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These days when we’re meeting a couple for the first time we always do after dinner drinks, never dinner itself. Why shouldn’t you meet over dinner? Lots of reasons.
An old friend once likened attraction to women to a beautiful sunset. Just because you saw an amazing sunset last night doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate the sun setting right now. Why shield your eyes from someone beautiful? And as a swinger, take the opportunity to share your feelings with your partner, and who knows, maybe they’ll help you chat them up and you may be able to fulfill your fantasy.
Mrs Cayenne and I were in our late teens when we met. Tho we both had some sexual experience, Em was a virgin, and I could barely call myself experienced. We grew close quickly, and were soon very much in love. We couldn’t believe our luck, finding someone so perfect so young. Before long we had moved in together, and circumstances kept bringing us closer. We were very, very happy.
I had been at work all day and was unaware of the photo swapping and tantalizing that had been taking place between Al Bien and Mr Fig. My first inkling that something was being arranged was a message from Al at 6:20pm, checking what time I was finishing up and letting me know that Mr Fig was available to take me home. Turned out that Mr Fig was working nearby that day, and the thoughts of organizing a spontaneous rendezvous was all too enticing.
We’ve already reviewed AdultMatchMakerandRedHotPie, but know that they primarily cater to Australian audiences, and a large number of our visitors are from overseas. Luckily there’s an international adult dating web site that we use regularly, and therefor know well enough to review, and that web site is AdultFriendFinder.
Happy New Year from Sydney, Australia! What are your swinger related resolutions for 2015? If you haven’t already, we would first suggest you sign up to a reputable swinger or adult dating web site.
We recommend AdultMatchMakerandRedHotPie for Australian swingers, or AdultFriendFinder for those overseas or looking to travel. Here’s a few more suggestions from SwingersExtra.com.
We’vealready mentioneda few ways you might modify your swinger profile to increase your chances of attracting compatible playmates, but here’s another quick tip.
It was 2004 and a few weeks after I had met Mrs Cayenne I was off on a preplanned backpacking trip around Thailand. I enjoyed my time there so much that the following year Mrs Cayenne and I went together. Both trips were seminal in so many ways, the trip with Mrs Cayenne especially so.
Read more about the first time we saw another couple have sex.
The last few months have been fun! Although it has been a lot of work writing these articles and getting the web site up and running, it’s added a whole new dimension to our swinging life, and has brought us together in ways we hadn’t anticipated.
Because of this, we have started recommending that all our swinger friends start their own blogs, and you should to! Here’s why
Probably because of the curious and explorative attitude we have always approached swinging with, this isn’t a concern we’ve had ourselves, but it is one we’ve seen time and time again on swinger forums, and have even had curious vanilla friends ask this question when they’ve discovered we’re involved in the swinging lifestyle. The question often asked is, what if your partner prefers sex with a playmate over sex with you?
As a swinger, as often as you worry about getting an STI, if you’re female, you probably worry about getting pregnant.
In this post Em Cayenne discusses the tricky issue of pregnancy, and the various ways of dealing with it.
Last week I talked about what happens when someone in your life recognises you from your swinger profile, and concluded that for the most part, if they’ve found you they are very much in the same boat, so there’s nothing to worry about.
But what if they aren’t in the same boat? What if they discovered your profile by accident, just by browsing the web, or innocently searching your name to see what you’ve been up to recently?
When we first started swinging one of our major concerns was the idea that friends or family members might stumble across our profile, and recognise us through our pictures or other personal information. Talking to others during and since that time, it seems to be a concern common to many other swinger couples and singles.
We’ve got so many swinger stories to share, and we’ve learned so much in the ten years we’ve been playing with other couples and singles, and we want to share all our stories and pictures and tips and tricks, even tho some of them are a little… intimate. After lots of talking we’ve decided we would bare all, but instead of making it public public, we’ve decided to opt for a private public approach haha.
OK, so here’s the next installment in of our swinger and adult dating web site review series. Last time we reviewed AdultMatchMaker, this time we’re looking at another swinger site that caters to the Australian adult dating market, RedHotPie.RedHotPie is another site that is close to our heart. Tho it wasn’t the site that started our journey, it is one that we subscribed to early on, and one of the few swinger sites we have returned to again and again throughout the years.
There’s lots to love about RedHotPie, not least of which is the fact that it’s by far the most active of all the Australian adult dating web sites. But there’s more to it than just sheer numbers. I sat down with a coffee and thought about why we continue to subscribe to this site, and use it more than almost any other. This is what I came up with.
Hopefully you enjoyed our first round of swingers profile tips, because we’ve got a few more for you! These tips will focus on your pictures, because despite personality playing a primary part in the attractiveness of any potential playmate, pictures are an essential part of every swinger profile on any adult dating web site.
Before starting this site, and even more since it’s launch, Mrs Cayenne and I have done a lot of research, looking for decent swinger community sites that we might be able to work with, or just generally refer our visitors to, but we’ve found nothing but ad sites full of spam. Thankfully we have found quite a few couples like ourselves, real couples sharing their experiences with others for the love of it, and that’s inspiring! So we’ll be sharing them on SwingersExtra.com.Read more about it here, and if you’re a swinger couple who wants to be featured, please check out our new submissions page!
The Chronicle and the New York Post are both reporting the discovery of a swingers club in an office building in the financial district of New York City.
There are now literally hundreds of adult dating sites on the net, and even when looking at those that cater to specific countries, it’s still not obvious which services are worthwhile and which are just a waste of time. Of course you could sign up to each and every one of them, go through the tedious process of creating a profile, and do the hard yards learning to use the features of the various sites, but even then certain features are not available until you’ve paid, and some sites don’t even allow you to sign up before taking your credit card details. How are you to know which are the worthwhile sites without wasting thousands of hours and spending thousands of dollars? Luckily we’re here to help. The first site that we’ve reviewed is the first swinger site we ever used, and a site we continue to use today: AdultMatchMaker.
These stories, be they memories or fantasies, are no small part of the swinging experience. They fuel sexual fires when recounted in intimate company, and when shared more widely inspire others to experiment, or at the very least spark peoples curiosities, and encourage a more accepting or open minded attitude towards other peoples sexuality. They’re also great fun to read and write.
Read about the Literotica and Swinger Stories on SwingersExtra.com.
