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Learn the Facts of the Atomic Age (National Committee on Atomic Information)(Thomas McAvoy. 1947)

Learn the Facts of the Atomic Age (National Committee on Atomic Information)

(Thomas McAvoy. 1947)


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This Spanish translation of Lucian Deslinières Comment se réalisera le socialisme (1919) is from 193This Spanish translation of Lucian Deslinières Comment se réalisera le socialisme (1919) is from 193This Spanish translation of Lucian Deslinières Comment se réalisera le socialisme (1919) is from 193

This Spanish translation of Lucian Deslinières Comment se réalisera le socialisme (1919) is from 1937. The publisher, Editorial Marxista, was founded in 1936 by the P.O.U.M (Partido Obrero de Unificación Marxista), one of the many factions in the Spanish Civil War. Editorial Marxista would last only 11 months but was prolific in its short life, producing dozens of Marxist classics and more than fifty different pamphlets, many of which were translations - like this one. In June of 1937, the Communist police seized the offices of the POUM and Editorial Marxista, destroying any EM material they found. Those items that remain have historical as well as intellectual value to historians of the Spanish Civil War and Marxist intellectual thought.

Newberry call number: Wing ZP 940 .E49


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[Image Description: The inside and outside of a pamphlet with a pink and purple color scheme entitled “The ‘Queer’ Question” laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the first half and sections titled “What is Queer,” “History of the Word,” and “Using it Respectfully” on the second. The text is small and blurry as it is only meant as a preview image to the resource described in this post]

The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8

In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.

This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.

Click here to download this and any other resource Queer Condensed has to offer.

As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!

Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:

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The “Queer” Question, a Condensed Guide

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Summary

The word “queer” has a lot of debates surrounding it. What does it mean? Who can use it? When and where can it be said? When there’s this many questions, sometimes people forget to slow down and explain the controversy and the history of the word. This pamphlet is an introduction to some of the arguments surrounding this controversial word, a brief historical overview, and a suggestion for rules of its use.

This topic, more than most, is incredibly subjective and should be taken as such. The ideas expressed are the opinions of Queer Condensed, not the opinions of all queer people.

Disclaimer

Queer Condensed is meant to be a guide, but in no way is anything in our materials definitive. Queerness and our community is far too subjective and we just don’t have the space. Take what you read as an introduction and maybe check out the provided resources or ask people open to taking questions if you want to know more.

 Published on July 27th, 2017

Leftmost Interior: What is Queer?

In LGBTQ+ circles and communities, the proper use of the word “queer” often comes up. There are hundreds of opinion pieces and personal anecdotes on the Internet, all with different takes. But what does the word mean? Why are people so up in arms about it? Well, there’s no simple answer here.

One of the problems in defining “queer” is the fact that it means so many different things to different people. Queer can be:

· A noun, verb, or adjective

· A slur, or offensive word, used against LGBTQ+ people

· An identity, with it’s own different definitions

· An umbrella term that replaces LGBTQ+

· Radical activism relating to LGBTQ+ people and issues

· The act of subverting any societal norm, especially with gender and sexuality

· A term of empowerment and pride

From this non-exhaustive list, it’s clear that discussions of when, where, and how “queer” should be used can be very difficult and there is no consensus regarding it.

To simplify things, this pamphlet focuses on queer as a slur vs an identity or umbrella term for the LGBTQ+ community. This, obviously, doesn’t cover all interpretations of the term and all voices on the matter, but it does help us understand the argument that is most often seen in the LGBTQ+ community surrounding the word.

Middle Interior: History of the Word

“Queer” existed before being connected to the LGBTQ+ community and originally just meant strange or peculiar. The first known use of the word as an insult was 1894 towards the famously gay Oscar Wilde, and later it became a widespread insult towards anyone perceived to be gay, even if they weren’t.

The reclaiming of queer has a long history too. Accounts say that individuals started “taking back” the word and using it for themselves in the 1980’s. An early adopter of the word was the organization Queer Nation in early 1990.

The topics that queer theory and studies concerns itself have been around for much longer than the name. The term “queer theory” was coined in the 1990s as well and was adopted by many theorists. Many universities use this term, though others use “LGBT” or “gender and sexuality” as substitutes due to the sensitive nature of the word in certain regions.

Reclaiming isn’t universal, though. Plenty of people still have “queer” used as a slur against them and dislike its use to refer to them.

Why Do We Use It?

The project is called Queer Condensed because A) it’s catchy and B) it’s been reclaimed heavily in the area the creators are from. Most people use queer as an empowering term. Additionally, it’s a useful umbrella term  and feels more broad than saying ‘the LGBTQ+ community.

Rightmost Interior: Using it Respectfully

The use of “queer” is as complex as its definitions. Some use the term broadly and insist that those who disagree aren’t proper parts of the community. Others say that any use of it is hateful. Queer Condensed hopes to show a middle ground.

If someone uses queer as an identity, it’s no one’s right to refuse to use it. Queer identity has a long history and it’s endlessly useful. Personal discomfort with the word never outweighs respecting others’ identities.

Using it as a broad term is trickier. In general, it’s best to learn about your local community’s feelings and definitions. Some areas have a lot of people using the word, others have a majority that feel hurt by it. Respectfully asking never hurts. Something to keep in mind is that even in places where the word is reclaimed, it’s usually not something for non-LGBTQ+ people to say because the word is rooted in LGBTQ+ oppression and violence.

