#i do not identify as that
Okay so nonbinary lesbian discourse isn’t something I often get involved in but I have to say, the “you can’t be a nonbinary lesbian because lesbians are women” argument falls apart petty quickly when you actually start thinking of gender as a spectrum rather than a trinary.
Can demigirls be lesbians? Can nonbinary women be lesbians? What about genderfluid people who are sometimes women, sometimes not?
And the reason it falls apart is because when you actually think of gender as a spectrum, it means in order to exclude people from the definition of lesbianism, you have to have a cutoff point for the people you exclude. And a cutoff point is super hard to establish when you think of gender as the hugely variable thing it actually is.
Of course, the people who gatekeep nonbinary lesbians are the same people who would disagree with that and would, in fact, think of gender as a trinary instead of a binary. Which just goes to show that there is no way to exclude nonbinary lesbians without holding fundamentally exorsexist/enbyphobic views in general.
Anyways that was just my take, I’m not a lesbian although I am nonbinary so nonbinary lesbians please feel free to correct me/add to my post. Obviously the same applies to nonbinary gays but that discourse doesn’t really come up as often.
“Non-binary lesbian” is weird sounding wording, but it just means “sometimes gay and gender weird overlap and don’t easily come apart.”
It’s a word for the kind of person who hears “gender identity and sexual orientation are two different unrelated things!” and thinks “sure, *for you.*”
