#swinger advice
Probably because of the curious and explorative attitude we have always approached swinging with, this isn’t a concern we’ve had ourselves, but it is one we’ve seen time and time again on swinger forums, and have even had curious vanilla friends ask this question when they’ve discovered we’re involved in the swinging lifestyle. The question often asked is, what if your partner prefers sex with a playmate over sex with you?
Radical honesty is the foundation of ethical non-monogamy. This doesn’t mean indiscriminate broadcasts of how you’re feeling or what you’re thinking, but thoughtful and honest conversations with yourself, your partner, and your playmates.
The secret to a healthy swinger relationship is to always be learning. You should be learning about your significant other, learning about other people, and learning about yourself.
There’s a couple of things you should know as a swinger, especially if you’re new to the lifestyle. If you want to enjoy yourselves and understand others, you should know these things.
In this increasingly digital world we’ve become obsessed with a desperate attempt to replace the physical community we’ve lost, with some kind of digital alternative. Our deep desire for a sense of belonging is evidenced by the millions of people that flock to Facebook every day to get a quick fix from their tribe. It doesn’t matter if it’s a private message or a public broadcast, we just need to know that we’re wanted, and we need to feel understood.
Swingers are no different in our need to feel understood, but the way we use technology to connect is unique in a couple of important ways.
Having now have been a part of the lifestyle for nearly a decade, this website has recently given Al and I a great reason to reflect on our experiences. We’ve crunched the numbers on just how many people we have had sex with (we’ll keep those details for our subscribers!), rerun fantasies that we had forgotten about, and recalled scenarios both funny and illuminating that, in retrospect, were obviously turning points in our relationship, values and beliefs about sex, love, intimacy, and swinging.
Read Five things I wish I knew when we first started swinging on SwingersExtra.com.