Finally, always keep the feelings of others in mind when using the word outside of an identity. There are often people uncomfortable with the term even when many others have reclaimed it. Respect people who ask you to not use it on them and censor it as “q-slur” if asked.  It’s impossible to know everyone’s experience, so communication is always key.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Queer Nation

http://queernationny.org/history

The origins and timeline of one of the earliest adopter of “queer” as an empowering word

Physical Book

“Queer: A Graphic History”

Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele

An accessible read on the history of queer people, used to write  the “History of the Word” section

Online Article

Teenvogue.com/story/what-queer-means

A short piece that takes a more personal look at “queer” while also recognizing multiple interpretations

More Online Accounts

QueerCondensed.tumblr.com/tagged/the-queer-question

In case you want to see the words of people IDing as queer and talking about the term’s history, check out the post for this guide! Links there will take you to Tumblr posts that discuss the subject


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Asexuality Terms,” “Being Ace,” and “Understanding Ace” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a purple and gray color scheme.]

Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum version 1.1

This pamphlet focuses on ace identity, as well as identities related to asexuality such as gray-asexuality and demisexuality. As always, the pamphlet is 100% free to download and use.

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to the ace spectrum, ace positivity, an explanation about ace people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about ace individuals.

Updates: Formatting change, minor text fixes / edits

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Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum, A Condensed Guide

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Who Is This Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re trying to find a word to describe yourself. Perhaps a friend or a loved one gave this to you for a better understanding of asexuality and the asexual spectrum. No matter your reason for reading this, it’s made for you.

What If I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we cannot cover everything in a handout. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

Rightmost Interior: Asexuality Terms

Asexuality is an identity that indicates a lack of sexual attraction towards others. Not always a lack of a sex drive, or a lack of a want to have sex, but those things often come with asexuality as well.

Along with this, there’s the idea of the “asexuality spectrum,” or a range of other identities that are similar to asexuality. Some of those are included in this list of ace-related terms.

Ace:

A shorthand for “asexual”

Gray-asexual:

An ace-spectrum identity; someone who feels sexual attraction, but infrequently or for unknown causes

Demiasexual/Demisexual:

An ace-spectrum identity; someone who needs specific romantic or personal criteria met before feeling sexual attraction towards someone

Sex-Repulsed/Adverse*:

Someone who finds the idea of sex personally disgusting or unappealing

Sex-Indifferent*:

Someone who doesn’t  really care about sex

Romantic orientation:

How someone identifies in relation to who they’re attracted to romantically; different from sexual orientation

*These terms aren’t limited to ace people

Middle Interior: Being Ace

Asexuals and those in the asexuality spectrum (who will now be collectively called “aces” or “ace people”) are often forgotten about in society and even in LGBT communities, but they’re absolutely important and deserve to be listened to.

It can be hard to identify as ace in a society that focuses so much on sexuality and sex. Some are afraid that people will not love or accept them because of their identity. Others don’t feel “whole” as a person because of their lack of sexual attraction. This is wrong. Ace people are loved, feel love of many kinds, and generally live their lives exactly the same as everyone else. They just view sex in a different, often less important way than non-asexuals.

Identities are personal, and unique to each ace person. Some have sex, some don’t, and for different reasons. Some are open and proud of their identity, and for some it’s just a personal trivia fact. There’s no “right way” to be ace.

A Note on Talking About or To Ace People

Remember that ace people are the judges of their own identity. Do not assume or say that an ace person will find the “right person” some day and stop being ace. This implies that the ace person is just going through a phase or can’t figure out their own attraction.

Rightmost Interior: Understanding Ace

Non-ace people often question or ridicule ace identities because of a lack of understanding. Some can’t “get” them, or think they need to be “fixed.” These ideas often come from a belief that sex is vital to human beings and our society, when it’s not. Since not all people are sexually attracted to everyone, how hard is it to think of someone who’s not attracted to anyone? If it doesn’t bother the person who is ace, it should be of no concern to anyone else.

Another false idea is that ace people can’t feel love. Many ace people feel romantic attraction towards others, and romantic orientation has just as many possibilities as sexual orientation, including homoromantic, heteroromantic, biromantic, and more. Believe it or not, relationships don’t require sexual attraction to be healthy and happy. Additionally, there are so many kinds of love that aren’t romantic, like parental love and platonic love. Just because ace people have a different sense of sexual attraction doesn't mean they’re incapable of feeling.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Ace Terminology

Whatisasexuality.com/outreach/glossary/

General Information

Asexualityarchive.com

AVEN

Asexuality.org/home

Largest online asexual community, includes other resources on asexuality

Online Community

Apositive.org

Academia

Asexualexplorations.net

A more academic approach to asexual identity and the ace spectrum

UPDATE NOTE: This website has been suspended and cannot be accessed

Published on October 23rd, 2016


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Nonbinary Identity #2 (Identities and Definitions) - Pamphlet #7

In this pamphlet, you’ll find an explanation of what sets it apart from the first Nonbinary Identity pamphlet, definitions of common nonbinary identities, and a small exploration of the roots of the gender binary.

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Nonbinary Identity #2, a Condensed Guide

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Who is this Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re nonbinary or questioning your gender identity and want some words. Maybe you’ve been given this by a friend or loved one who wants to help you understand different nonbinary identities. Maybe you’re just curious. Whoever you are and whatever your reason, this pamphlet is for you.

