#queerphobia mention
We also need to tell queer teens shit. Here’s a list. I’m tired
-you don’t need to lose ur virginity at whatever age
-you don’t need to date the only other queer kid in ur school
-queer people can b problematic. And abusive.
- people who are queer in one way can still be queerphobic in another way (ex: wlw TERFs)
- it’s not cishets’ place to decide the right way to express your queerness
- it’s especially no one’s place to decide what’s too masculine or feminine for you
- gender presentation does not equal gender identity. You can look however you want even if it doesn’t “match” your gender
- there will always be an asshole gatekeeping and telling you you’re not queer enough. They are an asshole and should be ignored
- pedophiles still exist in the queer community
- the only person who decides when/if you come out to your friends and family is you
- people can be queer and still be queerphobic in THAT way. You internalize shit and that’s gotta be worked on.
- “Phases” are absolutely ok and are actually a natural part of exploring your identity. Don’t feel ashamed for changing and growing as you discover yourself, and don’t shame others for it either.
- There’s nothing wrong with ID’ing as Ace or Aro as a teen. The possibility of you being a “late bloomer” doesn’t invalidate how you feel right now, and please don’t feel like you need to push yourself outside of your comfort zone just to fit in or earn others’ approval.
- There’s no shame in staying in the closet if the closet is keeping you safe.
