing someone to “stay” with them is how to create a healthy relationship. That’s the same energy I have for noncon fics, especially in the slasher fandom. Many slasher fics that contain noncon often have to do with the slasher preying on the reader because of their own fucked up mind. It’s intriguing because, let’s be honest, pretty much none of the slashers are in a pretty good mental space lmao. Thus, noncon actually falls more in line with how slashers would go about what they believe is a “good relationship” more often than quite a bit of fans here seem to believe. Again, Michael got boners, Jason chained someone up, Fredddy smooches people against their will, Billy Lenz is a sex offender, Chromeskull makes snuff, yada yada yada, you know the drill. That being said, it’s interesting to see noncon being expressed with these characters because it gives us a new perspective on how fucked up they’d likely be if the world of sex and relationships was introduced to these characters.
Now why would some people become sexually aroused by the events of the story? First of all, how does “Consensual Noncon” kink work?
u/Jumbledcode. (2015). ‘Can anyone comment on why people (someone like me) enjoy rape/non-con story lines?’. r/TwoXChromosomes.
“I’d suggest that there are several factors that make up the appeal of non-con fantasies.
Guilt/Self-image: For many people, their sexual/relationship desires don’t necessarily match their image of themselves, or alternatively they feel guilt over others’ perceptions of those desires. Rape fantasies allow them to mantain some illusion of denial over their desires while still indulging in the idea of them.
Responsibility/Laziness: The appeal of abdicating control isn’t limited to avoiding guilt; it’s very tempting to want a scenario where you have no responsibility for maintaining your lifestyle/happiness. Similarly to before, it’s the appeal of being given what you secretly want without even having to choose it.
Transgressiveness: A rape scenario has overtones of danger and taboo-breaking. These can easily be exciting and can therefore be a turn-on.
Desire: Being wanted is often a huge turn-on, and the idea of someone desiring you enough to break laws and disregard everything to have you plays into this feeling.
To me, it seems that most people who fantasize about being the subject of rape do so due to some mix of these motivations I’ve mentioned. Of course, there are also those who have experiences which have taught them to associate non-consent with their sexuality, but that’s a separate issue”.
What if the Fanfic Only Involves the Act though? Wouldn’t it Encourage Actual Rape?
Let’s differentiate fantasy and reality. Towards those with the noncon kink: it offers arousal because of the ideas listed above (the idea of the reader not having to make any moves and the character doing the “intimate work” FOR them, the excitement of such a taboo sexual encounter, and the feeling to be desired through an altered, brutish encounter). Rape is the use of sex to remove control over the victim’s mind and body. The readers DO have control over whether or not they get to “encounter” (the choice to even read) this fantasy, so right away consent is present in reality, and no actual rape is being done.
Now does this mean that the kinkers are getting off on the ideaof rape? Not really.
The thing with self-inserts is that it allows you to be connected to the story. That way, even if the story has you bruised up and begging for mercy, a part of you-you (if you’re a kinker) wants to keep reading it as you find it exciting. That way, as you and story-you are connected, what you really want in such a fantasyis for it to keep going despite the brutish, possessive, however yet desirednature of the character you’re dreaming about dealing with. (repeat: the idea of the reader not having to make any moves and the character doing the “intimate work” FOR them, the excitement of such a taboo sexual encounter, and the feeling to be desired through an altered, brutish encounter). That being said, it’s still entirely possible for kinkers to have their personal space and wishes crossed, and ultimately assaulted. Us enjoying the fantasy of such a reverie sexual encounter does not spell out to real life because (in reality) we’re not horny allthe time, we would stilllike our bodies to be respected when we find it necessary, and we still have feelings as we’re still human.
“Fantasy (including video games) leads to violence” fallacy.
It would be like assuming that shooters in games like GTA fantacise about murder, encourage it, and would do it in real life. Taking fabricated anger out on virtual bodies or NPCs is quite different from the weight of murder (the killing of another human being). One can play video games with lots of violence towards such fabricated characters, while discouraging violence towards human beings. The act of using a game controller to beat up Donkey Kong in Smash, to shoot Nazi zombies in a Black Ops game, or to kill a Geisha in Little Nightmares is incredibly, and immensely different from completely eradicating the life of a person on Earth, and to assume that everyone who plays violent video games would spill out to violence in reality would be to participate in a ridiculous fallacy. Yes, there are outliers who are feeble minded enough to let their fantasies influence their actions towards actual people, but I must repeat that there are also people who utilize these fantasies for their personal satisfaction, while understanding the weight of the real world around them (and choosing not to act so detrimentally). Therefore, it wouldn’t be fair as it would be unnecessary to blatantly say that all fantasies are horrible and should be entirely eradicated if there ARE many people who ARE aware enough to understand that some thoughts are better off staying in fiction.
Now is the time to address what’s been said:
…Firstly, I think it’s very disgusting that random users, on Tumblr of all places, are trying to manipuate random victims of sexual assault into hating something or someone just because these users FEEL like “it’s the right thing to do”.. People, victims of sexual assault aren’t your fucking dogs. They’re not carriage horses, they’re not your work mules, they’re not your guns and swords…they’re just people who normally wanna be left the fuck alone like everyone else. Plus, there ARE people who have experienced sexual assault who take joyin reading such dark storylines. What would these users have to say to them? That they’re not “real” victims? That what they’ve experienced “never happened”? That they’re “just like” their own perpetrators for using the consensual nonconsent to miraculously help them overcome their trauma? Should they really abandon their coping mechanism just because there are other victims who cope in different ways?