What if I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

Published on January 12th, 2017

Rightmost Interior: About this Pamphlet

Why is this pamphlet #2?

Nonbinary identity is a complex concept and requires both knowledge of general transgender identity as well as several unique concepts and took the entire first pamphlet to explain it. We had to leave out definitions of individual identities. If you’re reading this looking for a word for yourself, don’t be afraid to experiment! Research the terms, talk to others with the identity or identities you’re interested in, and ask supportive friends to help you explore your gender. If you’ve been given this by another person to help understand something, ask them if there’s a specific identity they want you to focus on. Once you read the descriptions, talk to them. See what their identity means to them.

Why are there so many words?

Humans like to describe themselves with specific words - just look at the popularity of online personality quizzes. Nonbinary people feel differently about gender than what is accepted, but not all nonbinary people feel the same. There are many ways to experience gender, and therefore many words to describe it.

Disclaimer: This is not a comprehensive list of identities, and definitions are generalized and may not match every individual’s sense of their gender.

Middle Interior: Terms and Definitions

Genders

Nonbinary

Both an umbrella term for any gender that’s not fully male or fully female, but also an identity by itself used by people who feel neither fully male or fully female. A more broad identity, like “queer.” Generally defined as a transgender identity, but not all nonbinary people identify as transgeder.

Agender / Neutrois

Being genderless or gender-neutral. Not in-between male and female, but removed from that binary entirely. Note: some use these terms interchangeably, but some have distinctions between the two. The differences, or lack thereof, are up to the individual and the communities of the identities.

Genderfluid

Having a gender identity that changes and moves between several identities. A genderfluid individual’s identity may change rapidly or slowly, but it is most definitely not fixed.

Genderflux

Similar to genderfluid, but the individual’s gender either fluctuates between a set number of genders or fluctuates in intensity.

Demigender

Having a gender that is mostly, but not entirely, a certain gender. “-gender” may be replaced with the specific gender one feels close to. For example, a demiboy identifies partially as a boy, but not completely as one. Often, this “other” part of the identity is nonbinary itself in some way.

Leftmost Interior: More Terms and Definitions

Genders (cont.)

Bigender / Trigender / Polygender

Identifying with two, three, or multiple genders. These can be any genders at all and the individual can feel as if they are a blend of their multiple genders or switch between them. Similar to genderfluid in some senses.

Genderqueer

Not identifying with traditional genders. Genderqueer individuals feel like they cannot be defined by the categories of “male” and “female” or are not constrained by them.

Eurocentricism and Gender

Many non-European cultures and countries have concepts of gender that include identities besides male and female. Two-Spirits in some Native American tribes and Hijras in South Asian countries are two more well-known examples. These identities aren’t really “nonbinary,” as the gender binary is a European concept, but they’re important to include nonetheless, as they are potential gender options for people of those cultures.

Pronouns

What someone is referred to in the third person besides their name. He/him, she/her, and they/them are common pronoun sets. Other pronoun sets, or neopronouns, include xe/hir and ey/em, and others.  It’s important to respect these at all times, and apologize without making it a huge deal if you make mistakes.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Visibility, Education, and Advocacy Network

nonbinary.org

UPDATE NOTE: This website no longer exists

Awareness, Information, and Resources

genderqueerid.com

For those struggling with the pressures of the binary gender system

practicalandrogyny.com

Information Center

lifeoutsidethebinary.com

Exploring identity beyond the gender binary

neutrois.me

Nonbinary Pamphlet #1

This pamphlet is dedicated to specific identities and their definitions, but Queer Condensed has a first pamphlet that goes over nonbinary identities more generally. Find it on our website, queercondensed.tumblr.com


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Nonbinary Identity” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Nonbinary Terms,” “Being Nonbinary” and “Understanding Nonbinary” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a green, purple, and yellow color scheme.]

Nonbinary Identity version 1.1

In this pamphlet, you will find: basic terms and definitions about nonbinary identity (not including specific nonbinary identities), nonbinary positivity, an explanation on nonbinary people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about nonbinary individuals.

Updates: Changes in pamphlet layout and text sizing, minor text changes.

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Nonbinary Identity, a Condensed Guide

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Who Is This Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re trying to find a word to describe yourself. Perhaps a friend or a loved one gave this to you for a better understanding of nonbinary people. No matter your reason for reading this, it’s made for you.

What If I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

 Published on January 11th, 2017

Rightmost Interior: Nonbinary Terms

“Nonbinary” is both an identity and a term. Someone who identifies as nonbinary feels like their identity doesn’t fit in the gender binary, or the two strict identities of male/man or female/woman. Nonbinary is also used as an “umbrella” word to mean any of the many identities that aren’t one of the two gender binary options. There are so many individual nonbinary identities that we simply can’t fit in this pamphlet. Some general nonbinary-related words are:

Assigned Female at Birth (AFAB)

Someone who was declared a girl/female as an infant

Assigned Male at Birth (AMAB)

Someone who was declared a boy/male as an infant

Transgender

An individual who does not completely identify with the gender they were assigned at birth; includes nonbinary people

Cisgender

Someone who completely agrees with their assigned sex at birth; not nonbinary

Gender Non-Conforming (GNC)

Someone who doesn’t follow the expectations of their gender, or of gender in general

Gender Neutral Pronouns

Pronouns that are not she/her or he/him, including they/them, xe/xir, ey/em, and others.

