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[Image Description: A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Bi, Pan, and Poly Orientations,” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Nonomono Terms,” “Nonmono Stereotypes,” and “Identity Differences” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a green, pink, and blue color scheme.]
Nonmono Identity (Bi, Pan, and Poly Orientations) - Pamphlet #5
This pamphlet covers the stereotypes shared by and the differences between nonmono identities like pan-, poly-, and bi-. Like the rest of the series, this pamphlet is free to download!
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Front Panel
Bi, Pan, and Poly Identities, A Condensed Guide
Produced by Queer Condensed, queercondensed.tumblr.com
Inside Flap
Who Is This Pamphlet For?
Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re trying to find a word to describe yourself. Perhaps a friend or a loved one gave this to you for a better understanding of their identity. No matter your reason for reading this, it’s made for you.
What If I Don’t Understand Something?
We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.
Leftmost Interior
Nonmono
An umbrella term that describes any orientation where the person is attracted to more than one gender; used in this pamphlet to describe bi, pan, poly, and other identities
Multisexual / multiromantic
Same as nonmono
Bi-
Someone who can be attracted to:
· Two genders
· Two or more genders
· Their own and other genders
Poly-
Someone who can be attracted to multiple, but not all, genders
Pan-
Someone who can be attracted to all genders
Sexual orientation
The identity someone uses to describe who they’re sexually attracted to
Romantic orientation
The identity someone uses to describe who they’re romantically attracted to
Preference
A gender that a nonmono person is more inclined to be attracted to, even when they can be attracted to more than that gender
Middle Interior
Nonmono people are often assumed to be either straight or gay and just pretending to be both. The common association is that nonmono women are actually straight women wanting to “experiment” while nonmono men are gay and lying to themselves. In reality, not everyone fits into the categories of “gay” and “straight” and nobody should be expected to do so.
Additionally, nonmono people are always part of the LGBTQ community, if they choose to identify within it. Even when a nonmono person is in a “straight passing” relationship, they are still bi, pan, poly, etc. Nonmono people are allowed to have preferences of gender while still being their individual identity.
Finally, nonmono people are not automatically sexually promiscuous or romantically unfaithful because of their identity. Nonmono people can be attracted to multiple genders, this does not mean that they always are. Some may want multiple relationships, but that just means that they are polyamorous, not cheaters or greedy. This stereotype is offensive at best and personally dangerous to nonmono people at worst.
Polyamory?
Polyamory describes the ability to be in / desire for more than one consenting relationship at a time. It is not a nonmono orientation and is therefore not a part of this pamphlet.
Rightmost Interior
Since bi, pan, poly, and some other identities can be grouped under the umbrella of “nonmono,” many wonder why there’s separate words for such similar experiences.
The difference between pan and poly are simple: one means attraction to all genders, and the other means only some. The difficulty comes when trying to separate pan and poly from bi, especially when bi people use several different definitions of bi. The choice to identify specifically as one of the three, or another, similar identity, often comes down to community and association. The bi community is much older, larger, and more recognized than the pan and poly communities. Many bi people feel more comfortable in the bi community, or feel that bi identity is easier to explain.
On the other hand, many people assume that bi people only like men and women, with the exclusion of other existing genders. While this isn’t true for most bi people, pan and poly identities don’t carry this idea and that can be an important factor to nonmono individuals.
Ultimately, the difference between specific nonmono identities is up to the nonmono people who use them, and that should be respected.
Back Panel
Bi- Information
Pan- Information
Everydayfeminism.com/2014/11/pansexuality-101
Stop-homophobia.com/pansexuality.htm
Poly- Information
Rationalwiki.org/wiki/Polysexuality
Published on November 13th, 2016
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