..If you seriouslybelieve that all people who have gone through a traumatic event are gonna cope in the exact same fucking way, you literally don’t even know enough aboutPTSD to even be making a bold statement about cope.
This is the part where I finally realized that people, and especially those on Tumblr, don’t actually care about rape victims as much as they may claim. Many users on here, on this platform and in this fandom, don’t truly give a flying monkey shit about rape victims as people, nor what theyhave to say about the subject. Rape victims..on this place..seem to be used mainly as a means of figurative weaponry for a group’s subjective morality.
I find the similarity close to radical feminism.Radicalfeminists often believe that women, from near and far, have to do everything in their power to “destroy” the patriarchy. This would mean disobeying the societal expectation of women, even if there are some women who take joyment in engaging in some societal standards for their personal liking. An example would be sex work. Radical feminists acknowledge the flaws in performing sex work, but believe that NO woman should EVER partake even if the woman wants to do it out of her own free will. In demonizing and ostracizing any woman who doesn’t fall into the radical feminist agenda, radical feminists actually contradict their purpose to “let women be free”. At this point, you realize that radical feminists often don’t actually give a fuck about what any woman wants for herself. Instead, radical feminists want to utilize any woman they can find just to flip off men as a group.
In Tumblr users trying to “stand up” for rape victims for their personal “holier-than-thou” ego, they fail to care enough about the very people they defend to understand the dynamics of some of their coping mechanisms, thus begin to bully some members of the group they claim to protect because of the very narcissism, misunderstanding, and controlling nature going on behind their own “activism”. So now that some users have found something to hate, in this case being noncon stories, they attempt to manipulate victims of rape into ostraciszing and demonizing fantasies and othervictims of rape just because the “activists” themsleves don’t like it. Even trying to argue that rape victims have a “duty” to agree with everything these “activists” try to do for them.
Soundsawfullyfamiliar to the attitude democrats have towards any minority when it’s time to vote. “I care about you…but you have to agree with everythingI say and believe because Iwant what Ithink is best for you. If you disagree with me, you’re ungrateful and a traitor”.
Now…a little about myself.
I’m not sure of everyone else who’s into the noncon type of story, but I use it to get away from my past. In noncon stories, I wantto read what happens in the chapters. I wantto imagine them for morbid curiosity and arousal I feel at the time being. In reality, my attackers didn’t care when I wasn’t in the mood, and never gave me a choice. In noncon stories, I get to choose the character I wantto encounter in the fantasy and NOT have it picked FOR me. In real life, I didn’t get to choose who did some things to me. In noncon stories, I get to stop reading them and do something else whenever I’m not feeling it anymore. In reality? My attackers kept going because, in the situation, it was no longer up to me. After noncon stories, my body doesn’t walk away with bruises, bite marks, and physical reminders every time I take my clothes off or try to masturbate. In real life…that shit can mark you, disease you, and then traumatize you. With the stories, I get to delete my search history, join another fandom, and act like nothing ever happened. For reality? Your own body is a reminder of what happened because it was real. In reality, I’m NEVER gonna fucking forget what happened. I’ll be lucky if my own mind and body doesn’t haunt me for at least one day..
So seeing that someone, and probably multiple people not only tried to use victims of sexual assault for their own “go get em” dogs, but to try and phrase me as someone who lovesandencouragessuch an assault on human beings? After the things I felt? After the things I tasted? After pathetically searching for the support of relatives, just to get shut down with “you’re lying”?..
…All the times I’ve been held down..threatened..clothes getting snagged off..parts being opened and touched after I’ve fought to just get the fuck away from certain people…
According to this anon…“she likes rape”.
…I guess I just fucking LOVED EVERYTHING THEN.
You know…all my life I’ve been misunderstood by many people. It’s honestly really disappointing that even now when I’m better at explaining myself than ever, I’m STILL being phrased as a “psychopath” by random people who haven’t even taken the time to even knowme. Not even from a minute-long conversation through a damn computer screen. And you wanna know the funny thing? I’m probably being laughed at as this is being read. Some of these users, these internet stalkers, are probably giggling, smiling, and saying “Haha YES we GOT the bitch!! Cry you piece of shit SLUT!!”. So maybe explaining my past experiences to help everyone understand why some people may use noncon stories to their fantasy advantage is gonna land me messages going: “You haven’t been raped you lying bitch”, “Maybe you should get raped again”, “You definitely enjoyed it”, and the overused, yet strong “Kill yourself”.
So how am I gonna end this message? With me saying that many of you, who THINK you’re doing the right thing by justifying harassment and trying to manipulate others into joining your little crusade to bully people away from the fandom (over extremely mundane fucking things)…aren’t really good people. At best, in this case…you’re fucking stupid. You will nevertruly speak for any of the marginalized groups you claim to know like the back of your hand. Simply, you will never. be. a hero.
If by chance, by an astrological chance..that any random user wants to come up and apologize out of the blue for talking such shit and for saying such things..I don’t even wanna hear it…just get the fuck out of my face..