Middle Interior: Being Nonbinary

Identifying as nonbinary means thinking about gender in a way that most people don’t, and sometimes using identities that nobody has ever heard of. That doesn’t mean nonbinary people don’t deserve understanding, respect, and love.

Being nonbinary, like being a transgender man or woman, can include changes to oneself or “transitions,” including (but not limited to): picking a new name, using  different pronouns, wearing different clothes, taking certain hormones, undergoing surgery or surgeries, and legally changing gender. It’s up to the individual to do any, all, or none of these things, and no one is more or less nonbinary than others because of it.

Often, nonbinary people explore different words for their identities, change pronouns, etc, or simply feel different about their gender at different points of their life. Some people call this “faking” or think nonbinary people are confused, but experimentation is natural and nothing to be ashamed of. All nonbinary experiences are valid.

Talking About or To Nonbinary People

It’s always better to ask than assume for anything - name, pronouns, gender, etc. Using a name or set of pronouns someone doesn’t  use can hurt,  regardless of intent. Also, avoid using “transgendered,” “transvestite,” or “transsexual,” except for people who explicitly use those words for themselves.

Leftmost Interior: Understanding Nonbinary

Both understanding and explaining nonbinary identities can be hard for many reasons. For one, “nonbinary” covers many individual identities, some that are polar opposites. For another, someone that’s not “male” or “female” goes against everything we typically think about gender. Struggling with the concept is okay.

Nonbinary people are not using words like “agender” and “genderfluid” to feel unique or special, they’re doing it to describe their experiences as human beings. One way to think about gender is to imagine a diamond with the points of “male,” “female,” and “other” and “neither,” like the one on the cover of this pamphlet, and someone’s gender being a point inside of it. This isn’t the perfect way to visually explain nonbinary genders - it doesn’t describe absolutely everyone’s possible genders - but thinking that someone can exist anywhere inside of that gender diamond gives a much better picture than just thinking of “men” and “women” as two separate and exclusive categories.

It’s important that you ask questions and seek answers for yourself. Talk to nonbinary people, read the resources on the back of this pamphlet, do something to increase your knowledge. Nonbinary people are important and worthy of understanding, and it’s in your hands to recognize that.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Visibility, Education, and Advocacy Network

nonbinary.org

UPDATE NOTE: This website no longer exists

Awareness, Information, and Resources

genderqueerid.com

For those struggling with the pressures of the binary gender system

practicalandrogyny.com

Information Center

lifeoutsidethebinary.com

Exploring identity beyond the gender binary

neutrois.me

Nonbinary Pamphlet #2

Queer Condensed has a second nonbinary-related pamphlet, which gives examples and definitions of some of the many nonbinary identities not explored in this pamphlet. Find it on our website, queercondensed.tumblr.com


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Transgender Identity, A Condensed Guide” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Transgender Terms,” “Being Transgender,” and “Understanding Trans” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a blue,  purple, and pink color scheme.]

Transgender Identity version 1.1

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to transgender identity, transgender positivity, an explanation about trans people for those who don’t understand them, and resources about and for trans individuals.

Updates: Changes in pamphlet layout and text sizing, minor text changes.

Click here to download pamphlet files!

The original Publisher files may be requested through our ask box for modification. If you download, please reblog!

The text can be read below the readmore, formatted in the intended reading order.

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Transgender Identity, a Condensed Guide

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Who Is This Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re questioning your gender. Maybe you’ve been given this by a friend or loved one who wants to help you understand transgender identity. Maybe you’re just curious. Whoever you are and whatever your reason, this pamphlet is for you.

What If I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

Published January 12th, 2017

Rightmost Interior: Transgender Terms

“Transgender” is both an identity and an umbrella term for other identities. In general, a transgender person is someone who doesn’t completely identify as the gender they’re expected to. Here are some common transgender-related words and phrases:

Assigned Female at Birth (AFAB):

An individual who was announced as a girl/female as a newborn.

Assigned Male at Birth (AMAB):

An individual who was announced as a boy/male as a newborn.

Transgender male/man:

A transgender individual who identifies as male.

Transgender female/woman:

A transgender individual who identifies as female,

Nonbinary:

A transgender individual who does not identify strictly as male or female. This is also an umbrella term, and there are many kinds of nonbinary genders.

Cisgender:

Someone who completely agrees with their assigned sex at birth. Opposite of transgender.

Deadname / Birthname

The name a transgender person was once given, but no longer uses or identifies with.

Middle Interior: Being Transgender

Something to remember is that being transgender is deeply personal, and everyone experiences it differently. Common courses of action for transgender people include picking a new name, using a different pronoun, wearing different clothes, taking certain hormones, undergoing surgery or surgeries, and legally changing gender. But, not all transgender people desire to do all of these steps, or even any of them. Doing all, some, or none of the things above doesn’t make a person any more or less transgender than others.

One of the harder parts of being transgender is facing discrimination and a lack of support. Despite advances in transgender rights, there are many problems that transgender people face at home and in society. However, a big part of identifying as transgender is finding a community to feel safe and loved in, and a new host of words to accurately describe feelings that may be confusing and difficult to work though.

Talking About or To Trans People

It’s always better to ask than assume for anything - name, pronouns, gender, etc. Using a name or set of pronouns someone doesn’t  use can hurt,  regardless of intent. Also, avoid using “transgendered,” “transvestite,” or “transsexual,” except for people who explicitly use those words for themselves.

