Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”
and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.
it’s so annoying and gross when white girls talk about how they “need to get a tan again!!!!” when poc who have naturally dark skin are bashed for being so
Do any other american high schoolers have intense survivor’s guilt and trauma with school shootings even though they weren’t at your school?
Like. A laser tag place opened geared towards teenagers and it got no business, we tried to enjoy it but when someone pointed a laser machine gun at me and I instinctively dropped behind the nearest wall and reached to turn off my phone I cried, I wasn’t the only one. The announcements system turns on at an unexpected time and everyone holds their breath until they say something besides “locks, lights, out of sight,” nobody even jokingly pops chip bags anymore, a door slammed really loud during a class change and everyone dropped and ran. Everyone cries during drills, even the toughest ranch kids. Every drill comes with a full day of teachers crying and telling us that they love us all so much and will die for us, and every kid in every class looking around wondering who would I die for? Who would die for me? You walk to the bathroom and wonder every second if it happens right now, where will I go? You test supply closet doors to see which ones are unlocked, you memorize which furniture in the teachers’ lounge your English teacher says is light enough to barricade a door with. The fire alarm goes off and nobody moves, instead you wait for gunshots—it a trap? You stand with a group of freshmen and realize that you’re the oldest, you know you’ll have to die for them. You forget your ID tag and worry that now the police won’t be able to tell your parents if you’re safe, or not safe. Your stats teacher has a baseball bat by the door, your math teacher keeps a stapler under each desk to throw, your drama teacher asks who will be willing to stand by the non-locking door with the Shakespearean swords. Your yearbook teacher tells you don’t worry about breaking a camera because you heard about the kids who died holding them. You don’t use the bathroom during classes because you don’t want to be the only target to shoot at. You keep your phone on silent 24/7 because you worry the one time you forget will be when you get your whole US History class killed. You have a snap saved with your class schedule and school and full name to send in an instant to your internet friends so they know if you were on that wing, you have a note saved with the things you want your mom to know and the things you’re sorry for. At the age of 12 I was told I needed to know who I would die for and that it was okay if it was nobody, that was my decision to make. School shootings control us more than adults and non-Americans could possibly imagine and nobody moves to change anything unless we’re actively screaming for it. Have you considered we’re too scared?
The absolute fuck. The fuck did I just read. This sounds like dystopian fiction. The fucking fuck.
It isn’t. This is 100% the reality of all American children - not the ones that live in bad neighborhoods, not the ones that make bad choices, ALL OF THEM.
Welcome to America.
My graduating class was 2010.
You know what we had to worry about?
Graduation. College admissions. Our grades. And not slipping up and getting ourselves or someone else pregnant.
This. This is heartbreaking. This is infuriating. This makes my entire being grieving and angry.
Why is gun ownership more important than the safety of children?! Why does anyone think this is okay?!
Wait, wait, I don’t go here, but you’re telling me Killing Eve is based on a series of novels that ended with the main characters in lesbians ever after, and the show specifically chose to ignore that helpfully provided conclusion to deliberately bury the gays??
Oh my God, y’all, I am so, so sorry. I only knew your fucked-up little gals from gifsets, but I was really rooting for them.
Outkast singing “If what they say is nothing lasts forever then what makes love the exception” in Hey Ya was too deep when it was released in 2003 and it’s still too deep today
the entire song is about dealing with fear and doubt, both self doubt and doubt of your partner, in a relationship like if you’re just staying with someone out of the fear of being alone (or vice versa) and the fact that many people make different excuses for themselves as to why they should want to be with someone, instead of just facing the truth of their feelings.
and the crazy thing is Andre 3000 really freaking played us all
after the line OP mentioned he goes “so why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh are we so in denial when we know we’re not happy here……….” then it immediately goes back into the HEYYYY YAAAA (which is usually what we all jump and sing to) BUT ACTUALLY in the background of this HEY YAAAA he says the greatest line ever that encompasses society’s consumption of pop music: “y’all don’t want to hear me, you just want to dance” - a line that i swear most people don’t even know exists in the song, i didn’t even realise til i searched up the lyrics just a year or so ago.
and it’s true.. everyone keeps thinking this is a fun dance song, blasting it while being unaware of it’s true nature - when it’s actually a really depressing, deep self and societal evaluation of love.
Everyone’s experience of this sort of thing is different. But for myself, I have found that since I emerged from the internet-based hibernation of my 20s and replaced a lot of my TV and video game consumption with live theatre and dance and city exploration and concerts and burlesque and parties, I am happier and more satisfied with existence than I have ever been in my life.
I will NEVER understand why people describe Murphy and Peña as “frenemies” when literally the first thing Javier did after meeting Steve was try to get justice for his dead cat,,,
The female Soviet chess champion Nona Gaprindashvili is suing Netflix for $5m for a line in its hit series The Queen’s Gambit that claimed she “never played men”, calling the assertion “grossly sexist and belittling”.
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In the series finale, a character says: “Elizabeth Harmon’s not at all an important player by their standards. The only unusual thing about her, really, is her sex. And even that’s not unique in Russia. There’s Nona Gaprindashvili, but she’s the female world champion and has never faced men.
Gaprindashvili, who is now 80 and lives in Tbilisi, Georgia, did face men. Dozens in fact. According to the lawsuit, she had faced 59 men, including 28 in one simultaneous match, as well as 10 grandmasters by the time the television series was set in 1968.
“They were trying to do this fictional character who was blazing the trail for other women, when in reality I had already blazed the trail and inspired generations,” Gaprindashvili said in an interview with the New York Times. “That’s the irony.”
