don’t get me wrong i love seeing aroace rep bc im also aroace but i wish there was a character that was just aromantic without the ace.a non-sam aro or alloaro.bc a lot of aroace characters their asexuality overshadows their aromanticism SO much and it’s like creators are scared to make a character that’s strictly aro meanwhile there’s no problem making characters be ace and not aro
(don’t apologize for derailing you make a great point!)
amatonormativity is far.far far FAR too common,even in queer spaces.every other day i see a post on my dash that’s like “love is the meaning of everything actually and if you don’t like love you’re bad”
and i think amatonormativity plays a big part to how alloaros specifically are treated because you can be sexually attracted to somone only if you’re in love them too,otherwise you’re predatory and a player and a horrible person(don’t even get me STARTED on how hetero aro men get treated) alloaros get alienated and treated like horrible people simply for their sexuality because sexual attraction is seen as predatory and bad while romantic love is seen as pure and good
people can literally not comprehend not being in love with anyone,and while aroace rep is great and aroace ppl are valid and deserve the representation i think the reason the only aromantic character rep is when they’re also asexual;is to make their asexuality “compensate” for their aromanticism,because aromanticism itself is a bad weird sexuality that challenges the norm
this too! often when a character gets confirmed as aroace i see a lot of people saying “ace rep! ace rep!”. while yes it is ace rep, it’s not just ace rep, and those comments just come off as erasing aromanticism
i also get this in real life- there’s been multiple times where i come out to someone as aroace and then they proceed to refer to me as only “asexual” (which is especially annoying because i tend to prioritize my aro identity over my ace identity)
anyways, to bring it back to the original point of this post, there absolutely needs to be more non-ace aro rep. aromanticism is so under-repesented, and what little “mainstream” representation we do have all being aroace makes aromanticism seem like an “add-on” to asexuality
It’s not even just the lack of alloaro rep, it’s that anything that looks remotely like alloaro rep is portrayed as inherently bad and something for the character to grow out of, especially after meeting “the right person” ()