Rightmost: Understanding Trans

For many people, understanding transgender individuals is hard, and that’s okay.  Feeling confused or unsure about transgender topics isn’t shameful.

A common mistake is thinking that transgender people want to be another gender, such as a transgender man being a girl who wants to be a boy. Instead, imagine a girl who was told all her life that she was a boy and could only do boy things, even though she was confident in her gender. That is a much better way of understanding a transgender woman’s experience, for example.

Another harmful idea is that transgender people choose to be trans, or that you can fake being transgender. Even if someone seems indecisive about their gender and changes labels, names, or pronouns frequently, they are trans if they say they’re trans. Nobody chooses to be transgender; others choose how to respond to transgender people.

Most transgender people just want to be listened to. While some don’t want to talk about transgender topics, others want to be educators. It’s always important to ask permission before asking about personal details, but don’t be afraid to speak up when you don’t understand something!

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Transgender FAQ

HRC.org/resources/transgender-faq

Transgender Health

transhealth.ucsf.edu

Resources

Susans.org

A comprehensive collection of online transgender resources

Terminology

Transwhat.org/glossary

A wide variety of terms to describe trans experiences and identities, including some ambiguous, complex, and newly-coined ones

Transgender Wellbeing

Translifeline.org

A nonprofit dedicated to the wellbeing of transgender people, especially in times of crisis

Extra Info

AdvocatesForYouth.org


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Modifying and Crafting Unique Identities,” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Identity Modifiers,” “Why Modify an Identity?,” “Feelings Modifiers,” and “Creating Entirely New Identities” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a light green, turquoise, and purple color scheme.]

Modifying and Crafting Unique Identities - Pamphlet #6

Sadly, the last pamphlet we have planned at the moment. Future possibilities will be expanded upon in a post after this one.

This pamphlet is less about specific identities, including lists of modifiers for identities and validation for those looking to create their own. 100% free advice 100% free to download.

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Crafting and Modifying Unique Identities, A Condensed Guide

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Inside Flap

Who Is This Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Perhaps you have an identity that needs some modification to fully suit you. Maybe someone with an identity with unfamiliar parts wants you to read this to help you understand them better. Maybe you’re just curious. Whatever your reason for reading, this pamphlet is for you.

What If I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

Published on November 4th, 2016

Leftmost Interior: Identity Modifiers

Identity modifiers are prefixes and suffixes that can be added to or swapped out in some identities to change their exact meaning. Here are some of them, with example identities provided for reference:

Prefixes

Gray- (attraction)

Indicating infrequent or “hazy” feelings of attraction or gender (grayromantic)

Demi- (attraction or gender)

Indicating a need for a strong emotional bond with an individual before feeling attraction, or being close to (but not quite) a gender (demisexual / demiboy)

Suffixes

-fluid (gender)

Indicating an identity that is not set and may change often and easily (genderfluid)

-flux (attraction and gender)

Indicates attraction or gender that changes in intensity or moves between a small set of identities; more rigid than -fluid (aceflux / agenderflux)

-flexible (attraction)

Indicates possible but infrequent deviation from a certain type of attraction (homoflexible)

-proximal (gender)

Indicates that one’s gender is close to, but not fully a certain other gender (girlproximal)

Note: (gender) and (attraction) indicate what the modifier is usually attached to, not what it absolutely must be used with!

Middle Interior (top): Why Modify an Identity?

For some, having a very specific identity that better represents their feelings than the better-known identities is important. It can give the identifying individual senses of agency, pride, and security. Finding just the right label can be an incredibly freeing experience. Sometimes, this comes at a cost of not having a large or visible community that shares that particular identity, but a strong community isn’t important to everyone.

Having a modified identity can also be useful because it expresses gender and/or attraction better to peers and potential partners better. Modified identities can help explain certain behaviors, thought processes, and attractions.

Middle Interior + Rightost Interior (bottom): Feelings Modifiers

The most common way someone expresses their attraction is their sexual orientation, but some people have different kinds of attraction that differ from one another. Each of these are usually used with a suffix indicating type of attraction (aka homo-,bi-,a-, etc). This is not an exhaustive list.

-romantic

Who an individual can be romantically attracted to

-sexual

Who an individual can be sexually attracted to

-alterous

Who an individual has feelings towards that are not easily described as simply/strictly romantic or platonic

-sensual

Who someone can feel the want to be sensually (but not sexually) intimate with, such as being physically affectionate

Rightmost Interior (top): Creating Entirely New Identities

Sometimes, there just aren’t words that describe an individual’s attraction, gender, or general feelings. In those cases, an individual could come up with a new word to describe themselves. This can be an incredibly intimidating idea, mainly because there’s a fear that the new word won’t be taken seriously.

For those considering making a new word: go for it! Language is constantly evolving, and new words are added to the dictionary every year. Words are supposed to be tools for communication between humans. If there’s not a good word for how you feel, you have every right to make a new one.

For those encountering new, previously-unknown identities: have compassion and understanding for the individuals using words you might not know. Few people using an identity doesn’t give you the right to decide to accept and respect it or not. Taking time to learn and fully understand is completely acceptable. Deciding that the process of learning and understanding is too much work or not worth it is not.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Flags and Identities

Pride-color-schemes.tumblr.com

A collection of submitted pride flags for smaller / lesser-known identities, includes definitions of identities

Small / Personal IDs

Mogai-lexicon.tumblr.com

User-created or submitted identities with definitions

UPDATE NOTE: This blog is no longer functional and seems to be just a spam bot. Will be fixed if this pamphlet gets a proper update.

Note

Due to the nature of small / unique identities, there are only so many concrete resources we can provide. Topics such as the ones covered in this pamphlet require a lot of self-reflection and personal knowledge-seeking


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Bi, Pan, and Poly Orientations,” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Nonomono Terms,” “Nonmono Stereotypes,” and “Identity Differences” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a green, pink, and blue color scheme.]

Nonmono Identity (Bi, Pan, and Poly Orientations) - Pamphlet #5

This pamphlet covers the stereotypes shared by and the differences between nonmono identities like pan-, poly-, and bi-. Like the rest of the series, this pamphlet is free to download!

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Bi, Pan, and Poly Identities, A Condensed Guide

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Who Is This Pamphlet For?

Anyone who could find it useful. Maybe you’re trying to find a word to describe yourself. Perhaps a friend or a loved one gave this to you for a better understanding of their identity. No matter your reason for reading this, it’s made for you.

What If I Don’t Understand Something?

We, as the Queer Condensed team, strive to make our pamphlets as accessible as possible, and we include resources on the back panel of each pamphlet. However, we can’t cover everything in a handout. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help through our provided resources or another trusted source, like LGBT centers or knowledgeable individuals who are okay with answering questions.

Leftmost Interior

Nonmono

An umbrella term that describes any orientation where the person is attracted to more than one gender; used in this pamphlet to describe bi, pan, poly, and other identities

Multisexual / multiromantic

Same as nonmono

Bi-

Someone who can be attracted to:

· Two genders

· Two or more genders

· Their own and other genders

Poly-

Someone who can be attracted to multiple, but not all, genders

Pan-

Someone who can be attracted to all genders

Sexual orientation

The identity someone uses to describe who they’re sexually attracted to

Romantic orientation

The identity someone uses to describe who they’re romantically attracted to

Preference

A gender that a nonmono person is more inclined to be attracted to, even when they can be attracted to more than that gender

Middle Interior

Nonmono people are often assumed to be either straight or gay and just pretending to be both. The common association is that nonmono women are actually straight women wanting to “experiment” while nonmono men are gay and lying to themselves. In reality, not everyone fits into the categories of “gay” and “straight” and nobody should be expected to do so.

Additionally, nonmono people are always part of the LGBTQ community, if they choose to identify within it. Even when  a nonmono person is in a “straight passing” relationship, they are still bi, pan, poly, etc. Nonmono people are allowed to have preferences of gender while still being their individual identity.

Finally, nonmono people are  not automatically sexually promiscuous or romantically unfaithful because of their identity. Nonmono people can be attracted to multiple genders, this does not mean that they always are. Some may want multiple relationships, but that just means that they are polyamorous, not cheaters or greedy. This stereotype is offensive at best and personally dangerous to nonmono people at worst.

Polyamory?

Polyamory describes the ability to be in / desire for more than one consenting relationship at a time. It is not a nonmono orientation and is therefore not a part of this pamphlet.

Rightmost Interior

Since bi, pan, poly, and some other identities can be grouped under the umbrella of “nonmono,” many wonder why there’s separate words for such similar experiences.

The difference between pan and poly are simple: one means attraction to all genders, and the other means only some. The difficulty comes when trying to separate pan and poly from bi, especially when bi people use several different definitions of bi. The choice to identify specifically as one of the three, or another, similar identity, often comes down to community and association. The bi community is much older, larger, and more recognized than the pan and poly communities. Many bi people feel more comfortable in the bi community, or feel that bi identity is easier to explain.

On the other hand, many people assume that bi people only like men and women, with the exclusion of other existing genders. While this isn’t true for most bi people, pan and poly identities don’t carry this idea and that can be an important factor to nonmono individuals.

Ultimately, the difference between specific nonmono identities is up to the nonmono people who use them, and that should be respected.

Back Panel

Bi- Information

Bisexual.org

Biresource.org

Bisexualindex.org.uk

Pan- Information

Everydayfeminism.com/2014/11/pansexuality-101

Stop-homophobia.com/pansexuality.htm

Thepancommunity.tumblr.com

Poly- Information

Rationalwiki.org/wiki/Polysexuality

Officialpolysexual.tumblr.com

Published on November 13th, 2016


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Aromantic Identity and the Aromantic Spectrum - Pamphlet #4

Update:Due to errors in the original file and an accident on a team member’s part, the original version of this post was deleted. The mistakes have been corrected. Apologies for the inconvenience!

A pamphlet on aromantic and aro spectrum people and identities! It’s very similar to the asexuality pamphlet, but has many key differences. It’s free to download!

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Nonbinary Identity - Pamphlet #3

This pamphlet does not give individual identities and definitions, but instead focuses on the concept of nonbinary identity as a whole, how nonbinary people feel, and how to understand nonbinary identity.

In this pamphlet, you will find: basic terms and definitions about nonbinary identity (not including specific nonbinary identities), nonbinary positivity, an explanation on nonbinary people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about nonbinary individuals.

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Asexual Identity and the Ace Spectrum - Pamphlet #2This pamphlet focuses on ace identity, as well as

Asexual Identity and the Ace Spectrum - Pamphlet #2

This pamphlet focuses on ace identity, as well as identities related to asexuality such as gray-asexuality and demisexuality. As always, the pamphlet is 100% free to download and use.

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to the ace spectrum, ace positivity, an explanation about ace people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about ace individuals.

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Transgender Identity - Pamphlet #1 

Welcome to Queer Condensed! Starting today (10/23/16), we will be publishing one to two free-to-use pamphlets per week. These pamphlets will mainly focus on identity.

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to transgender identity, transgender positivity, an explanation about trans people for those who don’t understand them, and resources about and for trans individuals.

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The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8

In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.

This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.

Click here to download this and any other resource Queer Condensed has to offer.

As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!

Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:

 Link 1 Link 2 Link 3 Link 4

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Update to the newest addition to this blog. It already had an image description so I added the full text and made the links a bit bigger and easier to click on. One more day of these and then I’m on to writing the next material! Whatever that will be.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Transgender Identity, A Condensed Guide” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Transgender Terms,” “Being Transgender,” and “Understanding Trans” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a blue,  purple, and pink color scheme.]

Transgender Identity version 1.1

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to transgender identity, transgender positivity, an explanation about trans people for those who don’t understand them, and resources about and for trans individuals.

Updates: Changes in pamphlet layout and text sizing, minor text changes.

Click here to download pamphlet files!

The original Publisher files may be requested through our ask box for modification. If you download, please reblog!

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Here’s Wednesday’s update! Image description and full text added. All of the resources actually still work on this one, which is refreshing.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Nonbinary Identity” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Nonbinary Terms,” “Being Nonbinary” and “Understanding Nonbinary” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a green, purple, and yellow color scheme.]

Nonbinary Identity version 1.1

In this pamphlet, you will find: basic terms and definitions about nonbinary identity (not including specific nonbinary identities), nonbinary positivity, an explanation on nonbinary people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about nonbinary individuals.

Updates: Changes in pamphlet layout and text sizing, minor text changes.

Click here to download pamphlet files!

The original Publisher files may be requested through our ask box for modification. If you download, please reblog!

The text can be read below the readmore, formatted in the intended reading order.

Keep reading

Update 5 out of 9 (I have a lot more needing updates than I expected). Now including an image description and full text. This has the same issues as Nonbinary Identity #2 in that one of the resources no longer exists, but the others are just fine.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Nonbinary Identity #2, A Condensed Guide” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “About This Pamphlet,” “Terms and Definitions,” and “More Terms and Definitions” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a green, purple, and yellow color scheme.]

Nonbinary Identity #2 (Identities and Definitions) - Pamphlet #7

In this pamphlet, you’ll find an explanation of what sets it apart from the first Nonbinary Identity pamphlet, definitions of common nonbinary identities, and a small exploration of the roots of the gender binary.

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Day 4 of updates! As with the others, there’s now an image description and the full text of the pamphlet under a readmore. One of the websites no longer exist and several are no longer updated. I’ll have to figure out a solution for that without completely redoing the pamphlet.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Asexuality Terms,” “Being Ace,” and “Understanding Ace” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a purple and gray color scheme.]

Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum version 1.1

This pamphlet focuses on ace identity, as well as identities related to asexuality such as gray-asexuality and demisexuality. As always, the pamphlet is 100% free to download and use.

In this pamphlet, you can find: terms and definitions relating to the ace spectrum, ace positivity, an explanation about ace people for those who don’t understand them, and resources for and about ace individuals.

Updates: Formatting change, minor text fixes / edits

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The original Publisher files may be requested through our ask box for modification. If you download, please reblog!

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Update #3! Added an image description and the full text. One of the websites is no longer up unfortunately, but all the other resource links work.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Modifying and Crafting Unique Identities,” with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There are sections entitled “Who is this pamphlet for?” and “What if I don’t understand something?” and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Identity Modifiers,” “Why Modify an Identity?,” “Feelings Modifiers,” and “Creating Entirely New Identities” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a light green, turquoise, and purple color scheme.]

Modifying and Crafting Unique Identities - Pamphlet #6

Sadly, the last pamphlet we have planned at the moment. Future possibilities will be expanded upon in a post after this one.

This pamphlet is less about specific identities, including lists of modifiers for identities and validation for those looking to create their own. 100% free advice 100% free to download.

Click here to download pamphlet files!

The original Publisher files may be requested through our ask box for modification. If you download, please reblog!

The text can be read below the readmore, formatted in the intended reading order.

Keep reading

Update! Post now includes an image description and the full text of the pamphlet under the readmore. Unfortunately, one of the links no longer works and is instead a spam blog. If anyone knows of any blogs that catalogue / discuss smaller and unique queer identities, please let me know so I can link to them and add them if I update the pamphlet! It’s hard to sift through all the search results of blogs mocking smaller identities and find ones that aren’t being awful.


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[Image Description:  A preview of a pamphlet entitled “Aromantic Identity & the Aro Spectrum, with the front and back laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the left page and sections titled “Aromantic Terms,” “Being Aromantic,” and “Understanding Aro Identity” on the right. The smaller text is too blurry to read. The entire pamphlet has a dark green, light green, and gray color scheme.]

Aromantic Identity & the Aro Spectrum version 1.1

This is an updated version of an earlier pamphlet on the same subject included in the original run of Queer Condensed. It serves as a basic overview of aromantic identity with definitions, validation for aro, arospec, and questioning readers, explanations of stereotypes, online resources, and more.

Updates are pretty extensive, including a formatting change, addition of “alloromantic” definition, color switch of yellow to gray to reflect the more commonly used aromantic flag, large portions of rewritten text, and minor changes to the suggested resources.

I could not have made this updated pamphlet without help from readers sending in corrections and suggestions. As someone who isn’t aro, the information that @aphobephobeand@kdkorz10211 provided was indispensable. I also want to thank them and @shes-cured for beta-reading it as well.

Click here for the list of all resources and to download the pdf of this pamphlet. If you download or use this, a reblog or link to this post would be much appreciated!

This work is free for noncommercial use as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested via ask or email if you’d like to edit the pamphlet yourself.

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Aromantic Identity & the Aro Spectrum, A Condensed Guide

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Version 1.1

Inside Flap

Summary

Aromantic identity is often lumped in with asexual identity, but the two are very different and deserve separate materials. In this pamphlet we focus on the former and look at what “aromantic” and “aromantic spectrum” means, the many types of love that exist outside of romantic love, some of the struggles and stereotypes of aromantic people, and how unique each aromantic person is from the next. We stress that aromantic people are complex and should not be boiled down to their romantic feelings as they often are.

A reminder: if you are aromantic, on the aromantic spectrum, or questioning your identity, you are valid and amazing!

Disclaimer

Queer Condensed is meant to be a guide, but in no way is anything in our pamphlets definitive. It’s hard to be definitive when you’re dealing with a subject that’s so subjective. Take what you read as an introduction and maybe check out the provided resources or ask people open to taking questions if you want to know more.

 Published on August 12th, 2017

Leftmost Interior: Aromantic Terms

“Aromantic” is an identity that indicates a lack of romantic attraction towards others. Along with this, there’s the idea of the “aromantic spectrum,” or a range of other identities that are similar to aromanticism. Some of those identities are included on this list of aromantic-related terms.

Aro / Arospec

Short for “aromantic” and “aromantic spectrum”

Grayaromantic / Grayromantic

An arospec identity; someone who has infrequent or hard-to-define romantic attraction towards others

Demiaromantic / Demiromantic

An arospec identity; someone who needs a strong bond with another before feeling romantic attraction towards them

Alloromantic

Someone who is not aro / arospec

Queer/Quasi-Platonic Relationship (QPR)* 

A relationship between two people that is not romantic, but stronger or more intimate than friendship

Squish*

An aromantic or platonic version of a romantic crush

Sexual orientation *

How someone identifies in relation to who they’re attracted to sexually; different from romantic orientation

*People who are not aro can also use these terms

Middle Interior: Being Aromantic

Aros and arospec people are frequently forgotten about or misunderstood, even in LGBT communities, but their lives and identities deserve attention.

Society places a lot of stress on the idea of romance and relationships, but that doesn’t mean aro people are without feelings. Many aro people find love and companionship in different ways, including friendships and QPRs. Some aro people even enter into romantic relationships with partners that understand that the feelings may not be the same on all ends. Some aros don’t make connections at all, but that doesn’t make them broken.

Each aro person’s experiences are unique. Some like physical affection, some find that too romantic or simply don’t want it. Some are open and proud of their identity, and for some it’s just a personal trivia fact. Some discover their identity early in life and others realize much later. Some find love in non-romantic ways, others don’t feel any sort of desire for it. There is no “right way” to be aro or arospec, just as there’s no “right way” to be other identities.

Talking About or To Aro People

Aro people are the judges of their own identity. Do not assume or say that an aro person will find the “right person” some day and stop being aro. This implies that the aro person is just going through a phase or can’t figure out their own attraction.

 Rightmost Interior: Understanding Aro Identity

Alloromantic people often question or ridicule aro identities because of a lack of understanding. This usually comes from the belief that romantic relationships or feelings are vital to being human when they’re really not. Not everyone goes about having romantic feelings in the exact same way, so aro people aren’t an abnormality, just experiencing feelings that are uncommon. If it doesn’t bother the aro person, it shouldn’t be of concern to anyone else.

Common stereotypes of aro people include that they are being difficult, they are bad at socializing, they are incapable of feelings, those that have sexual relationships are manipulative, and they are unhappy. Consider that these stereotypes ignore these kinds of love:

* Platonic  * Parental * Sexual

* Familial * Aesthetic * Queerplatonic

These ideas also make it seem like humans can be boiled down to how we engage in romantic relationships, which just isn’t true. Thinking only in terms of who one loves is incredibly limiting and harmful to those who don’t experience certain/any types of love.

Aro and arospec people are in need of kindness and understanding as they navigate a world unforgiving to them, not an insistence that their feelings are wrong. Prejudice and unearned anger are wrong, not them.

Back Panel: Helpful Resources

Aro Glossary

Arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/glossary

Aromantic Wikipedia

Aromantic.wikia.com

Aromantic FAQ

Aaceclub.tumblr.com/aromanticism*

More on Romance Repulsion

Romance-repulsed-aros.tumblr.com

Additional Resources

QueerCondensed.tumblr.com/tagged/asexual

Our pamphlet on asexuality has many resources that, although not aro-specific, contain information about the aro community. Check it out for a few more websites to look at!

Thank You!

This updated version of this material couldn’t have been done without reader input, especially that of Tumblr users Aphobephobe and Kdkorz10211

*This blog is no longer active, but the information is still relevant


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